Saturdays Seem to Be My Relapse Day

Cmon m8 its time to fight

This ends now

 

That's a tough call man...

I've been working on other areas of my life for a few years now with little success with women. Some time next year I should be finished with studies, renting again, and have the opportunity to get out there and meet women without feeling like I'm not ready.

I'm waiting on the freedom of my own apartment, and I need a bit more social practice too if I'm honest. I wonder if there's specific things that are holding you back too? Something about your appearance? Your communication style? Are you approaching women in the wrong demographics maybe?

You can also change your mindset: Change your definition of success in this area of your life.

You currently see success = bringing a woman home or having a good date?

Why not change success = furthering your social experience with women?

This way, each time you get out there and meet women (which let's face it, a lot of us struggle to do at all!), you are getting results and progress.

 

So in your first post your thoughts were, despite meeting girls you "still go home by yourself". This would indicate you have a measurement for success that means if girls come home with you you're winning, but if not then you're losing.

It could be a lot less stressful to just make the measurement for success something simpler. Such as "having a good time with girls". So when you go out and have a few interesting conversations, it's still valuable to you.

It's not avoiding your end goal, but just appreciating more of your journey along the way.