Celebrate Your Victories

I wanted to put this out there and see what others thought. I see a lot of posts here about people having a relapse and feeling like dirt (or worse) for failing, now that they've relapsed what is the point of trying, and life is a complete failure. As a porn addict for 30+ years I can totally understand those feelings and experienced them myself many times when trying to quit and relapsing.

I got serious again about NoFap and quitting porn on August 1st (today is September 23rd) so that's 54 days. In those 54 days, I have watched porn 5 times (4 in August, 1 in September, with the last time being on September 2nd). Could I beat myself and say I'm a failure and a loser for those 5 times? Sure I could but I have found if you approach it with the positive mindset your outlook may change. Instead I could say I have been successful 49 of the 54 days.

I guess my point is that there are going to be failures along the way. The journey to quitting porn is not easy but I am finding well worth it. If you relapse, try to learn from it and what triggered it. But at the same time if your streak was 5 days and you never made it that far before, feel good that you made it 5 days.

I guess my basic question is, do others feel there might be some benefit to tweaking your view point a little bit to find the positive that occurred before a relapse instead of focusing on the negative that you relapsed?

 

Today is September 30th, and I am celebrating that in the month of September I only watched porn on 1 day. that's the best I have ever done and currently 28 days PMO free.

Sure I wish i had not watched porn on that one day, but it was on September 2nd so I am focusing on the positive and having my best month ever of not watching porn.

 

Today I celebrate 40 days porn free. I know this addiction will always be part of my life, but I am so much happier right now without porn in my life.