I Hate being a Man !

Because lingering on the suffering of the past experiences will prevent you from having new good experiences, it will turn you resentful, twisted, full of hate and disdain for other people, and essentially you will just keep suffering.

If I'm reading this right, she didn't dump you, she rejected you, and you turned bitter, and rationalized an explaination without actually knowing the factual reason, you may be right, you may be wrong.

I mean that's the thing about betrayal, it never comes from an enemy, I can relate to this, I still have trust issues, due to the betrayals I suffered in my life, but let me tell you this, so just because someone betrayed you, are you willing to sacrifice your good nature? become or try to become basically someone you are not deep inside? Take it as a lesson, no carefully measure the extent of your good will with people, but don't let that destroy your good will as a whole.

Life it what it is, is not unfair, nor it's fair, that's up to you.

Self respect if not derived from others, it comes from within, respect yourself, truthfully, and people will start to respect you back in most cases, you probably will have to master all this dark emotions to find balance in your life, not to destroy and suffocate your good will, but also know when to be a bit of an asshole whenever is required.

The only thing that's wrong is that you think there is something wrong.
Not living up to your own expectations can do that to you, but it eventually will turn into a humbling thing.

I mean, just look at my damn username, I'm still numb to certain extent, and I've been numb and dead inside for a good bunch of years, I suppressed my empathy, my capacity for loving and caring, thinking that will made me stronger, that feeling is a weakness, that if you don't have feelings you essentially cannot have them hurt, that you are better, but is all a lie, a coping mechanism in front of uncomfortable feelings, you need to, as I'm still doing myself to be completely honest, master your feelings, you either choose to suffer a empty numb life, suffocating your feelings inside you, or you live your life, risking having your feelings hurted, but enjoying the good ones.

I've done things that are going to be a burden in my conscience until I die, just because I used to think exactly like that, and took it to some dangerous extremes, please don't do that to yourself.

We don't live in an angelic world, neither in a hell, this world is tainted with shades of grey, but if you keep moving in the direction you are moving, is only darkness and suffering what awaits, if you choose to focus on the dark aspects of this world, that's all you will see, I'm not denying the horrible things that can happen to oneself, how horrible people can be, but that's not all there is in this life.

 

Nofap will help you, how long has your longest streak been?

 

Yeah, life feels unfair sometimes, but I don't know exactly how it feels to girls. It's just society trying to convince us. So, hope for the best.

 

Dude you are trying too hard to predict the future, all you are doing is making yourself more and more anxious about things, learn to accept and love yourself first and the rest will all fall into place. Not one of us is anywhere near perfect and that includes all the so called hot chicks and handsome dudes. Give yourself a break man.

 

What do you mean by this?

 

Why does it matter if you're with a woman or not? Why do you need female attention to feel good? Fuck that, you should feel good in your own body. Who cares what you look like, accept yourself. You are you and that's awesome.

 

Sorry but it sounds like you're complaining for no reason anyone who wants to look good has to work out your just being lazy yes girls are the highest statistic for lipo but men can get it too. You don't have to pay a prostitute to have sex you can get on tinder or go out and find people plenty of fish going around there is no excuse you're holding yourself back sorry for the tough love but you need it quit bitching and do something about you problems

 

Whah, whah, whah. Stop playing a little victim. Grow up and change your mentality. Women work, make money, raise children, and keep a home running. If you do not offer anything but a paycheck or another chore to her (by leaving your clothes on the floor, dishes in the sink, telling her to make you a list, come home from work and sit on the couch without helping with dinner, kids, etc.) then you do not offer enough value to a relationship. Men who do not give equal household and emotional support are a burden.

Men who think their value is only money/job/work/paycheck are typically misogynists as well as lazy husbands and fathers. Men must be likeable now instead of just bring home money like in the 50's. Women are not trapped with a shitty or abusive partner because we can have our own bank accounts and jobs now. Today, both partners typically have to work to support a family and home. So, if she is working full time too what else do you contribute? Share the mental, emotional, and physical load of keeping a home and raising a family. Know what needs done around the house without her telling you or making you a list, give the kids a bath, help with homework, mow the yard, do the dishes, wash the laundry, and cook. (Everything she already does plus work!)

Weaponized incompetence is the lazy man mantra and smart, strong women will not put up with it anymore. Marriage is much more of a downgrade for women now days. Unless you can offer a real equal partner then you are a burden. A lot of men do not want to rise to the expectation and that is why the population is going down and women are staying single.

If you are a selfish lover and only want to get off and then not help her to the finish line, toys are much more satisfying without the mess and hassle. Isn't it strange that in straight couple relationships that women cum the least? Perhaps it's because men are only thinking about themselves and using her body to DO sex (getting pleasure without giving it) instead of having sex WITH her. (giving pleasure as well as receiving it) Lesbians and gay men are more satisfied than straight couples. Some men don't even like women and only use them as bodies/objects/trophies to prove to other men their worth.

 

Find your own passions and interests in life. Lift some weights, get plenty of sunshine, eat well and forget about women. They will come... Your mindset will get you nowhere. Being a man is the best!

 

This incel mentality can get you nowhere if it's not dispelled.

 

Stupidiest statement that i found on nofap
And certainly u havent talk to many woman

Woman world centeralized on beauty, which mean its all genetic from your birth !!! Ofc u can change it with modern tech but it fucking costly

2. Girls look prety without doing anything ??? FOOKIN IS THIS, THEY CANT EVEN EAT LIKE A FUCKIN NORMAL HUMAN BECAUSE THEY AFRAID TO GAIN WEIGHT, do you know how painfull and un healthy their diet is???

Do you know how much the cost of their skin products??? Shit man

3. U can marry a woman and have sex

4. Thats why their are two species male and female, female is beauty male is strong,, again this is stupid

5. Thats because u didnt respect ur self !! How can anyone respect you, even you cant respect yourself,

Treat ur self better, improve in life, stay away from porn, like dwayne johnson said Blood, sweat and respect,,, first two you give last one you earn

 

My frien you misunderstand the whole subjet first your gender morals mid thinkig makes you go ahead and look for a female that suits your needs that 8s a thing that you need not feel negatively for it for the opposint searching and taking responsibilities , sacrifysin and working is characters that should be in you as a man . Women does not think like us and hookers my friend donl not get layed for pleasur but fotlr money and money 9noy hating her self for giving away such a valuable thig for her for a man she does not know , trust and respect
Women loves man who take responsibility for her , give her what she needs . Even if you do not give her what she need you tried in her eyes she will love you and give you her most presious thing ever .
You shoud recounsider your thoughts and try to think positevely .
Both men and women need for each others , understand only your turn and many women will love and trust you .

 

You have much bigger issues than just finding a GF buddy I believe you need to find some professional help, the help you need cannot be found on this forum
I’ve been down the long hard road trust me I’m 58 retired as a cop after 20 years
and just coming up on the one year anniversary of my divorce to my lovely wife of 20 years. I was gonna off myself a year ago to this day but I backed out because I am more than just my relationship to my ex, I’m happy again I date but don’t have serious GF I love
being a man I got my two dogs I lift I bought my own home, I take pride in
how I came though that hell.
These guys on here are the best lots of great advice.
Please find a therapist and right now move forward working on yourself for you not anyone else. I do think exercise is a big confidence builder especially weight lifting.
You’ll look better feel better be more confident too. And work on your spirit too.
Forget chicks for now forge a new you, the rest will come.

 

There isn't any way to answer this except to say "You have a lot of problems and I wish you well with all of them." Good luck, boss.

I will add, though-

I saw the headline and I thought you were going to say what I sometimes think, which is "I wish I could unscrew this penis and leave it in a drawer when I leave the house," as opposed to having it in public where I am constantly confronted by beautiful women of all shapes and sizes, sometimes inches away from me in stores or coffee shops and such, and I just want to grab them, tear their clothes off and (Fill in the blank, don't want the post to be deleted) and then walk away. No "relationship," no having to think about their needs, just me inside them, getting my orgasm and that's it.

Instead I have this thing that demands attention, all the time, and doesn't get it. So one becomes a masturbator, and then a compulsive masturbator.

"No, you can't have sex with her."

You can't even walk up and touch her beautiful body, stroke her hair, inhale her scent, kiss her tenderly, hold her in your arms.

You have to do a LOT of work and put up with a LOT to get her to that place with you.

DOWN BOY! (Repeat.) Your whole life. "Down, boy!" Unless you are a rock or pro sports star.

 

@Furozima10 I understand your frustration but your logic is severely flawed. Men and Women love differently and want different things out of a relationship. While you may crave hooking up with a girl you consider hot, most women crave connection and being with someone who genuinely cares about them and can show it. Times have changed forsure and there is much more social and financial mobility for women which is good for society as a whole. That doesn't mean they still dont crave the emotional and physical connection with a partner. Men provide, it is a tough pill to swallow, ask yourself what you bring to the table in a relationship. A good partner can provide emotional support, financial support, physical support and a healthy amount of his time to maintain the relationship.

I wish the best to you brother, you will get out of this funk!

 

Its ok. Let us - the real men - take care of the business. We dont care its hard. We chose it to be that way. In the options menu before life, we checked Ultra nightmare.