What is too much to share when telling my fiance about my addiction?

She was not claiming to be perfect, nor was that her point. She's simply sharing her experiences and opinion as someone who's been through this. No need to be so rude.

 

What she said does add up, and it's true. Are you here to participate in a civilized exchange about the topic, or are you here to nitpick and create conflict which takes it off topic?

 

I have been around here for a long time, and I have seen that the "climate" is actually quite respectful of everyone most of the time. With the exception of an occasional post by someone who would rather stir up trouble than to offer something helpful, there is a lot of good information and support for each other.

Stating how long you've been married is not about "boasting." It's about giving a little background information about yourself to help validate that you might know what you're talking about. Obviously, someone who's been married for 20-30 years or more might know a little more about marriage than someone who's never been married or even been in a relationship. It isn't necessary to take every statement that someone says as some sort of challenge or an attempt to 'one-up' someone else.

I haven't seen any examples of husband-bashing here. However, sometimes we state facts about things that have happened or choices that were made by an addict that were harmful to others, and if you take that as husband-bashing, then I guess you have a long way to go in recovery. Everyone here has a right to share their experiences and the way they feel about them. If you choose to take that personally or internalize it out of shame, then that's on you, but it doesn't give you the right to nit-pick them or criticize them as if they're in the wrong for sharing their side.

If you believe that then why are you here? To spread around your misery amongst people who are actually trying to better themselves? And, again, you have a lot to learn if you believe that this forum, where people are mostly helpful and supportive to each other, is a reason people are addicted to P. I doubt that one single person could honestly say that the "climate" here is perpetuating their problem.

Give me one example of how NoFap fits the definition of a hate group.