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Straight men in gay porn - issue?

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by rockstarsteves, Aug 27, 2021.

  1. rockstarsteves

    rockstarsteves Fapstronaut

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    Hello!

    As a sub foot fetishist - i feel like the only "outlet' for my kinky desires (pre-porn) IS porn. The problem is that ALMOST ALL of the models claim they are "alpha straight men" and tie this into findom (which i'm into interested in) - but they are happy to show off their feet in dominating poses - which is a turn on.

    My concern is that it's making me starting to think this type of thing is available in real life...like getting a straight guy to let me massage his feet or something...before i never thought it was real but seeing that so many straight men are doing fetish porn - it now makes me think it's a realistic option and as a gay man - it doesn't make sense...it wouldn't lead to anything other than fetish play

    my guess is that for straight men who don't have the kink, their feet are non sexual organs and so they don't see it as "gay" to dominate someone with their feet ...but the issue is that this domination is considered erotic and sexual for the sub

    anyone else can relate to this confusion?
    is it unwise to look for "open minded" straight men to indulge in this fetish?
     
  2. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    I don't understand. Are you going to ask straight men if you can rub their feet? Cause they would almost certainly see that as sexual
     
  3. rockstarsteves

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    Well said and thank you so much - makes sense :)
     
  4. rockstarsteves

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    I'm glad you said that....because Twitter is filled with tons of straight guys who really do seem straight (vs pretending they are) that get a kick out of having subs worship their feet and pay them for it....I never thought to ask a straight guy cause it does seem sexual - but all of the porn out there makes it seem that the majority of the "foot doms" out there are "straight alpha men" ....and I think that a reality check is helpful because it's starting to make me feel like heterosexual guys would be open to indulging this fetish but i'm assuming most would not
     
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  5. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    Maybe their feet just hurt. I find it bizarre if straight men want gay men to do this for them. Don't get me wrong, if one goes to a message parlor cause their feet hurt and they happen to get a gay male that seems normal. But to seek it out doesn't make sense to me. To be honest, maybe they either a little gay, or it's not sexual high they feel. Rather it's a power high maybe.
     
  6. Rene75

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    They are actors or prostitutes, depending on how you what to name it. Lots of ppl do shit they don't like for money, some work at a office with no window looking at a screen 40 hours a week, other show their feet to someone willing to pay for it. Some have high moral standards and others just don't care about what they do as long as it gets their money.
     
  7. Hard Mode

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    I know there are Straight Men out there who get a kick out of putting a gay guy in his place. I am one of them.

    For me it's not at all about sex, but about power. I like the power surge. I know it's taboo to say, but it also feels "right" to me to dominate a gay dude. It feels natural, and it good to be able to give in to that feeling every now and then in a safe way without worrying about offending someone.

    You will find someone.
     
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  8. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    I find this quite strange to be honest. Do you need to feel empowered and in control in other areas of life? I really just can't see the appeal to this
     
  9. Hard Mode

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    It's a kink, I guess. And a lot of kinks don't make sense to people who have other preferences.
     
  10. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    Yea that's fair enough. So then would you consider yourself bi?
     
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  11. Hard Mode

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    I wouldn't say that. Dominating another male is not about sex for me. I enjoy the power of it.
     
  12. locked boy nyc

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    As a gay guy with submissive tendencies this rings true to me. I've had encounters with lots of straight guys in the past, with or without sex. But if what you're seeking is healthy partnership, you'll need to find a gay guy who can get into this headspace with you. The straight findom world can be hot, and I think engaging in that kind of play *can* be healthy, but it's very dangerous territory and can leave you both broke and unhappy if you're not careful.
     
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  13. Freedom_from_PMO

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    This is the most accurate thing ever said about kink.
     
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  14. Rostrock47

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    I can relate that I had and still am struggling with foot fetishes however this is happening to me with women as I find their feet extremely attractive especially if they're wearing high heels it's a big turn on for me
     
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  15. Rostrock47

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    If he's gonna ask this a straight guy that straight guy is gonna punch him with his leg as hard as possible as he can.. He should ask this a gay guy..
     
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  16. Hard Mode

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    Agreed!
     
  17. Well ... I can relate :) Was heavily addicted to findom online and meeting escorts. These guys are doing it for one reason only: cash. It's a job. A lot have no or poor job perspectives. They might not even be into that fetish. It's their income. Some do their job better than others but it's their job, it's work for them, not a fetish.
     
  18. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    That's my point. That's because there is something sexual to it
     
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  19. dragonaire

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    Depends, the straight guy might use the situation as a way to mock and belittle the guy asking... But ur right, it's risky
     
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  20. Hard Mode

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    This is very true. The Straight dude might take the opportunity to put the gay bro in his place.
     

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