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The girl I'm dating has gone cold

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Hanumesh Santhanam, Sep 1, 2021.

  1. Guys please help me.

    I have gone out with this girl I met on bumble twice. Both dates were amazing and we made out a lot on both dates.

    For the first 20 days of dating she was messaging me everyday but now she has suddenly gone cold. This is the 3rd time I have experienced this with a woman.

    The last 2 times I opened up and acted like a beta. I've learnt from that. This time I did no such thing on our dates and I've also gone no contact with her.

    But the anxiety is killing me. I have Pied and I am desperate to fap and get rid of anxiety. Note I am on days 16 of nofap.

    Can someone please help me!!! I am sad horny and anxious!!!
     
  2. Guess what? She met another guy and is now making out with him. She will do the same thing to him. You do not need this kind of dope in your life.
    The anxiety is killing you? I doubt that. You know exactly what is going on.
    Get your nofap in order first.
    A cold shower might also help.
    Sorry to be blunt but brother, you need to get your life in gear. You don't want to be fucking around with pmo and idiot girls like this anymore.
     
  3. Start dating more girls bro. You clearly have enough game where you get their interest. This way you won't get that terrible "oneitis" anxiety and you'll come from a place of "take it or leave it" abundance :)
     
  4. KKS123

    KKS123 Fapstronaut

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    Who cares if you "acted like a beta" the truth is you were just being yourself and there ain't nothing wrong with that. If some girls don't like that and want you to be "alpha" well it's their loss.
     
  5. Thankyou all. I appreciate your words.

    The thing is that it's just been 2 dates. I am not that attached to her. But when a girl behaves like this, I completely go into the vicious circle of ok all women suck - I hate women - they are so unreasonable - fuck such anxiety - let's watch porn where a girl is being smashed...

    The real solution to this is to be a badass and go date several other women. Because while I am acting emotional and stupid right now, I also know that I've dated women that were very kind and did make time for me.

    It's just that I need to go out there and talk to more women. I will do that.

    Also I managed to survive. My streak is still on track!
     
  6. depeche69

    depeche69 Fapstronaut

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    I would suggest to focus finding a girl another way than at dating apps or social media; cold approach, friend cycle, clubs etc.

    Be aware, that dating apps and social media is for women the heaven on earth. They are approached by hundreds of men. Every second swipe is a match. They can choose of hundreds of men and while are you dating her, she gets in parallel many other approaches.
    If there is a men, who is more attractive to her or has more to effor, the women don't care the work you put in her; you are just out.

    If you are not one of the upper 20% of men, then this dating app game is a waste of time.
     
  7. Yes. I agree.

    I will resort to cold approach and social game instead. I really don't think you can find something meaningful on these apps.

    Thankyou!!
     
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  8. silenteagle

    silenteagle Fapstronaut

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    Improve your social game first! engage in social activities in office/ college/ locality and then progress onto pubs and other hotspots!
     
  9. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    It's because all women go cold at some point even if she is crazy in love of you, maybe she is busy, has a lot of things going on. Simply chill on the texting bro. Try to avoid toxic red pill advices from this page

    Just send a "hi, how you been? I just wanted to say hi. Hug" and wait for her response, it could take hours. Women don't text if they are busy.

    She will probably tell you she is busy and hasn't been able to text. All girls will do this so get used to it and learn to deal with it. No matter how "alpha or" 1%" you are

    See some of the videos to understand more
    https://m.youtube.com/c/DevelopAttraction
     
  10. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    If she were not into you, she would have not made out with you that much. You just lack in understanding girls, it's what most men lack. They think with being high status or attractive it's all they need and you need to learn how to deal with a girl that has nothing to do with status, you need to understand how they think

    That is why after initial attraction you haven't been able to continue with other girls.
     
  11. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

  12. @modern milarepa

    Thanks bro. Even I'm a big fan of Develop Attraction. I've even read Chris' book. She said she is busy. I asked her to ping me once she is free. I haven't heard from her.

    Anyway I've started dating a couple of other girls now. My streak is still intact at 36 days!
     
  13. @silenteagle Yessir. I dont have that much of a social life due to the pandemic in india as we are all working from home.

    But I'm cold approaching. Atleast that gives me enough dopamine to stay off porn.
     
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