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[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.

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  1. Day 90. Thanks for all your support everyone. I feel like I learned a lot through this challenge. I believe, like any drug, the PMO cycle reinforces itself over time. The more you immerse yourself in porn, the more your brain will find a way to rationalize the next binge. The good news is abstaining from it can help your view readjust as its addictive effects lessen with time.

    I wanted to share a tactic I learned from people who have given up alcohol (I haven't had a drink in about 10 months now.) It's called "playing the tape forward". You see, at this point, you must be quite aware of the pattern which will play out when you PMO. I mean it's not a mystery anymore is it? After the dopamine rush, the temporary thrill and escape, you will end up on the downhill side of the experience feeling regret, shame, exhaustion, anxiety, etc. So a way to stop yourself acting out is just to imagine those feelings, that you know will happen, and use that to convince yourself that "it's just not worth it" to reinforce that cycle once again. It will only bring more negative outcomes in your life. Deep down you know this, but what helps is to stop in that moment and feel it, really feel the remorse, the frustration, the hopelessness that you know will be there after yet another PMO binge.

    The longer you abstain from the cycle, the more power you gain over it. You can see it from a higher level, rather than existing helplessly within it. You can gain a perspective that sees the whole process, and can avoid it altogether. Temptations may still arise from time to time, but you realize you do have a choice, you don't have to act out, you don't have to feel the pain of worsening addiction. You can have a future which is healthier, more fulfilling. You can regain your own self-respect and control over your life. You can be free.

    Best wishes to all. Don't give up, you can do it, and it's worth it.
     
    Last edited: Sep 29, 2021
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  4. MHero

    MHero Fapstronaut

    Thanks my friend for this valuable advice. And congrats on completing 90 days :emoji_medal:This is just the beginning ;)

    I had an urge today to PMO, i wasn't horny, but i felt the need to do it, it is like an annoying warning in my head. I used like the same technique you mentioned, i imagined how sad i will feel after PMOing, and concentrated on my work.
    I don't feel good, i didn't feel proud...i wonder why... I love that feeling of achievement when i stay clean...
    Maybe i just need more time...
    I really want to abstain from PMO forever. I hope i achieve 90 days this time...

    I wish you all the best ;)
    Stay strong.
     
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  7. ShinyTurtle

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    Day 11
    Today was my day off (basically every Wednesday is), and I just realized I didn't had any problems whatsoever today!
    Don't think I had such a productive day yet during my days off! I really feel more positive overall compared to the me of two weeks back!
     
  8. Rangula

    Rangula Fapstronaut

    18 days of creating a better life
     
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  9. Ed74

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    We have the same amount of days and i always like to see you post!
     
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  10. lookingtochange

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    Day 2/90. Another long day but at least good for the most part. Tomorrow will be a shorter day!
     
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  11. break the limits

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  12. Phoenix1

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    Day 2, strong urges this morning
     
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  13. PeaceOnEarth108

    PeaceOnEarth108 Fapstronaut

    4/90
    Failure is not an option.
     
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  14. Staysom

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  15. Jesushelps55

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    I relapsed im starting again from today 0 /90
     
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  16. KING RAGNAR

    KING RAGNAR Fapstronaut

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    let's go , let's do this

    It was the cleanest day of my entire life , no thoughts , no urge , KING IS BACK ON TRACK BABY
     
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  17. The seeker

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    Day 89 29 days without a drink I
    happy with insights I am a getting but worried about not getting morning wood as often as I would like. 90 days is a long time to go without just to physically and sexually see very little improvement. I do get the odd erections but they are so few and far between. What's even more strange is getting urges to masturbate without being particularly aroused.
     
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  18. Enginakos

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    Day 4 here check in. Stay all focused, happy and motivated!
     
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  19. Ever Forward

    Ever Forward Fapstronaut

    This tip was incredibly helpful just now! Reminded myself of why I stopped and how I would feel if I relapsed was more than enough to stop the urge. Resisting the urge gave me a huge headache though. As if I've forcefully snapped something in my head haha.
     
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