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I’m addicted to hearing about girls’ sex lives

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by superstorm250, May 21, 2019.

  1. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    I'm sorry to hear that you have given up. There is no reason for me to try to help if that's the case. Hope everything works out for you in the end
     
  2. superstorm250

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    Just wanted to bump this thread because I unfortunately relapsed with this again last night. I’m currently staying in the same room of the same family member’s house back when this addiction was at its peak for me and the room I’m staying in has no TV so the only entertainment I have is my phone. Between that and being back in the same environment from when this addiction started, I gave into temptation. I made a post on r/dirtykikpals and a girl responded and we ended up talking for like 3 hours about her sex life. I felt like shit for giving in and doing this again, I just hope when I’m back at home that I can go back to staying clean from this.
     
  3. TimeToQuitNow

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    You need a new form of entertainment. Maybe buy a Gameboy. They are old at this point so I'm sure you can get a cheap one. I don't know, just the first idea that came to mind.

    (I looked it up. The price varies on model. But I was able to find some online for $30 or less).
     
  4. Thanks for sharing man. What makes you confident a real girl was responding to your inquiry?
     
  5. superstorm250

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    Haha I actually have one somewhere at home but I never play it, I downloaded a GBA emulator to my computer so that’s what I mostly use to play GBA games.
     
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  6. superstorm250

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    Well her profile pic on Kik was a pic of a girl, but I know that really means nothing because anyone can take a picture of a girl off the internet and make it their profile pic on a platform like that. She was also saying she’s not into everything that I asked her about, which I hope meant that that she was actually a girl because a guy catfishing probably would’ve said that they’re into everything that I asked about. But I have been catfished while doing this, back when I first created this thread the girl I mentioned in my first post that I was chatting with all day about her sex life turned out to be a guy catfishing me. So you just never know, I guess my imagination just makes me disregard that possibility and assume I’m actually talking to a girl when in reality I shouldn’t and I need to learn that if I’ve been catfished from doing this before, there’s a very good chance that will happen again.
     
  7. superstorm250

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    Unfortunately I have to bump this thread again because I had another relapse with this. The other night, I was on the website GirlsAskGuys where you can ask questions and also filter them to where only girls or guys can answer your question. So I was bored and horny and decided to post a question filtered to where only girls could answer and the question was “When did you last have sex?” Two girls responded and one said she had sex that morning when her and her bf woke up and the other said that her bf is on his way home and they’re probably gonna have sex once he’s home.

    I replied to the first girl who answered and said that I had a couple follow up questions and I asked her what positions they did, and after that I told her that I actually have several more questions I’d like to ask her about her sex life if she doesn’t mind and she said to go ahead and DM her so we can talk about it in private. So we DM’ed and talked about her sex life and sexual habits and then I also replied to the other girl and she said to DM her too if I want to talk more. So I did and had the same type of conversation with her too, I think its done now because both of them have not responded anymore, but unfortunately I still do struggle with this.
     
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  8. FrequencyLimbos

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    your mentality is killing you right now. If you think you're never getting sex then you'll never get it.
     
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  9. FrequencyLimbos

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    I'd be thinkin "damn, why can't i have that" i would hate talking to real women about their sex life, it's just a site fir jealousy and hatred.
     
  10. FrequencyLimbos

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    maybe they're turned off by the quitting attitude you've made for yourself? I wouldn't date a negative person, would you?
     
  11. Wow. Totally my thing. Must needs read and follow this thread!
     
  12. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    Delete your account on GirlsAskGuys and also block that girl. It is time to recover. I actually got a little horny reading it and I didn't even have the details. This things can be dangerous. So stay alert.
     
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  13. Reborn16

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    Honestly sounds like you're reaching out for intimacy.

    Would you have any unresolved trauma around relationships? How you think women view you? How you view yourself?

    Don't have to answer here, but it might help to dive deeper with questions like that.

    Chatting with girls about their sex life is a symptom, not the problem. Find your underlying problem. What do you really get in exchange for this activity?

    I'll give you an example, because I've done similar things. When I talk to a girl about her sex life, I think I'm somehow processing the emotional pain of not having a sex life myself for most of my adult life.

    Rather than talk it out with someone I trust, and try to move back into the dating world from where I am with my experience now, I often find comfort in giving up before trying and talking to a girl from the perspective of a guy that's not worthy of her...

    This might be fun, you could call it roleplay, but when it's the only way we experience intimacy, and when it's not even with another human being to touch, it's ultimately pushing us further away from healthy intimacy.
     
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  14. I struggle with this stuff as well, not asking women per se about their sexual life but going into conversations with sexual thoughts in mind but not sexting per se, just trying to get into that topic of conversation. Be it Tinder, Badoo, other dating apps or local anonymous chatrooms there's always some horny girls in various places who are in the mood for talking and/or meeting up to get at it. Even after stopping watching porn about half a year ago I kept fapping, and now as I've been flirting again and again after deleting previous accounts my GF found out, was shocked but somehow believed me and tries to support me, but with all the other stresses in life i keep slipping up and going to these sites...
     
  15. superstorm250

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    Bumping this thread again because this section of my PMO addiction has made a bad comeback. Like I said in my first post on this thread, one bad part about being addicted to this is that it actually tries to convince you that this is healthier than P because you’re talking with a girl who’s 18+ who is willingly telling you about her sexual encounters. Its NOT healthier. Its actually worse than P videos if anything because like I already said, it can be extremely time consuming and addictive.

    You’ll find yourself not even being able to go 5 minutes without checking your messages on whatever platform you’re using to see if the girl who’s talking to you has responded yet, and you won’t wanna walk away from messaging her because you don’t know if she’ll lose interest or forget about your convo if you try to message her again sometime later. Last night, I was up all night talking with a girl all about her sex life and didn’t go to bed until 8AM the next morning, then I didn’t wake up until 3PM and wasted the whole day. Meanwhile this addiction can try to make you think that this is the healthiest version of PMO and helps you quit, don’t fall for it, I still can’t break free.
     
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  16. kondziu

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    This is a problem.
    I even talked to the teens about sex on roulette video chats.

    Perhaps we need something to distract us from thinking dirty all the time. What it may be?
     
  17. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    Get productive. Work on your goals (whatever that may be)
     
  18. superstorm250

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    Bumping this thread again and for the first time since starting this thread, its actually a positive update. Like I said the last time I updated this thread, I turned to the website GirlsAskGuys to try and talk with girls on there about their sex lives since that site lets you ask questions with the added feature of only allowing girls to answer and that site actually has a sexual behavior category for questions, so you can easily ask sexual questions that only girls can answer.

    Most of the time, the girls who would agree to DM after answering a question would stop responding eventually, but then I came across a girl who was very responsive, this was the girl I mentioned in my last update who I was up all night talking to. She never ghosted me and would give me very detailed descriptions about her sex life. I couldn’t get enough of talking to her, but I knew that I needed to stop. So I even ended up trying to do whatever I could to get her to stop responding, like admitting to her that I’ve been getting off to what she’s telling me. But she said that she didn’t mind at all that it was getting me off and was willing to keep talking to me and tell me more. I gave in and kept talking to her, but then I eventually followed the advice of TimeToQuitNow and deleted my account.

    Then last week, I began to feel tempted to reach out to this girl again because I remembered her username, so I made a new account but the way that GirlsAskGuys works is that new accounts need a certain amount of points in order to unlock the ability to DM other users. I quickly tried to rack up as many points as I could to unlock that, but I saw that the site updates your point total once every 24-48 hrs. So it would take days to unlock DM’s again on that site. Deleting my account was the best decision I made, because I came to my senses before it could be unlocked and I deleted my new account before it could be unlocked. Also, my phone’s operating system is too outdated for Kik to work anymore either and I’m deliberately not updating it so that I can’t relapse with that either. So glad to actually update this thread with good news for once!
     
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