I Hate being a Man !

Okay... okay...

Good luck on your journey!

 

Hey dude, I don't think this is a very healthy way to look at things. There are a lot of messed-up gender norms in our society but I don't think it helps anything to dwell on how you feel victimized by that. I think you can have self-value without validation from the opposite sex or whoever else you're attracted to. I think the fact that a woman is not dependent on you doesn't devalue you, because you have value as a unique individual seeking to do their best in this world, not just as a man who provides for a household. I honestly think it's pretty toxic to think of those who aren't of your sexuality as a group that you are not a part of, because we're all human individuals who deserve each others' love and respect. Regardless of whether or not I agree with your reasons for hating being a man, I think you can still embrace and find joy in who you are! If focusing so much on sex and validation from women is making your life feel meaningless, maybe you could find meaning elsewhere.

Much love, man!

 

This is a man's world and despite all the progress that has been made it will likely never change, being a man is basically winning the lottery. For a man as you age and get wealth & experience things get brighter and brighter and you will in all likelihood get some young lass no such luck for women, only those who are not superficial will choose a women of their own age most will marry way below them.

 

I am pretty sure, if you were a woman, you won't attract any good men with such a bad attitude.
Your gender isn't your problem, your attitude is.

 

Ok I'ma stop you right there. I could have stopped earlier, but this here. This proves, and I say this with all love and respect I can muster, you haven't a clue.

It takes a TON of resources for women to look the way the girls you're thinking of look. It's money, time, and effort. Clothes, products, learning how to apply and assemble all of it, staying on top of all the trends... my dude. Men's fashion hasn't changed in decades. Looking presentable takes literal minutes. Do you know how long it takes for women to apply makeup? You don't even have to deal with that part. Brush your hair- man, cut it short and you don't even have to brush it and it's acceptable. Take a shower, keep your nails trimmed, and don't dress like a hobo, bam, you're better than 75% of the rest of the male population while women... you don't even know and working out? Testosterone, my dude, is one hell of a drug and I'm not talking about the effects on your mind though it does do that too. Testosterone makes you build muscle mass like, three times faster than women. My wife made me work out with her a few times back in the day, then she kicked me out of her gym because I was getting results way faster and it made her jealous & sad.

As a man, you have a completely different relationship to sex. If you were a woman you wouldn't want to have sex in the first place, unless it was to get something else like intimacy or money. I don't know if it's cultural expectations or that testosterone mentioned earlier, but men are usually the ones who just want to bone and don't think much about the details. That's why we're the target for P, not women. Sure, you get outliers, but for the most part women don't care much for S for S's sake.

See my previous point, but really? If you want to be a beautiful man that's fully in your grasp. You can put effort into your appearance. Lots of men do that, and women love it. Self care shows you value yourself, shows confidence, women like that.

Your lack of ego & self respect is not because you aren't a woman. It's because you haven't hit your stride as a man. That's okay, too, it takes time and thought to figure this guy thing out. You'll get there, though. Don't blame it on not being a woman, though. Women struggle with ego and self respect too, more publicly than men I might add.

Again, women have a different relationship with S than men do. It's just facts. And you're right, it's frustrating being a guy, you want S NOW and you can't. And it seems like a terrible deal, having to wait so long and work so hard for a thing that isn't certain. That's part of being a man but know what? That's also part of being a woman. They're looking for a steady provider who will treat them like a human being instead of a dirty sock, who won't end up... cheating on them in the end. That's life. Life is hard for everyone. I'm sorry, there's no refunds either it's just... this.

Guys do shit. We build, we fix, we discover, we sell, we kill, we make shit happen. Women do too, it's not like they're incapable, but men love doing shit. Women love talking about shit. They love caring about you and one another and checking in if you're good? and that's important too, relationships are important. And it's not like men are incapable of that either, we do that. But as a rule, men love doing and we are the ones who get it done, and women love making sure everyone is okay. I'm probably going to feminist hell for saying that, but that's what the evidence shows, at least in my opinion.

Being a man is great. Being a man means having a hunger to make something of yourself, to be the best in your field or at least better than the other guy. Being a man means joy in the doing, and not needing the validation of someone else to know you are doing the best you can on the way to accomplishing something great.

They don't have to go into S work, they can earn money by building and selling and discovering too, and they do but that's beside the point. The point is they can, but they don't want to. Most women still want to have kids, most will make career sacrifices to make room for those kids, and a lot of women would adore a man that made enough so they could stay at home.

Don't waste your time with any women that think you're vermin. They exist, sure, but you don't have to deal with them.

If a woman prefers using a toy to a real man, it's because they've been disappointed by real men. If you get good at communication in the bedroom, you can change her mind. Virtually guaranteed.

... No argument. Maybe not for the reasons you state here, but... no argument.

You strike me as a young guy, and I don't want to sound patronizing. I'm not patronizing. The mental place you're at is real, the frustration is real, the rage... I get it man. I get it all, I've been there. But I think your conclusions are built on incomplete knowledge. You need to watch your sources, YouTube is full of angry men who had bad experiences with women, and they want to share their misery with you. Don't let them. Sure, there's awful women out there and with the Internet we can find them all. Don't let that color your perception, though. There's amazing women out there too, women who can appreciate a good man. But you have to make yourself into a good man in order to be appreciated.

Quit P, that's a good place to start. A hard thing to accomplish, but you can do it, and you can invest all that extra time and energy in improving yourself, building yourself into something magnificent to behold. I'm not talking just physically either, I mean being a kind but strong person, a patient but decisive person, an educated person, a thoughtful person, someone any woman would look at and say "Wow, I wish that guy would talk to me." You can do that. You have plenty of time. But blaming other people for your problems and feeling sorry for yourself, that will not get you where you want to be. Never. Complaining about being a man is a real bitch move, you can be better than that.

 

Am I having a deja vu?

I think you have already commented that somewhere, right?

Or maybe... I saw the future when I was in the past.

 

I very well could have made a strikingly similar comment in the past. I'm not terribly original with my rhetoric. I even borrowed it from Kanye West, when he drunkenly interrupted the Grammy's, I think it was? to say Beyonce deserved the award instead of Taylor Swift. So that phrase is definitely floating in the zeitgeist and I most likely have used it before.

 

I love being a man, I'm very much proud of it. Being a man is blessing. We are the leaders, we are the real carriers of creative energy in this world. But, we forgot about that becouse we became obsessed by sexuality and female energy. We are losing our mojo, and turning ourselfs in little crying girls. So, be proud of who you are my brother...

 

Yes I do have a girlfriend, and I had them in past. But there was the time when I was very much lonley, when I was very sad and depressed all the time. So, I started to work on myself.
I practiced SR from january 2020., since then I worked out very hard, I ate healthy, meditated every day and 14 months later I met this girl. She is all I could ever wish for. The point is that you must truly work on yourself and the universe will award you sooner or later. You just need hard work and patience. No you are not ugly, you just don't believe in yourself bro. Because of that your energy is unattractive, but you can change that just like I did - it is your call.
Stay strong bro.

 

Who stated women don't chase - lied .

 

The point is you are comparing yourself too much with women.

Stop that. Problem solved.

 

Porn has messed up ur mind m8

Time to get serious on nofap

 

Some do, there's no doubt about that, but others don't. And even if you fancy a girl who does have a lot of followers, you can be better than those guys simply by treating her as an equal, rather than a slave or a demigoddess to be revered on a pedestal. If she's worth your love she'll be drawn to that, if not, move on, she'll be missing out on a good man, it's her problem, not yours. With regards to us men, we don't need followers to succeed in our endeavours. We can feel the desire to want a girl who will be our equal in all things, that's great, but we don't need validation from anyone. We always have options.

You can appear beautiful to any respectable woman, by working on yourself, as others have said, and building yourself up on the inside. Women worth anyone's respect value men who maintain a balance between respecting others and respecting themselves, and would much rather go out with and make love with the ordinary-looking guy who treats everyone around him with kindness while also pursuing what he wants than a muscle-bound thug who goes around with a gang of buddies bullying those who don't look strong enough to beat him in a fight. Of course there are some girls who would allow themselves to be treated like a sex-slave by the latter sort of guys, but they are usually of one or more of the following categories:

• Emotionally immature
• Unintelligent
• Lacking in self-respect
• Suffering from past trauma
• Looking for sex without commitment

These women are not worth your love if they allow themselves to be treated this way, and if anything you should pity them. Getting angry at them only makes you as bad as the bad boy beta males who treat them like shit, because they are weak men who are societal delinquents.

Indeed I personally think working to boost yourself on the inside is more important than working out - throughout much of history we never had gyms, and the only physical exercise men got was manual labour and fighting in battle, which was still good exercise but not as regular or as rigorous as working out in a modern gym. They didn't have unnatural, steroid-infused gym-bods, yet they still got women and had offspring, because they were internally strong, weren't afraid to get out and interact with women, and also treated them with kindness and respect.

In fact, being a genuinely loving, kind, internally strong, assertive and committed man is more important than ever in today's society, because such men are so rare - by having this mindset you're proving yourself superior to all those other men who treat girls like sex objects, and any girl who sees, knows and appreciates this is without a doubt potential partner material. Just as there are good men out there, there are also good girls. They're rarer now, but they're still there. You just have to get out and look for them, just as they're probably looking for good men.

You can be this good man, simply by focusing on all your good attributes all the time. Go over them in your mind. Look at yourself in the mirror and recite "I am..." plus each of your good attributes, while giving yourself some eye-contact. Think about how you can show these attributes more when around others. Believe that you are a great man, and you can become one in the eyes of others too so long as you always be the best version of yourself. The right girl will see this, and know that your most attractive characteristics are just what she's been looking for.

You don't have to (indeed you don't need to do anything), and to be brutally honest you shouldn't touch wh*res with a ten-foot barge pole. They only love your money, and wouldn't give you the time of day if you had none. If you have any self-respect you will find someone who gives you the appreciation and love you deserve.

Well fortunately women don't hold looks in such high requirement as men do, at least not genuine women looking for love. Women are wired to respond more to behavioural and tactile stimuli than visual stimuli - they are innately attracted to men who behave strongly, confidently and respectfully around them, because these men are capable of providing both security and love to them.

I'm sorry to hear you've had such a bad time with women and other men, but it could easily be that you've just been forced to endure the wrong company. Not everyone is like those people who've treated you like shit, a lot of people are really friendly and respectful. I think you just need to regain some of your self-respect and exercise it by looking for new friends, friends who treat you the way you want to be treated. Again it's just about being internally strong - an internally strong man won't pick fights with those who treat him like dirt, or let them walk all over him, he will walk away, avoid them and hang around with people who do respect him. You can be that man, you just have to put the effort in.

If you were to do that, you'd be no better than the other wh*res around the world. You may think you'd enjoy it, but imagine if you were a gay man and had other men continually bum-fucking you - that's just what it would be like if you were a woman who embarked on the lifestyle you describe, just in a different hole (or even the same one). There'd be no love and no real intimacy there, just the continual feeling of being pumped and dumped. Nobody who has any self-respect should let themselves be treated that way, or treat others in such a fashion. And if a girl cheats on you, leave her, she obviously was never meant to be the right one for you. Exercise your strength in this way, and she'll rue the time she ever spread her legs for that bad boy beta weakling.

They can do, but how do you think these women feel? Do you think they feel accomplished? Successful? Content? I don't think many of them do. Women are still human, and humans desire companionship, and offspring to continue their bloodline. The only way to get both of these is through a committed partner of the opposite gender, and while these women work alone in their career, or allow themselves to be ravaged by men who don't respect them as anything other than their next conquest, they aren't achieving those desires. Their existence will feel shallow and unfulfilled until they meet a man who can give them what they're looking for.

We are certainly not vermin in the eyes of all women. Only female supremacists, lesbians and dominatrices view us as such. The rest all see us as their one chance of finding emotional and physical intimacy, and having offspring that continue their genes. If all women really did despise us, they would say no to these things from any man, the remaining human population would age and die, and we'd become extinct by the next century. Yet the human population is booming (rather too much so it could be said), and will continue to do so for the foreseeable future.

With regards to sex toys, women mainly use those are when they are single and lonely, just like we're tempted to bash the bishop when we haven't got a girlfriend (and on occasion use sex toys of our own - ever heard of a sex doll?). Loneliness in the romance department, particularly at our age (I know what it's like to be a horny youngster because I'm in the exact same age group as you, though at the moment thanks to COVID and PMO I'm feeling a little deprived of horniness ), is unpleasant to endure when all you want is to give a girl all the love and sexual attention you have within you, but so long you continue to do your best to enjoy life and build lasting relationships with others, you'll eventually find the right girl one day. I think patience is the keyword here.

I agree with you and @Meshuga that this society has become hedonistic and degenerate, but you can challenge the status quo and beat the game, if you focus on working to build yourself up into a better man.

If you continue to just sit and complain and not do anything about yourself, not only will you not beat the game, you won't even be playing it.

If you continue to have mindless sex with sl*ts and wh*res you'll be playing the game, but you won't win at the end of the day, because you haven't developed the strategy to go after and achieve what you truly desire.

Only by channelling all your energy into going after what you want, and not stopping until you get it, and not being afraid of what others think or say, will you beat the game. You deserve to have the life you really want, just as everyone else here does, so free yourself from porn and masturbation, and get out and about. Go to hobby societies and clubs and indulge in your favourite pastimes, you'll meet people with at least one common interest who will immediately connect with you because of that, and some of them will without a doubt be girls. Get to know them and interact with them on a friendly level, meet their friends and interact with them too, and you may find that one of those girls just might be the one you're looking for. When you do, and build up a truly intimate and strong bond with her, you'll have won the game.

Now, get to work and build yourself up into that better man you are quite capable of becoming!

 

Dude, I think you're just lonely

 

You probably can't have a girlfriend because of the alternating auras of desperation, anger, and entitlement you're broadcasting. Women don't care (as much) about how you look. They'll hang out with a confident guy, a funny guy, a caring guy, and/or sure, a rich guy. Same as you'll hang out with a confident, funny, caring, and/or physically beautiful woman. What are you offering?

What do you think is more likely to be the problem; all women everywhere, or you?

Work on yourself first. Your desire to be with one and inability to get one is a signal that you need to work on yourself.

 

I don't want to know what society you grew up in, but it's seems like they didn't have any culture or background about men or women and didn't bother to teach you anything. I feel bad for you bro, because no one here can help you love yourself, except yourself.

I would say stop using social media for a while & porn then magically you will be happier with the gender you were gifted with.