Can PIED ever be cured?!?!? It happened again.

No.

You're broken, but you can heal. Stop disrespecting yourself. You're better than that.

Read Your Brain on Porn. TONs of examples in there of people healing from it... or go read the Success Stories section of the forum. Hundreds of recovery stories in there, many starting in a much worse place than you are.

But you gotta hold the course. Hard mode for months. Sometimes more than a year.

But yes. You can heal.

Stop touching your dick.
Stop looking at porn.

Stop lying to yourself.

Do what you need to do to recover.

Learn self talk.
Deal with your emotional baggage.
Be a man.

You fucked yourself up by watching porn for years.

Welcome to the club.

We all did.

But, there's a way out.

You and your future kids can live a life free of this shit.

Just depends: are you willing to put in the work to rewire your brain?

 

@D_rax Said everything that needed to be said I think. I will just add further encouragement and say yes, it is very possible to get past this. Many other men have. Don't worry about how long it'll take because the time is gonna pass either way, so you might as well make the most out of it. With things like this, time, specifically time not masturbating to porn, is the main thing.

If it's really that bad and you really care that much about having sex with this girl, you could consider talking to a doctor about viagra or cialis, or even L-Cittruline or L-Arginine which are supposed to help with blood flow. No shame in that, but if you go that route don't use being able to get hard again as an excuse to continue pmo. That's a band-aid not a solution.

 

Good luck, bro.

Remember, love is more than sex.

You don't need to have sex with her right away (even this year) to have a meaningful and deep relationship with her.

I'm saving my virginity for my wife, but I've had deeper, more meaningful, and more love-filled relationships with girls than many guys who have banged dozens of girls.

Real love is much deeper than just sex.

 

Not trying to be a smart-ass, but I honestly don't understand this part. In what sense are they nofap streaks if you watch porn and edge? Because you don't cum? That will not cure your PIED.

I have, twice. I relapsed in between and my dick immediately stopped working, so I can attest that for me it was porn that was the culprit.

It took 65 & 62 days of no porn, masturbation, sex and orgasm for me to become sexually functional again (I know this because I actually had sex on days 62 & 65, so there's no guessing here). During the first streak I had a wet dream + nocturnal emission around day 27. I was fantasizing throughout (tried not to, but I'm only human). Still got fixed all the same.

I strongly urge you to abstain. It's within your ability. Good luck!

 

If you want the the full boring story you can check out my journal here, but to TLDR it - I wasn't having proper functional sex for about 6 years (despite trying with 4 girls), and my erections were becoming weak to non-existent with porn also. I kept making excuses. The moment I realized I had a problem was when I came home with a proper "9" on new years eve 2018, and my dick was showing zero response. I read up on PIED the following morning, and started my first run. The year following that first reboot was the best year of my life. I was 32 at the time, so roughly your age.

 

The pills may or may not work since the problem is in your head and not your dick. They may also cause more harm than good. If you start depending on them rather than working on the actual problem-your porn consumption/addiction. My husband had pied for 5 years. From ages 45-50. Once we discovered porn was an addiction he started working recovery. It took him about 4-6 months before pied was completely gone. We did hard mode. He is 53 and his dick has never been bigger or harder than now. Porn f***s you guys up! Stop fantasy, porn and stop touching yourself!!!! If you want a great sex life with an actual woman then you have to give up you solo sex life.

 

Aye! Listen to this lady! She knows what's up!

 

That's right!

 

I don't like people getting all religious or recommending complete abstaining from sex, when you clearly have feelings for this girl and it could've already happened, hadn't it been for that mishap. I try to be tolerant and avoid commenting on religious threads or those that in general want to save themselves for later, but I don't think it's something that should be pushed on people that clearly want to have healthy sex like the OP.

Taking Viagra or other stimulus to make sure you don't have PIED again is a very reasonable choice. I hope everything goes well for you and the lady and it turns into a meaningful relationship. As a suggestion, you can always try to focus on oral and just try to make her happy this way - that can also be a quite useful path to keep her

It's not cheating, trust me. Sex has absolutely nothing to do with a basic wank.
You'll be definitely setting yourself up for better healing this way

 

Oh, almost forgot, since I missed it originally - about edging - I would encourage you to read through @MaxEvans ' journal and also asking about his experience with edging, but, if I can put it in only one sentence - edging is the worst thing you can possibly do to your body!

(Link to journal: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/invisible.312132/ )

 

I just reread this thread, and I'm confused.

Who got religious and recommend complete abstinence from sex?


All I see is a recommendation for a hard-mode reboot as the fastest way to recover, which is commonly accepted by both atheist and religious coaches alike to be the most effective recovery method for PİED (see Gary Wilson: Your Brain on Porn (atheist), and Mark Queppet of Universal Man (Catholic)).

I didn't see anything about what OP's sex life should be like after he recovers?

 

Well, you're not alone - I can swear I saw a post like that last night, but I no longer see it today.

 

Haha, alright, cool