Why does porn addiction so often end up in femdom/humiliation fetishes?

Sorry do not ever do pegging or other paraphilias for real.

 

"everything is about sex except for sex,SEX is about POWER". And nothing give a women more power than divorce laws, and giving control of your orgasm over to her via chastity belt or letting her peg your ass (pegging is very emasculating because it reverse the role of partners in a heretosexual relationship and giving the women control over the sexual relationship).

Another quote "power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely", when you give women power they can't control themselves (not being sexist here but generally women are terrible at selfcontrol just look around, they are addicted to sex, spending, social media, sugary food,ect and being easily addicted to addictive subtances are in natural because women are EMOTIONAL creatures; they live base on their feelings and not logic) and go nuts with power (for a while) then they are bore with power and give it (the power you gave to her) to some other men she deem strong enough to handle it. E.g if you're familiar with FLR( female led relationships) you will know that she will be satisfied for being the leader of the relationship for a while then she get tire of leading and find herself a bull (some strong man outside the relationship) to have heretosexual sex with THE RIGHT WAY to give away the leadership role in the bedroom and her partner (husband/boyfriend) become a cuckold, a mere emotional/financial tampon. And usually the combo of chastity-pegging-cuckold are escalation from one another from the escalation from vanilla porn.

So my conclusion: do not give women power over the relationship or it won't end well for you; don't watch porn and get it's educed fetishes, it'll be an up hill battle to remove the fetishes.

PS: there's an amazing animation call "power corrupts", get what it's about

 

I see what you mean but I was referring to the mental damage that pegging and other masochistic paraphilas cause if you cure masochism afterwards.

 

I was reading this article yesterday, and I quote :

"Hardcore porn unmasks some of the early neural networks that formed in the critical periods of sexual development and brings all these early, forgotten or repressed elements together to form a new network, in which all the features are wired together. Porn sites generate catalogs of common kinks and mix them together in images. Sooner or later the surfer finds a killer combination that presses a number of his sexual buttons at once. Then he reinforces the network by viewing the images repeatedly, masturbating, releasing dopamine and strengthening these networks. He has created a kind of “neosexuality,” a rebuilt libido that has strong roots in his buried sexual tendencies. Because he often develops tolerance, the pleasure of sexual discharge must be supplemented with the pleasure of an aggressive release, and sexual and aggressive images are increasingly mingled–hence the increase in sadomasochistic themes in hardcore porn."

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rel...lasticity-the-brain-that-changes-itself-2007/

 

I guess its paired with mental issues when it comes to me.

Some part of me feels scared living in this world and having protective and sexually active and dominant "mom" sounds like safe base.

I will talk about that with my therapist and will ask if SSRI is good option here.

 

I'd be interested to know what the response is.

 

Same here, can you give us an update?

 

I am getting extremely horny as my streak is getting longer even though I have failed a few time but manage to get back on trap.. I am
Feeling so horny but don’t want to relapse.. what does this mean?

 

Porn gives you dopamine (feels good) when you are searching and seeking, which includes exploring new genres and women, and styles. It also give you an extra squirt when you're engaged with content you specifically find shocking, shameful or disturbing because.... anxiety can cause a jump in dopamine!

 

I notice anxiety kicks back during the night .. I am I like what the heck

 

I had that for years, I'd finish then have anxiety later in the night. Porn can possibly account for most of the weird symptoms that people can't place. I didn't know delayed ejaculation was a common symptom of porn addiction. Nobody knew about it. GPs, psychologists, relationship counsellors, and even a sex therapist couldn't explain it. I could finish with porn quickly, but only 3-4 times ever with a partner.

 

I just relapsed again to these exact categories :-( It's been a significant burden in my life. I;ve explored it in reality, I crave love, affection and equilibrium from a partner, but every time I start to rid myself of PIED and progress, I somehow land back on these same 2 categories!

Deep-routed psychological stuff going on. The thrill of those genres for the 'role reversal' is a powerful drug. One I really hope we can all kick!

 

As its been mentioned before, its all due to escalation. We first start by looking at vanilla things like a girl naked(especially if you started young like me), than as time goes on that no longer gives you that rush, so you go find more extreme images/videos until you get that rush back. Unfortunately that's how it played out for me, and its caused me to see some really sick shit that I truly wish I could unsee, not to mention the other associated problems with PMO addiction such as low confidence, ed, social anxiety etc.

However the cure is truly NoFap and semen retention. NoFap will help you battle the addiction, while semen retention will undo the damage and help you become your perfect ideal self. Ive read some really inspiring stories on this forum from other users whom I believe where in a much darker place than any of us, and who managed to climb their way out of the hole of PMO and become the people they were always meant to be leading successful, happy, fulfilled lives. One story in particular comes to mind and ill link it if I can find it, but its from a while ago.

At the end of the day, I believe its Love which we are all after, and used PMO as a coping mechanism because we didn't have it. Porn is a lie, nothing about it is true. If your in a hole and believe your fucked cuz of all the shit porn has done to you, than slap yourself awake. We will all beat this addiction.

 

What are your feelings when you get anxiety? What do you tell yourself when you wake up to it?

 

Probably not a huge proportion, but there is a small slice of nofap where it's backwards. They are gay/trans/have fetishes naturally and they want something to blame so they go to porn. There are a lot of post from guys hoping that they can become straight from quitting porn - and it's interesting that instead of self reflection and or therapy to think about those thoughts and urgres, they go to find a problem and a solution to no longer make them have those urges.

 

Emotionally it's like a very vulnerable, low unhappy feeling. Like I forget what happiness was. Like there's some danger out there, and I'm completely alone here and it might get me.

Combine that with a sense of physical vulnerability and shakiness mostly around the shoulders, chest and legs. As if physical strength had been drained from those areas and they weren't capable of flexing anymore, or holding to a good posture.

It's an undercurrent feeling both physically and mentally, so I don't often think about it or address it specifically. But it sets the tone for what I am doing or thinking about.

 

Because the goal is to degrade the other. The destruction of oneself is the ultimate degradation since you deny your own dignity.

Freedom is what defines a human being. Deprivation of freedom (prison) is the ultimate punishment in our societies, not by chance.

 

I used to be into that stuff because of my self perception. I was failing at university and had no motivation. That kind of humiliation fit with the narrative of my life back then. I say improve your life brother. We don't have to remain in a single state for ever. Like in times before porn or maybe before big responsibility we had a lot of confidence. We can get it back or even go beyond that!