1. Welcome to NoFap! We have disabled new forum accounts from being registered for the time being. In the meantime, you can join our weekly accountability groups.
    Dismiss Notice

Should i start hanging out with girls or be more patient?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by A Naija boy, Sep 13, 2021.

  1. A Naija boy

    A Naija boy Fapstronaut

    316
    710
    93
    So 40 days ago, i decided to do no pmo hard mode, And i deleted all my social media apps(WhatsApp, instagram and Fb) which made my rebooting process easier and enjoyable.
    Originally, i wanted to do 90 days no pmo hard mode, then I’ll go back to social media, meet girls virtually/physically and only O to them physically.
    So far in my rebooting process, I’ve had passed my first flatline and have conquered my chaser effects when i had my wet dream on day 28. Right now, i feel like meeting girls and talking to them as i feel more confident than ever buh i wont yet install back my social media as its my major trigger to pmo.
    Its been all on my mind since last week. But i have been confused cos i feel like am cheating thru my inital no pmo plan. I need you guys advice. What should i really do?
     
  2. FpsMato

    FpsMato Fapstronaut

    122
    403
    63
    That depends how you feel.Cause from my experience when I do nofap I get mentally unstable and emotionally vulnerable for about 200-300 days.Even the slightest thing can make me super depressed.If you can relate then definetely NO! Cause when girl rejects you you will feel the pain 10X more.Talking from experience here.But if you feel like youre on top of world and very stable emotionally then go ahead.
     
    Nugget9 likes this.
  3. A Naija boy

    A Naija boy Fapstronaut

    316
    710
    93
    I relate with you tho. But i got this mentality that if a gurl rejects me, there are plenty other fishes in the sea.
    What’s really my drive to go out to and meet girls is to finally break this virginity of mine. As i dont have social media installed yet, I believe i can O with real girls right now.
     
  4. FpsMato

    FpsMato Fapstronaut

    122
    403
    63
    Well i have same mindset but when iam on nofap my brain releases stress hormones either way.Its up to you man if you can handle it go for it.Girl i been out with rejected me even though we kissed,and did some nsfw things and it hit me hard and I didnt think that rejection would hit me as hard.If youre gonna go for it then happy hunting man.
     
  5. Divine Write

    Divine Write Fapstronaut

    37
    27
    18
    Of course you should meet and hang out with women. They provide great company.

    I assume the question here really is, should I have sex? To that I would say, put yourself in the situation to have sex first before you worry too much about it. When the offer is actually on the table you’ll know what to do.
     
  6. A Naija boy

    A Naija boy Fapstronaut

    316
    710
    93
    The question isnt to have sex. My plan originally was to do no pmo 90 days and meet girls and have sex after ive completed that challenge.
    buh am 41 days in, and am having the urge to hangout and meet girls, but not with the intention of having sex till after 90 days.
     
  7. Divine Write

    Divine Write Fapstronaut

    37
    27
    18
    There’s nothing wrong with meeting and hanging out with girls. Make friends.

    Are you concerned it will trigger you?
     
  8. Depends on you really and your triggers. I am trying this nofap thing for 1 year and a half, and honestlyI got 14 days best like 4 5 times, but I relapsed because I wasn't focused on a real life goal. Now I am day 9 but I got to talk with some womans that made me really horny, even made my d hard, but I didn't do anything or even worse binge with what happened or go for p.

    In the beginning for me p memories were a trigger, they rarely pop up in in mind or rarely I feel I need to binge on them, later womans showing interest were a trigger, now they aren't anymore, they can do whatever they want I am strong and I can control myself.

    You really need to know your triggers, note what makes you relapse, what makes you go in that zone of keep thinking of doing it, and above all develop goals in real life to replace the time thinking on nothing to some activity that is rewarding and not very stressful, this way you train your mind to be focused on something real rather than whatever else that raises your stress levels, your emotions, or makes you unstable to get a relief.
    P is mind control, if you let it talk to your mind, then your mind will listen, you have to find something else to expose your mind so it gets trained with what life would be normal, I don't really think real life womans are a problem if you are trained enough to look at them like people and not drop your eyes on their cleavage or legs. If you can focus alone on things that matter and make your mind focused, you can hold a conversation with a woman being in control and talking real life stuff.

    It all depends on your triggers and how you react against challenging situations. I have been horny yesterday and today because of some womans but then I put my phone down and minded my own business, since I am day 9 and never passed day 14, this time I feel confident like never.
     
  9. A Naija boy

    A Naija boy Fapstronaut

    316
    710
    93
    UPDATE
    So i saw a girl today. We have been talking over the phone and we met for the first time today.
    When i first hugged her, i felt a little hard. I’m sure she felt it, but am not really bothered about it.
    But am excited about this meeting cos there were things i can do now that I couldn’t before:
    -maintaining eye contact
    -actually getting hard when being with a girl
    -more confidence when interacting with a girl

    These are huge positives. But so far, am not feeling triggered to PMO.
     
  10. pump20

    pump20 Fapstronaut

    451
    483
    63
    Well, you shouldn't be chasing females because you're wasting time and energy what you could have saved up for something productivity. Let them chase you. Either they come or pass. There's no in-between.
     
  11. Khufu

    Khufu Fapstronaut

    899
    40,535
    123
    My Journal
    a females companionship either friend or boy/girl friend form is great, dont pmo at any of these times, if you dont M others well appreciate yourhigh energy
     
  12. A Naija boy

    A Naija boy Fapstronaut

    316
    710
    93
    Am not chasing them relentlessly or aimlessly. If there are some I genuinely like, i gotta make an approach. That mentality of women should be chasing you shouldn’t be a standard in seeking relationships.
     
  13. A Naija boy

    A Naija boy Fapstronaut

    316
    710
    93
    Totally man, i gotta be careful tho. This is where the real battle to conquer pmo begins
     
  14. BATTLEWOLF

    BATTLEWOLF Fapstronaut

    44
    55
    18
    It depends on you what you want achieve. I personally don't want girlfriend because I have better things to do in life, but the thing is when am avoiding girls they begin to come by themselves.
     

Share This Page