MEN: PLEASE STAY VIRGINS!

I wouldn't say that all men should remain virgins for life. I do think marriage should be encouraged for those attracted to it. But, yes, sex is for procreation, not recreation. But the other nuance that society doesn't quite grasp even there is, given the premise that sex is for making babies, why should anyone have ever come up with the idea that nature owes them a full, ongoing, productive sex life from age 15 to 80, and at any cost. What if nature hasn't built up sex upon that false expectation - even among married people. Hence, it may very well be that even among marrieds, sex might be occasioned by nature for a very limited period (and even that window can be inhibited by other environmental factors), and that much of the marriage will need to grow into even deeper, intimate relationship that transcends the genitals. Who would have thunk it? You know, many marriages that are on the rocks because of sexual failures perhaps need to give up the idea that nature intends for sex to be perennial, the be all and end all, the central most important part of the relationship, and for the sake of its pleasure alone, which can be very self-centered, actually, when using a partner's body as your own masturbatory toy for your own pleasure, absent any other purpose of sex.
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It’s hard to understand because it’s stupid. People change. The brain changes. Physiology changes. Circumstances change. What you’re essentially saying is that even if someone has changed drastically from what they were 10 years ago, that they’re the same person. It’s fucking stupid man. Just stop.

 

BE SIGMA MALES.

 

this is like saying feet are made for shoes; sex is whatever you want it to be, you do not have to listen to people trying to tell you they know better than you what you should be doing with your body.
Carpe Omnia.

 

Your analogy seems way off - more parallel to your example would be: sex is for condoms, like feet are for shoes. I'd say that sex is for procreation, like feet are for walking, perhaps. Sure, feet can be for whatever else you want, I guess, choose any sick fetish: bite your toenails during lunchtime at work, slobber and suck your toes, kick your own ass down the street, whatever. You might just end up in a psycho-ward. Hey, but whatever you want!

So, too, with doing whatever you want with your own body: legalize suicide, kill someone with their consent, mainstream cutting, poison your body with drugs, PMO until your willy falls off. There are those who want to cut limbs or blind their eyes out of mental illness. But let's call that normal, functioning behavior. Hey, it's your body!

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Really? I just happened by. Ha!

 

this is a great thread and these are all great reasons as to why i am staying abstinent myself, God bless you brother.

 

Sex is so overrated I can't think of anything being more overrated.

 

Your ignorance is alarming. Unless you have abstained from masturbation for all 30 years, then you are no better. You don't even have a counter we can see, why is that? You are addicted to sexual pleasure just like they are. The only difference is they actually do the real thing, instead of fake sex with your hand. Too bad your brain doesn't know the difference.

 

You implied it when you compared yourself to him by saying you can go 30 years without sex and he cant go a few weeks. Meanwhile, you've been having sex with your hand the entire time.

So you're telling me that you're certain that having sex makes things worse for pmo addicts? Remind me again how you can be sure of that if you've never had sex? Oh right.. because you saw one post that confirmed your bias.

Uh... the dude was having sex with prostitutes. Did you ever consider that there's a huge difference between having sex in a relationship, and having sex with prostitutes? As for his description of watching porn and smelling them through the screen.. that is definitely the stupidest thing I've read today. Do you have any other examples of men's experiences helping you come to this conclusion, considering you have absolutely no experience yourself? Or did you come to this conclusion based on this 1 post alone?

Yeah... do you think straight men watch gay porn? There's a difference between seeking novelty when watching porn, and "escalating" to gay porn, or golden showers. I'll ask again, please use your head. Oh and also, please show us your counter, I'd like to know if you have any credibility whatsoever.

 

I dont get why you post this and then at the same time post how to get women , how to approach them , pick one side.

 

I'm saving mine for a special person. And I believe in Sex After Marriage

 

It seems that there is a difference in opinions on this thread. It is okay and normal to have different opinions and methods. However we can all agree that we have a common enemy here and it is porn. Whats that saying about the enemy of my enemy is my friend. Lets try to have more of that mentality here. I have not read all this thread and for that reason I might be wrong on what it is all about. But I have read comments that aim to hurt or to annoy the other person. I know it feels good to blow some steam and argue with people to release those aggressive emotions. I have done it as well. I think it is even easier online since it is some random person. I have done it with my family sometimes, lashing out over some small things because I was already built up frustration from other stuff as well. I always regretted it afterwards if I have let my self to admit it. We are all family here in the end. Or an army that is in war with porn. Some people have other battles and enemies that others dont like masturbation, or sexual relations. But instead of focusing on these differences I think we should focus on the common enemy. Everyone loves to be right, one could even argue that I am doing this post just to feel that I am right. And I have no arguments against that. Also I am fully aware that I could be wrong myself here. I still believe that we should do our best to respect our allies against the same opponent. Because if a country is in a war against itself it has already lost. I live in Finland and we had a civil war as soon as we became independent. Ironic huh? After we got a common enemy we unified. Not to start a discussion about war or politics, I just thought that metaphorically that goes well here. There will always be differences in opinion and philosophies. But as long as we share a common enemy, lets not use our energy against each other. We all know opinions can change but we can not change others opinions. If we want to share our opinions lets state it in a way that it is clear that it is only our opinion, even though for us it can be the truth. I know I can also state my opinions in a disrespectful way. So I am no saint here. Just makes me feel sad to see threads full of negative comments go to pages on pages long. And then have threads about people just starting and asking for help have next to no replies. I think we all can have opinions and methods to approach this problem and sharing them with the new guys with the differences in the approach to this problem is a good thing. They then can choose the approach that feels the best for them. I've been going on for a while now, I just thought I would share my thoughts on this. Stay strong against the urges and porn.

 

I loved when I lost my virginity and it was well before being married.