I want sex

Possible triggers maybe

This is a strange feeling for me. Usually, when I'm horny, I want to stay home, watch porn and jerk off. I'm into mostly femdom and humiliation so I like to watch videos or look at pictures with words of girls telling me I'm no good. I'm about a week into nofap and I'm horny but I have no interest in watching porn. Honestly I just want sex now but there is a problem.

I never had sex before and don't know how to attract a woman. Even if I did I plan on waiting till marriage because of my religion. But the older I get the harder that rule is to follow.

In the past I've actually turned down sex to stay true to my commitment. Wasn't easy but I did it.

But now it's on my mind a lot and whenever I see or interact with a woman I want to have sex with her. This is a new feeling for me, at least I haven't felt this way in years.

I'm not really sure what to do or what type of input I want from you guys. If you could just give me your thoughts on the matter or maybe advice that would be awesome. This is a great community and I'm not sure who else to ask. God bless, and have a good day.

 

I just sent a few minutes using your technique. I feel a bit more relaxed not.

I think you are right about arousal. It's part of us and that's ok. If we can learn to live with it, or better yet enjoy it, life will go by more smoothly.

Thank you for the reply my friend

 

It's not really a lack of confidence per se. I can have friendly platonic conversations with women no problem. I've also expressed feelings for women before. I've even proposed to a girl and she said yes. We both were waiting till marriage though so we didn't have sex. Also it didn't work out.

I think my main problem is flirting. It's hard for me to tell when someone is flirting or just being nice. And I'm not really sure how to do it either. Usually I can only tell if a girl likes me if she smiles and tries to touch or hug me a lot (which has happened many times). The thing is though I'm not really comfortable initiating touch with someone if I don't know if they like me. I feel like that could be harassment.

Maybe I'm just over thinking things. Like I said, these are mostly new feelings. I always liked when girls liked me and wants to hug and hold my hand. But as for sex I could always just watch porn. But I don't want porn anymore.

Anyways thanks for the help. Maybe I should go out more often. It's always good to meet new people.

 

Thank you. I did the breaths and I'm used to doing breathing exercises and meditation. Prayer is also a great way I get spiritually stronger.

But can you explain Chakras? I hear about them a lot and tried to learn but I got all sorts of different information. If you can explain it that would be great.

Thank you. It is good to hear from people that I'm being normal and not crazy. Maybe I just go along and see where life takes me. And like you said, ask before touching

 

So it seems according to this each Chakras is in an actual specific locations throughout the body. I always thought the concept at least was that it just flowed through the entire body, like in Naruto. Thanks for the clarification.

I do to. But I didn't title this "I just want sex". I titled it "I want sex" which is something I haven't craved in a while. I've been into femdom for a long time, so my messed up brain wanted me when I saw a pretty girl to be her beta servant. That was my sexual energy for years. But it seems that it's slowly getting weaker while my want for actual sex has been growing rapidly.

What's the acting out stage?

I think first I stepped away from porn over a week. And it might be that for the first time maybe ever I feel like I'm actually achieving the life I want to live. My confidence is way up. So my want for being subservient is way down. Maybe that's why now when I see a pretty girl I want to penatrate her. Like I don't know maybe I'm confident so I want to dominate now.

Thank you. Comments like these keep me grounded. Yes sex is a natural desire. It's actually a good thing. But so many people abuse it. It's important we control it and use it only for good.

By the way, I'm also not a big fan of tattoos.

 

I have considered getting married actually. I don't know if you read all my comments here or not, but I actually proposed to a girl before. It's complicated between us and I'm not going to go into too much detail. I don't know yet if she'll be the "one". But either way I think you are right with that advice.

As far as the acting out stage I don't think that's where I am. Cause I didn't really watch regular porn. If I had to "act out" I'd have to go to a dominatrix or become some woman's slave. Sadly I have read some people on this site who become real slave for women because of porn and it is heartbreaking.

To tell you the truth, I am finding these desires are growing weaker and weaker each day. They still pop up here and there but most my sexual thoughts are of sex or normal foreplay. And usually something has to trigger it. I'm not sitting around constantly thinking about sex.

I think when you are in the porn loop it becomes a huge part of your life. But it seems when you step back it fades away and you realize if what you are watching is real or just crazy. And I think that goes for whatever someone is into. That's what I think anyways.

Also, won't hire a prostitute. I can assure you that. Thank you for the reply.

 

Thank you

 

Thank you. Yea I feel like I'm getting more and more out of the trap of porn daily and into the realm of reality. Good luck finding your dream girl. I hope I'm with mine soon.