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Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Legacy of Lost Soul, Sep 25, 2021.

  1. Legacy of Lost Soul

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    Its a destiny of hard mode. I had 3 girls over me all of sudden. And the destiny is, I need to pick one, because Im not a player to have 3 and feel good about it.

    1st I had a date with, she is into me on a real soul level. I told her everything, even my suicidal thoughts which I never shared to anyone in RL. She wants me bad.

    2nd I met today. I was at a lake. Very cold water and I went in. Saw her comming to me. Beautiful body. She was hesitant of cold, but I cheered her, she went naked and in water close to me. Than we spent rest of the day together on grass near lake, touching and getting dirty. But no O from me, Im stronger than that.

    3rd one is a girl from my high school. I invited her for a naked bathing tomorrow. She was in. But today Ive told her straighr up I met someone else and that Im sorry. I cant play it on more sides, eff that.

    So that leaves me with 2 options. One girl which is sexy as hell and has some sex ideas Im very into. But she is most likely not into me on soul level.

    Or the girl which is not super sexy on a 1st glance (but nice as well, tall model body) but is into me on a deeper level.

    She cant meet me tomorrow. And the other one will be at lake and I will be there as well - that was my plan even be4 I met her there.

    Im a bit scared I will not be able to resist the lake lady and I will loose the other one, with which I connect on deeper level.

    Its a choice between the lady with a body I always wanted and type of sex I always wanted to try. And a girl which likes me a lot.

    This is not easy. And its not happening by a accident. This is a TEST.
     
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  2. Sounds like you are getting a chance to learn plate theory.
     
  3. JoeinUSA

    JoeinUSA Fapstronaut

    Too bad that you threw away girl 3. She sounded like the one. The others won't last, it seems to me. Good luck!
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  4. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    Go for the one you like the most, she will eventually start to like you more. Don't feel sorry for the girl that likes you a lot, the safe bet will never make you happy.

    Simply think: if I let this girl go, will I regret it? Do I see myself forever with her?

    If the answer is yes, that is the one. Sometimes is not just the most logical answer, you need to connect with your heart to give you answers in the love department.

    It seems in this case the lake girl is the one
     
  5. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    Too many girls, come on bro that is not a problem, it means you have plenty to choose and you choose the one you like the most
     
  6. nfpexperiment

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    Maybe a advice ?if your goal is long term relationship, Do not get sexual too fast, just talk, get to know her mind. Why not sex too fast ? I have heard, It will create some kind of boundage with the person, breaking up will be harder.
    P.s. I am still a virgin for this reason. I do pmo. Just wanted to share what I heard, I cannot prove wether this theory is true or false.
     
  7. Legacy of Lost Soul

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    Risk of having sex early is that u will get bonded with a person u do not fit well with. After the sex spell wears off u will split and get hurt. That relationship was bad since day 1 to day zero.

    If u decided to date for 1 month with same person, than on 6th date u realize u hate him/her and get the f out, not loosing another year with her.
     
  8. Legacy of Lost Soul

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    Too many choices is just stressfull... all these girls are just a distraction. I will be glad when they are gone
     
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  9. nfpexperiment

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    @Legacy of Lost Soul , what your age ? Between 20-25 years ?
     
  10. p1n1983

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    Player is a guy that date 3 woman and hide to them the existence of each other.

    I would definitevely date all of them and be open about the fact that i'm single and dating other woman.
    If a woman dump me because she spect me to be only dating her from day one im ok with letting her go. I only give exclusivity to woman that earned it.
    It's totally fine to date multiple people while you are single and you didn't found a person that is worth to be exclusive with, and the only way to found one is after knowing her for a couple of months of dating.
     
  11. nfpexperiment

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    Not so sure about this, it would be better to choose one and date one, if that doesn't work out, close that chapter then date another.
     
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  12. I 100% agree with this. If you're just starting to date someone I see no problem with dating multiple people at the same time, as long as exclusivity was not discussed with any of the women.

    I think the only exception to this would be is if you were friends with someone for a while and then start dating.
     
  13. Legacy of Lost Soul

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    Im 38. I did not feel good about dating multiple ppl at all so I go by that feeling and do not do it.

    I chose one, spent two days with her and now I feel really bad. She wes deep in P.. so I planted a seed in her. She was already escalated, I told her what P does etc and she told me 1st night in a msg she want to end it and did not use it.

    But man.. things she told me.. Im NOT a puritan at all.. but these things resonate in my mind and Im thoroughly disgusted with it.

    She told me what male behave like and what they wanted from her, her experiences etc and Ive lost faith.. we are doomed society. I feel like even these ideas and words poisoned me and today I feel really dirty and my mind is not at ease at all...

    Irs over with her. And Im trully most likely over with dating for now. I know its generalization but most of women are like her, and most of men are like what she told me. I dont want any part in that.

    I really feel like puking. This was way beyond anything I thought is going on and I thought Ive seen it heard it all, as a ex P addict who also reads a lot of forum posts here about sex issues etc...

    Blah... allow me to scratch this dating and recollect myself and than leave this society
     
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  14. nfpexperiment

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    @Legacy of Lost Soul , maybe when interacting with the woman, do not talk about sex, talk about other interesting things to know her mind, talk only about sex when you both think you are a good fit for each other for long term relationship.
     
  15. Legacy of Lost Soul

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    Talking about sex with her totally showed me we are not a good match. There should be no taboo on topics in my opinion.
     
  16. matt2k12

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    you should be able to talk openly with your woman. if you cannot open yourself up to her, and if she cannot open up herself to you, then what sorta relationship is this?
     
  17. Legacy of Lost Soul

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    Pls learn to understand the text. I talked with her about the sex and was really not enjoying what she told me so Im gone, I dont like her anymore. I wanted to puke for 2 days afterwards.

    Ppl are insane from the porn usage. She just reminded me that. Glad Im off that sh1t for 5 years already. Still feeling the destruction it inflicted on me.
     
  18. Icouldprobablyhelp

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    sounds like you should've chosen deep soul connection.. have these guys are talking about STD activity, dating multiple girls is fast track way to catch a disease unless you guys don't mind not kissing and Bj's with condoms..
    deep soul will make you happy.. I don't kno what lake girl told you to make you so sick (honestly would like to kno) but if she's a p addict herself and doesn't mind having sex with someone she just meets in water then I'm sure her life is not like most.. in fact I'm positive..
    most guys only behave how you allow them, she entertains guys Ie. alot of guys probably has her number talk and text her.. that opens the door for dic pics and alot of rude comments and gestures.. how many guys has she slept wit?
    vs soul girl who maybe BARELY gives out her number.. totally different life experiences and ppl.. for example. look how you passed up on her for a slut vs making her feel like a slut
     
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  19. Icouldprobablyhelp

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    choose wiser next time young grass hopper.. the worst part is you k Ew it was a text smh
     
  20. Legacy of Lost Soul

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    Well she told me TRIGGER

    About one bull guy fucking her and than comming home to another guy who ate that semen and fucked her afterwards... what a nice evening.

    Than some quickies with 30 years younger pal, and similar experiences.. much more.. and not only her experi3nces, but what guys want from her and how the world is...

    I never closed the door to a girl I felt really likes me, we chat, but she is ill now...
     

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