How can I forget about my ex?

Sorry to hear of your recent breakup. Plain truth is it’s hard to let go of someone that you have grown to love. Whether it’s a breakup or a death, losing someone you love, for whatever reason, is just plain hard. I don’t know that I have any step by step advice for you but I do know that you can find happiness again, whether that’s with another person or on your own. Be kind to yourself. Try not to over think things. Find ways to destress. Keep busy and active. Feel the pain and keep going.

 

Sorry this has happened to you but i can tell from experience that you will get over it. It's going to take time. When it happened to me the best thing was for me to stay active. Thinking back to that time, they were probably some of my best workouts at the gym. I also tired to keep my mind as occupied as possible. I started to think about her less and less and now I don't even think about her. I did run into her once at a restaurant years later, just nodded a hello and kept going. It did not even hurt to see her.

 

Oh my friend it's very hard to "just forget" someone who you yourself built a deep connection with, it's best to allow all your feelings and I mean all of them, to go out at the moment, write down how you feel on paper maybe, cry if you need to, just get those thoughts out never bottle them inside of you, or else you'll get stuck in a cycle of hate regret that never ends.

I always believe that everything that happens to us happens for a good reason, maybe there's a better girl out there for you, a girl more suitable, gentle and loving. But then again, it's just a belief around here, but it's a wonderful belief because it truly makes you see the better aspects of life even if you've hit rock bottom.

what you did here is brave, remember you have every right to feel pain my man.

 

Agree with aspects of this: do NOT bottle up your emotions. That being said, there is a difference between allowing your emotions to flow and wallowing in them. Allow yourself some time to be sad, angry, etc, but try not to let it impede the general process of your life and especially not on combatting this addiction.

Wishing you a speedy recovery in all fronts

 

What you’re feeling is natural, you’re human. Give yourself space and time to grieve. And cry if you feel to, cry out loud, it’s ok. I agree with @BrighterFuture on this point.

You’re not going to feel this way forever. So don’t be doing anything you’ll ultimately regret later. Be mature. She made a decision. You feel hurt by it. You get to learn from it. You said you’ve learned a valuable lesson, what is it? What are the things you’ve learned from all this?

One thing is certain, no relationship is ever a waste of your time. If it doesn’t bring you what you want it may teach you what you don’t want.

When ever I’m in a rut or difficult place I find it helpful to consider how blessed/lucky I am to experience what I’m experiencing. Sometimes, I even tell myself: this is good for me. It could be a lot worse.

You’ve got this!

 

I'm in the same position as you, my ex girlfriend broke up with me because of my depression. I still describe her as almost perfect.

I think about my relationship with a girl before, I was also very heartbroken and thought I'll never find a better woman, but I did. And this happened directly after I stopped being self-pitty. At this time I was exercising a lot and focused on my job, the rest happened automatically. Just don't focus on finding someone new, but on yourself. Exercise, read, work, chase your goals and you will find happiness.

 

Just work on improving yourself. Its natural to feel pain and be depressed about losing someone you care for and love. It makes you feel like you weren't good enough or they found someone new. And that sucks. After my first gf and I broke up, I felt down for a week or so, but realized I had to move on. I self-reflected and tried to find ways to improve myself. I found myself a lot happier and confident after. Of course you will never forget someone you had a relationship with, but you can't dwell on the past forever. If you do you will never reach your full potential. Focus on achieving your goals, big and small.

 

Hi man,
you are going to tough times.

You told that she broke up with you, not face to face but online.
Does that mean that you never had a chance to ask her for an explanation?
If you spend 2 years together, you probably have the right to hear what moved her out your relationship.
Why don't you ask her for clarity? That may help you.

But I do understand that you 're scared for being hurt even more.
Take care of yourself first. Try to talk about your feelings with somebody in real life.
If things doesn't get any better, don't be afraid to ask for some professional help.
When I read your story, it may be possible that you suffer from some deep issues you may have to face.

 

sorry to hear that. what helped me immensely were this two videos, maybe they can help you too.

 

Ghost79, love hurts.
The less love you have for someone the less it hurts.

However, as @Roady mentioned, you need to take care of yourself first. This is really important.
Find other ways to fill the emptiness or feelings of sadness you may have. You owe that to yourself.
She has decided, for whatever reason - and it could be many or simply just one - but she has decided to walk away.

So, how long are you going to miss her? Have you considered that? What if you get a new woman in your life, settle down with her, and have children - are you still going to miss this woman that has broken up with you? Well, maybe you will. How will that impact your future life/wife?

Get all your emotions out, yes! But plan to move on too. When you're ready of course, but start getting prepared to move on.

Oh wow, I've just watched the videos that @matt2k12 shared above. They say it all. Nuff said.

 

That means she already lost her feelings for you way back in January, and maybe even before then. So of course she’s moved on by now.. and I wouldn’t be surprised if she has another man. I’m sorry to tell you this, but it’s the truth. She did you dirty man, you have to let go. Are you practicing semen retention?

 

Very familiar story, and I understand the need for closure. The truth is, you probably won't get it. I doubt she is even being honest with herself why she broke things off, let alone is able to explain it to you in the way it makes sense.

Best thing to do is to create lots of new happy memories without her, to stop you wallowing on the times she was with you. Don't sweat it if you keep thinking you'd rather she was there, or you want to tell her about it. Avoid going to places or doing things that were special to you both, but other than that go nuts. Hang out with friends or make new ones. Go on holiday if you can afford it, alone if necessary. And go on some dates - not to 'replace' her, just take some girls out, have some drinks, flirt and have fun. Hell, have some disastrous dates and laugh about them with your friends afterwards.

Her birthday? Pour your heart out in a letter, and then burn it