Anyone read The Couple's Guide to Intimacy:?

Haven't read the book so can't really comment on it. I do have this thought though that I think you should consider. When was the book written? If it was before 2017 I would throw it in the trash. I would also consider the fact as I've read elsewhere repeatedly that it is most important to work on the addiction and betrayal trauma independently first before giving any consideration to working on the relationship. Go take the test: https://intimacyanorexia.com/ia-test/, but remember to answer the questions as you view your husband.

 

Curious, are u religious?

 

Would you kindly be a little more specific? What religion are you and do you actively participate in it?

 

If that is what you see it as then you don’t need my recommendation either. Best of luck to you.

 

Good grief! You see, you already drew a foregone conclusion about my intentions based solely on your complete ignorance of what I was about to say, and then you give me this diatribe about recommending a book I haven't read? Who does that? No, I wasn't about to recommend the book you asked about, but another one. But it doesn't matter now because you're never going to find out what book it was. Good luck.

 

My bad! For some reason I was thinking you were the OP. I guess I should have paid closer attention to who was posting the message. My apologies for that.

But this brings up another point entirely. There was a reason for asking what religion someone is if the book is written from a christian perspective and they are muslim or vice versa it wouldn't necessarily apply to them. I didn't even want to get into a religious debate or discussion which you seem intent on making it one. So yes there is good reason to ask the question before I recommend a book that is written by someone who believes in buddhism in this case. And if that is my requirement then so be it. It makes no difference whether you agree with it or not nor do I care. No he doesn't have to disclose his religion nor do I have to disclose the book. Thanks for stating the obvious. At this point I could care less.

 

Ha?
The modern shit is trash.
The old books are more honest since they don't have to be politically correct.

 

@happenstance @Beekind

I have A Couples Guide to Intimacy and found it helpful, but after about 1/3 of the way through realized that we were (or at least just me) probably not ready for it. My wife resonated a lot with the things it said - I'd recommend reading it together, out loud. It has some possibly helpful example scenarios, but I could see them being distracting if they aren't relatable to the specific reader/couple. But overall it is very detailed and comprehensive in the approach to reintegration.

 

Thanks but I leaned from Doug Weiss's IA program and that works great.

 

Curious, are u religious?