50 days, yet i still want to watch porn

You see, the fact that you still want to watch it everyday is not good.

You are basically saying, I need to watch porn like I need to drink water everyday, see? It doesn't sound fine, doesn't it?

You are basically saying: I'm a slave to sexual urges, I can't live without watching people having sex. Doesn't sound good either, does it?

You need to retain control of your life. You've watched porn for 10+ more life, be conscient that you've enjoyed enough and therefore you don't need more of that stuff. Besides, porn doesn't bring you any good. It just start to change your brain and your dopamine receptors will be messed up. You really need to stay away from it.

 

50 days isn't enough time IMO. It needs to be a lot longer. Think about all those chemicals going crazy in your brain while you masturbated to them. You're missing that hit, and your brain is in the process of 'breaking up' with porn.

Just take one day at a time, and allow your body and mind the time to readjust. Your desire to watch porn won't be there forever. Maybe one day, you'll switch it on, and then switch it off again, because you'll have adjusted mentally, and you won't want it to anymore.

Time is a great healer. Take it one day at a time. Acknowledge the urge to watch porn is there, and decide not to watch it. That's all you can do, until the rewiring process is at a point where the desire to watch porn is no longer a dominant force in your life.

 

In my opinion, you need to start building better habits, and find healthy things that you enjoy, in order to be rid of this urge to use PMO. There’s so much more to life than porn

 

I'm 49 days in and I have no desire to watch porn and I rarely think about it. You need to work on yourself and overcome your personal weaknesses.

 

I'm in the same situation as you. Today is day 48.

I replaced pmo with meditation, working out often, eating healthy, sleep well and hanging out with friends more. I think I can live without pmo but I still miss the dopamine high, sure a meditation-/workout session is great but it does not give me the same high. I must say life is brighter than before but still I hope something like real healthy sex will give me an dopamine high again. I think I don't miss pmo (altough it feels so) but I miss the quick easy high it gave me. I feel 1000% better about myself, more motivation & confidence. I just hope that this memory of that dopamine high will fade away with time or that something gets close to it like healthy sex. I rememberd that also gave me a real high. What you guys think?

 

What everyone else said here is the truth. If all you want is to watch porn then it sounds like you can use more time in being more productive if you are already doing so. That means to work out, eat healthier, create a hobby etc. The addictive mind is wanting that hit of dopamine and it will do anything to try and get it. I'm not saying to fight those urges however my advice will be to embrace those urges. Acknowledge them, close your eyes, breath and wait till they go away.

 

Don't get too confident. I felt exactly the same up until day 56, I said I could go on forever but then extreme urges came out of nowhere and a week later I relapsed big time.

 

Thanks for the warning, I'll be careful, today is day 50 and I'm getting to 60 days even if it kills me.

Let me say this though, urges don't come out of nowhere, you did something you shouldn't have done which lead to those urges appearing.

Aslong as I follow my rules, continue learning and improving myself, I don't fear failure.

 

You are correct but in my experince urges can appear from nowhere too. It's just part of the rewiring where the brain will replay certain clips or pics and if you entertain either of those then you will be making it worse for yourself.

 

Man, I don't think I am a heavy porn user. I watched it periodically for like 3-4 years, and I am in my mid 30s. I am clean from it for almost half years now. Although I did accidentally saw it twice during this period of time, (like a few seconds from Twitter account but I always close it immediately...) some scenes still pop up in my mind every now and then. It's hard, but not impossible. Keep on!

 

I completely disagree with those saying that having urges to watch porn is not a normal phenomenon after being on a long streak of abstinence.

Regardless of how long you have abstained yourself from a stimulus that you desire, an addict will always be an addict, just like how people addicted to alcohol can be sober for a whole year but yet find themselves relapsing as soon as they are presented with alcohol in front of them.

Having strong desires for something is completely normal and is part of our survival mechanism, cravings for sex will be there for as long as you are alive. Some days do get better but for the most part it's learning either how to avoid the triggers as much as you can or coping with the urges when they arises. Put it simply just because something is normal doesn't mean you should give in to it, at least that's my personal take on it.

 

I get a desire to have sex. my urges disappeared and then came back. Your brain pathways are a bit strong. I feel you. I'm on day 74. I'm not out of the woods yet. far from it. I have a little while to go, but I still get desires. Sexual desire is expected and a part of human nature.

bonus blue jay.