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Day 86. Just venting a little.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by MadHatter, Aug 20, 2015.

  1. MadHatter

    MadHatter Fapstronaut

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    I suddenly got this huge craving, out of nowhere. Not once did I fool myself into thinking this will be easy after so many years of self-abuse, but it always surprises me how the mind is just NOT WILLING to let go of cravings.

    I haven't felt a craving like this in a while, and I am sure this is because I am nearing 90 days. No doubt about it. The bruised mind is putting up one hell of a fight. So I am here, writing about it.

    It isn't as if I am expecting to wake up in a few days, on day 91, all "cured". There is nothing to cure, it is simply a matter of living and carrying on. And I knowthat, but I still cannot shake my past. I hope and pray that in time I will be able to format parts of my mind, so that the images and scenes won't impede me in my duty towards myself.

    I thought of a certain porn star today, after not thinking of her for a long time. The urge to see her suddenly lit up like a Christmas tree (or a Hanukkah menorah on the 8th day), dammit.

    So I came here, and I am writing, and even as I am writing I can feel the throes of withdrawal. It is difficult. Even after 86 days, and in an immensely satisfying sexual marriage - it is so very difficult!
     
  2. Real_OGH

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    wow 86 days. stay strong, don't give up!!!
     
  3. You got this - you don't get to 86 days without having what it takes.
     
  4. MadHatter

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    Thanks, @Real_OGH At this point, I am in no immediate danger to pursue anything. I have been through too much to throw it away. I am just amazed at how the mind works...
     
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  5. MadHatter

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    For sure :)
     
  6. tweeby

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    I had the same, when approaching day 60. The body was urging me to relapse and then on day 60 I felt the need to binge.

    All I know is the longer we go, the longer we train, the better it becomes. An smoking addict will tell you the urge to smoke never really goes away. It still remains in the back of your mind. But that period of change, that period of self control, lays the foundation for an absolute change. Nothing more nothing less.

    Good luck brah, 86 is indeed impressive for someone like me who have only managed 60 tops.
     
  7. James24

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    I smoked for seven years and was an addict and I was unable to quit no matter what!!! Then I realized I had ED And thought it was the smoking and was immediately able to quit lol never once looked back and never had an urge again. Every now and then I think it would be nice to have something to do like smoking and smoking drunk was fun. But I never had an actual urge to do it again. So it might work the same here!
     
  8. MadHatter

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    Thanks, man. I am a great believer in positive change through positive thought and positive action. But, yes, I know that there is a chance that the images and scenes I saw will continue to be a part of my life, and that my greatest challenge will be to continue to turn away from them.
     
  9. FreedomIsHere

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    You can push through and make it man! 86 days is great, you've proven you can be consistent! Keep that up!
     
  10. Pixelated Victory

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    Treat urges like bullshit. They can't kill you if you don't give them what they want. You have absolute power over them. Starve those motherfuckers of what they want and they'll slowly die.
     
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  11. You are doing great 86 days is a good streak but I know things wont always be easier but you have to press on.You have reached this far and you cant turn back now.
     
  12. Karma

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    That's what nofap is for, vent away, here, in a safe manner. It beats collapsing and resorting to P.

    -K
     
  13. Phibz

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    This is what I needed. I felt stronger than ever last week. And today, I just entertained thoughts out of nowhere. I was in the middle of a grueling workout. I keep dismissing them. I don't think I'm really fearing a relapse. But felt like I should share it for some reason. I wondered if anyone else was experiencing this. It just reminds me that this thing is powerful. Maybe it's a growing pain. Whatever...I have to always be alert. My old ways still want to sneak back in there once in a while. We just have to endure each test and hope to get through and be stronger for it. It's just another opportunity for growth.
     
  14. 8BitsOfStuggling

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    While they always will progressively get easier my friend, I don't think unless we are at minimum a year out that we can consider ourselves "sober" per se in regards to PMO.
     
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  15. MadHatter

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    Thanks for your positive vibrations, NoFap.
    Very much appreciated. Even if I feel I was in no immediate danger, I know full well how relapses start. They can start with something so small, so insignificant, which is left unchecked. It was just a passing thought, but it bothered me. At any rate, it felt good to vent, and I give thanks for your kind support.

    Day 88. This Mad Hatter just keeps on truckin'.
     

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