Told my girlfriend how I felt and it didn’t go as planned

Telling Your Partner Is one the Right Decision I would say. Show her the video of Gary Wilson 'The Great Porn Experiment' it's titled something Like that. Also it's considerable the way she acted once you told her. Understanding can't be built overnight. Read Articles related to PMO, books, etc. Share With Her talk to her. I think the one who cares and Loves will understand and stay their for you and help you along the journey. Check out 'Reboot During Relationship' section of this website. Wifey's are not giving up and trying their best to help their husband. Show her this website as well.

EDIT: Check out the Youtube channels Universal Man, Dr Trish Leigh and show it to her as well. Create awareness within her that this addiction is real. If things won't go right even for months I would say Just Move On with her because it's your life, Kicking out the addiction and Hustling For Living a Loving Life should be the FIRST PRIORITY

 

Honesty is always better if you want a relationship to last. You, however we’re brutal and it doesn’t even sound like you understand that. Let’s switch it up-you ask her for sex and she repeatedly says no because you can’t keep it up, and it’s frustrating. She turns you down because using a vibrator, while camming with a man who’s Dick is huge and always hard is so much more exciting. With just a click she can change cocks and that’s far better than your limp dick. She explains she’s very attracted to you but you’re boring and that’s just how real sex is.
No, she’s upset because that isn’t how real sex is. Real sex is amazing when you dont have porn messing it up. Real sex is incredibly when your partner is present and not fantasizing. Real sex is mind blowing when it’s with someone you love. Porn is a super stimulus that has destroyed your ability to experience real sex the way is should be. Sex with my husband is so incredible when he isn’t lusting after other women, when he’s present with me. Sex is better now than 30 years ago because now he’s with me in his mind as well as his body. You’re right, while you continue to feast on other women, real sex will be bland, with just a click and no work to get it,real sex isn’t worth the effort or vulnerability. You starve her from the real emotional connection she desires to express through sex. You starve her, while you gorge. This is why she’s angry. I want to commend you for having the courage to be honest! That’s a step in the right direction. What you do next? Stop using porn. Go to meetings, read books, get counseling, but stop using women and sex to get high. Keep being honest, this will help. Please don’t tell her that sex is bland and no comparison to porn, tell her it’s just different. Because it really can’t be compared. I cannot imagine choosing pmo over real sex. It’s so incomprehensible to me.

 

Be careful not to overwhelm her with info. Give her a little time to work through this. Too much info will likely add to her anxiety and flood her.

 

This is a difficult problem. Common. But difficult, because there doesn't seem to be a good solution. Disclosing your P problem to your SO is like doing surgery to the relationship. You absolutely have to go in and do it, there's a problem that can not be fixed any other way. At the same time, though, you have to cut through skin and push organs around. You have to cause damage to the relationship to heal the relationship, and there's a long rehab process and plenty of room to second guess yourself about the choices you made regarding what you did and how you did it.
To make it all worse, there's copious anecdotal evidence that a porn addiction numbs the addict's emotional sensitivity. An addict disclosing while so close to his addiction is like a surgeon trying to operate while drunk. It's not an ideal situation, but given the circumstances you have done and are doing the best you possibly can.

I wish I could give you the "best" way to proceed, but I can't. My SO also wants to assume responsibility for my addiction which, like the addiction, doesn't appear to follow any logic. All I can say is you were right to disclose. You seem to be motivated by compassion for your SO, and that's good. I encourage you to get more distance from your addiction and be as open with your SO as she wants. Quitting P can take a lot of mental bandwidth, it consumes a lot of your time and effort, and it's natural to want to talk to your best friend about your process, but she might not want to take that role. It's best to be as sensitive to her desires as you can, and that can mean an uncomfortable conversation with some difficult, direct questions such as, "How much would you like to know?" and "Would you like me to keep you updated on my progress, and what I learn about P addiction?" Then of course you have to honor her requests.

In the meantime, I offer solidarity. I know it's not about your attraction to her, it makes sense to me. Fiction gives us access to feelings we don't have to pay for, emotionally. This has made PMO more attractive for you (and me) because it sounds like real world S is actually quite expensive, emotionally speaking, while the physiological aspect of PMO gives that erotic fiction more power than it deserves. We know, though, it's fantasy, and part of the allure is that we can go back and forth between fantasy and reality and not have to pay for it.
It turns out, though, that not paying for it is also a fantasy. You thought you weren't paying for it, but you were just placing it all on credit, and now the bill is due with interest.

The good part is, you're doing what is necessary to fix your personal problem and your relationship.