Sexual Urges Peaking - Help

I have a really bad habit of wanting s all the time, but on the rare occasion I do find a female for casual s, she ends up wanting something more than casual intercourse or more often she becomes uninterested before we ever have intercourse… there’s no in between for me. Keep in mind the women i meet are attractive, but for various reasons I would not want a relationship with them.

My real question is how can I fight these urges? I almost can’t help but to want s all the time especially with me being 120+ days in no PMO… after I have S, I could care less about having it for a day or 2… but then the urges come back.

I am aware of how immature this post seems, but I’m being 100% honest.. I think I may have some sort of problem because it can’t be healthy to think about S as often as I do. Right now I’m driving across town to a after spot to hopefully meet someone.. at 3 AM. One thing for sure is that I will not PMO. I want the real deal. I want her to look really good and I will not pay. OK my rant is over that after spot was closed I am now going to take myself to bed.

The thing is when I wake up in the morning I’m still going to have these urges I know because this is a daily issue for me. When I focus on other things like my schoolwork or just bettering myself in general I’ve noticed I achieve better results with women. They actually text me first, but when I stop focusing on myself to text them back and try to get them to come over for some reason it just doesn’t work out that way.

I feel like God is trying to tell me something. Every time I begin reading my text book someone will text me or some type of distraction will come along. Maybe he’s testing my will power. Maybe he’s telling me to ignore them not seek their attention right away and continue to focus on myself to get what I want in the future. I’m honestly not sure., however I do know that I am a very complicated young man(26 yrs old) But I am proud of who I am and I don’t feel much shame.

Maybe I’m just being immature I know there are people who would like to be in my shoes at least I have had s within the last month. But for me it’s just still not good enough I don’t know maybe I really just need to 100% focus on my schoolwork and once I’m in a more establish position the women will come. It’s just so boring and I’m so impatient. I hope my lack of patience does not become my undoing

 

Youre right.. I just know that I have pretty high standards and normally the “good women worth marrying” aren’t the best looking. Honestly hate to say it, & I’ll admit that sounds a bit shallow & I’m slightly hypocritical given some of my own comments

 

Finding that one woman you genuinely want long-term is very difficult, at least for me. Maybe because of how I’m living my life and because I’m not established yet. I want a meaningful relationship but don’t have the income to support a family right now.

Yes I do use protection for sure! Also I “pull out” on top of using protection so hopefully no worries there haha

 

I haven’t PMOes in at least 120days.. my method involves not counting the exact days, it made me over analyze things instead of just simply not PMOing

 

Thanks that makes sense. You should possibly go into writing novels or something

 

Thats true, I have my own place I never go over other people homes. But still you’re right. Hookups aren’t safe.

I can’t speak on why other people do things, but a lot of people have strong urges, fetishes, & fantasies they want to play out irl, but it’s hard to find that without P.

 

Thanks! My biggest concern is the fact s is always on my mind.. I’m not the best at “small talk” but am not afraid to flirt or at least try. Some days it’s not that big a deal if I have s, other days all I can think about it s.. yesterday I focused completely on myself & felt really good about it. No peaking urges

Had a girl text me first, I text back then no response. Normally it would bother me, yesterday I didn’t care as much, I just kept focusing on schoolwork.

 

Thanks my friend. I will actually try meditating I see people saying this pretty often! I agree when I stay busy the urges aren’t nearly as powerful.

 

You’re 1000% right. It’s almost the same as nofap in the sense I have to make the right choice and follow through with that, even when the wrong choice seems so tempting.

Recently bought Rosetta Stone to learn Spanish, I workout just not consistently, & I drive for grubhub. So I can make myself busy, I just have to actually do it!