Is Sex Important?

I think when you go a long time of no PMO, than you at some point won't be interested into sex anymore, but it may take a lot of time and discipline.

 

I feel like it only matters if you yourself actually think it is important.

For instance what I have noticed I do a lot is worry about what other people might think, and then the worry of what other people might think actually depresses me more than not having sex, not having a girlfriend etc.

If you're genuinely upset because you never have sex or don't have a girlfriend then yes I would say this is important. But if you're only worried about what other people think, then I would say this shouldn't be important at all.

 

I'm 36 years old, been addicted to MO since- we're going to say 13. I was, technically speaking, a virgin when I married. I had a lot of S when married, but that died off and besides, I remained addicted to MO throughout. This last streak I started having not had actual S for over a year.

S is important because we make it important. Obviously it's necessary for procreation. It's great for pair bonding, because skin to skin contact activates oxytocin, the hormone responsible for security and trust. It's also obviously fun, but we CAN live without it.

Many consider it essential for our mental health, as mentioned above, it is good for our relationship with a pair-bonded mate, but as for physical health, no, it is not important. You will not explode, you won't get cancer, you won't necessarily go crazy if you don't have S. If you convince yourself you must and you are a failure of a human being if you don't, sure. You gave yourself a complex. Now you need it in order to believe you are a fulfilled human being. If you convince yourself you are fine without it, you can be fine without it.

Yes you can, and I think you should, especially if you currently have a dependence on PMO. If you can be at peace with yourself without S, that's a piece of maturity you can take with you into all of life. Furthermore, without investing your energy into chasing down S, you can put it toward becoming the kind of person a woman wants to bond with. Which ironically means S.

I am sorry to have to say, but if your body is accustomed to regular O, perhaps daily, perhaps multiple times daily, life is going to suck. Your body is used to over producing semen, and it will keep doing that. Your balls will ache, and your brain will prompt you to MO. this is your state of being until your balls get the message and stop over producing semen. Meantime, your body simply reabsorbs that unused jizz. Some say it redirects those nutrients to other things like hair and testosterone and you'll grow a monkey tail or some such, and maybe it's true, maybe not (the tail part is not true, that was a joke. I mean the other things). All I do know for sure is, being single and learning to become comfortable with your life without S, or O of any kind, is going to help you get lasting recovery and increase your chances of becoming a successful person, no matter how you define success.

Best of luck, and hang in there for the next few weeks. It's miserable, I know, and I'm sorry. If it were easy, everyone would do it.

 

Yes, it is important. But not because of the act itself, it’s the companionship and intimacy that matters, for mine.

Humans are pack animals. Our brains are wired to feel good and reward us for it - which is why the effect of porn is so damn damaging. It changes that.

Don’t worry about not having a girlfriend. It will come in time. It’s good (and normal) to have urges, just above all else don’t relapse. You’ll thank yourself for it later when you’ve got a girl in your bed.

 

I wanna know if Sex is important to us Guys, and can we Guys live without it?
I can only speak for myself. I think it's important when we make it that way. When it's in our lifestyle. In my experience we can live without it.

Is it important for our Health or for anything else in Life?
I don't think so. If our body needs to ejaculate sperm than it will do it when we sleep. Other than that maybe it's good just for the experience.. You can talk about it with other humans, you can relate when you see it in a movie.. Maybe you feel more confident after you had sex with that girl etc..

And can we Boys live without SEX it if we don't find girlfriends?
I never had sex before my 17th birthday, because it wasn't important enough for me at that time (gaming + porn)

Then, from my 17th birthday until my 26th birthday I had sex with 25 different girls. Some in relationships. That's because it was important for me, I want to explore, I was a student and went out a lot. I wanted to "live" like every friend was saying "you need to live man!"

After that, since my 26th birthday until now (I'm 29 years old), I not even had sex once. That's because my focus is not on girls but on my business. I'm not a broke student anymore I earn money and want to build a family couple of years from now.

So I think it's where you lay your attention. You can make it important. You can make it unimportant.

 

Society and sex
Because of this situation of the society in which we find ourselves, sex has entered every pore of this society. The story of sex runs in a completely negative way, regardless of the true values not only of sex but also of man as such. Through pornography, the media and through social networks, we can see that the importance of sex has totally turned in a different direction, promoting it much more than before, it has totally lost the value it once contained. Hypersexual society has made it all come down to sex and urges and lust, ignoring the real truth about it.


Sex is a natural thing for a man, which as such must be a union of two people who are spiritually connected. Sex must not be limited to passion, because its weight will not be felt in the true sense, but the same desire for it will weaken. It is much more than the size of our attributes, whether female or male, it is much more than our drives. Sex must be a combination of the intimacies of two human beings, and the little mystery that will make people feel wonderful. We must not allow our intimacy and our own being to be sold in a very cheap way, by going to parties or by renting a prostitute in a very unworthy way to approach our being. It should be kept for the man who deserves it. Only in this way, through spirituality, will we feel what needs to be felt, sex in the full sense, something that is not practiced so often and something that makes us feel better tomorrow and that will make us progress in every aspect.

It is subjective to talk about whether sex matters. The weakness of a man and his quality is to get rid of all his instincts with his partner and thus to enjoy himself. Is that good, I talked about above, only if an element of spirituality is present. Mostly sex makes people feel much more comfortable in life because of that nice feeling, reduces stress, and allows the relationship to progress in a healthy sense, and in that way we become better people. If sex is going to make us better as people in every sense then that matters. However, I mentioned the subjectivity factor. There are people for whom sex is not so important, and who see sex only as enjoyment and nothing more. Such people should not be excluded, but listened to and perhaps make some sense. If sex allows you to feel beautiful in the moment, if it makes you better, if it allows your relationship with your partner to work better, if you are happy with whom you share your intimacy, sex is important.

When sex is bad?
Sex is disgusting only if it is reduced only to instincts, in the long run nothing positive can be extracted from it. We will remain dissatisfied with ourselves, with all our fears and regrets, with unmet needs, we will be dragged through our whole life and in that way life will make us miserable, and we will feel very dissatisfied. By reducing it exclusively to passion, sex then fades after a while, because it does not satisfy us and then we only need stronger and stronger doses of unnecessary activities, in that way we only destroy ourselves.

When sex is good for us?
Sex for short-term gratification is wonderful, but if it affects us badly in the long run, such as sharing intimacy with people who don't deserve it, it shouldn't be practiced. Sex is important if it builds us positively as a person, if it gives meaning to our relationship and life, and if it makes us happy without perversions and without engaging in some unnecessary activities.

Sex is not a physiological need of a man, a man can live without sex, only if there is no partner who would deserve it. If such a partner is found and evaluated, it remains only on your agreement. Man, being weak as a being, must sometimes, in order to feel satisfied, practice those things which make him satisfied in the moment, but never go on indefinitely.

 

I would say that not necessarely. It's in our natural biological condition to be obsessed over it, though.