Cannot stop binge-relapsing (4 times a day)

I used to do the same thing, every relapse would end up in a binge for specific amount of days, and then i would start again. How i got around the issue ?

Well, the best i could do is stop relapsing. So i did, i did unfortunately relapse after 400 days but the catch is i didn't binge and kept my reboot on and the effects of relapse were minimal.

Its just how addiction works, its very easy to slip back. One thing that helped me reboot and not relapse is to avoid any potential way to relapse as best as i could. Why ? Because i knew if i relapsed, i would begin to binge. And man ...i didn't want to go through that shit again.

So, to give you my advice... Okay, now you have figured out that once you relapse, you're going on a binge and you know all the bad and negative shit it carries with it now you need to figure out why did you relapse. Is it because you can't handle stress, boredom or horniness ...or maybe all 3 ? Then my friend its time to rollup the sleeves and look for simple but effective healthy habits to build.
Look deep within, what causes you to relapse then do your best to not relapse and then you will work your way to eliminate binges by not relapsing. I speak from my own experience

 

You need to realize that your Reboot journey doesn't end with relapse, it continues the same second you relapse ...Many people think that once you relapse, that its over. That's the thing with counting days, i would suggest not counting days unless you go past your record as it can serve as motivation

But other than that, the reason why urges after first relapse are stronger is mainly because of this thing called chaser effect. Its temporarily it usually stays for 3 days to maximum of 10 days in my experience.

Chaser effect is more or less an amplified cravings due to neurological changes in your brain, as far as i know science didn't come up to a research why it happens, but it happens after relapse.

But what can you do about it ?

Here's what i would suggest. Accept that you relapsed, be aware that chaser effect will come and that its temporary. Be aware of your emotions, induce a self talk, convince yourself that these urges are not you but rather your chaser effect speaking, and most importantly accept the truth that you wont lose anything by choosing not to relapse, practice breathing techniques to calm yourself down and stay alert in present moment. And, make sure to stay productive ...say if you were taking walks outside, meditating and reading something useful every day ...then don't stop after that relapse. Keep going as if nothing happened, but learn from it
And obviously, be aware that it wont be easy ...and also, be patient. Wait it out, the ugly feeling of chaser effect and relapse will pass and you will get back on reboot more stronger and with clearer mind, plus you will actually be able to reboot faster

That's how i used to deal with myself, there's a lot of effort that need to be put in reboot. Its not just sitting idle all day and waiting for a magical hit and days to do its thing. There needs to be a lot of will, discipline ..you don't need to have those right away, but they eventually build up as you go with your reboot. I also suggest meditation