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Temptation Refuser

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Oct 7, 2021.

  1. I need some advice. I keep going on a week or two long streak and on my off time, when I'm bored I start thinking, "I have alot of time to recover... let's rub one out" And usually my penis agrees and I have nothing to disagree with.
    How do I stop these intrusive thoughts when I'm on a streak and at home bored doing nothing?
     
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  2. HelperX

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  3. diep

    diep Fapstronaut

    In my opinion, you should start a journal and answer the question why do you want to start nofap. You need to reflect on yourself a lot to answer this question. Read your answer when you start having intrusive thoughts.

    For me, intrusive thoughts are temptation from the devil. I usually pray to God and it will go away. The temptation will not last forever.
     
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  4. ElderStatesman

    ElderStatesman Fapstronaut

    Stop “doing nothing.”

    Okay, that’s a smartass, dickhead statement (and not even my first of the day), but there is, perhaps, some truth buried there. Find interests, stuff to do. As a first class f*ckup, I will admit it’s easy to talk about, harder to actually accomplish, but there it is.
     
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  5. Meshuga

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    I'm just connecting the dots for @ElderStatesman 's comment
    You have to have plans for what to do instead. You can't have empty time, just like you can't have empty thoughts, because if you let them go their natural course right now, you will fap. Come up with some things to do when you have nothing better to do, and use those when you have free time. Are there films you always wanted to watch, games you wanted to play, books you wanted to read, something you wanted to clean or learn or whatever, and you just haven't gotten around to it? Do those.
     
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  6. WelcomeToReality

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    You cant stop thoughts, the engine is always running. That you aware of your thoughts is one good step forward, it means your consciousness higher. I know that feeling exactly, it's when you have urge for porn, you know you gonna watch porn, you prepare for it, go to your special place, turn on computer. You can see your self like in movie from start of the urge to the end and even if there is eco voice inside which knows it's bad, your simply overwhelmed by urge for porn.
    That's because your decision to not watch porn hang on few brain cells comparing for urge for porn which had whole army. It's no win match. You need to find the way to load your decision with many bad and good emotions, think about this addiction a lot. Make and answer questions about porn, make a notes, be angry when you fail, angry not on yourself but just be angry and think about porn.

    My personal experience which happened naturally was after I relapsed by watch young porn with ATM content. After watching it, I realised what the hell I been watching, I literally started to cry, a lot. I'm raising toddler and I love her very much, did I want that someone do those things to my daughter even when she grows up? It is difficult to understand when you don't have child, but when you love child, you see everything she learns, how she is vulnerable for outside world, how my child is important to me and how all childs is important to the world. And you see what's happing , all those horrible things, not only seeing, but jerking of to it !!! making fake pleasure from it and that way promoting whole porn industry.
    Man those young girls have not choosed such life, they either come from traumatic childhood, or need for money for their children or something bad in their life. None happy healthy mind woman chooses that. I don't want anything like that happen to my daughter, man I use my whole life to prevent it, but I just watched porn with such girls - they get raped in the ass and forced to taste their shit. Do you think you gonna enjoy that taste of your shit?


    That's what made me cry. And such event loaded my mind full of emotions and rational thinking towards quitting porn. I have loaded my mind with all other stuff connecting for quitting. Now when I feel urge towards porn, it feel's like past memory long time ago, it comes and fades away in seconds. And I know those brain cells holding those urges will starve and die soon. And I'm not stupid, I know if got in to low emotional state, if something really bad in my life, I could find out stronger urges, but man I wait those urges come and to be kicked off.

    I need to add that in some sense that urge is normal. Because it's coming from sexual desire and it feels good even if you don't release, we need to understand and separate urge for porn and feeling energized by sexual psychic energy. But that's another several page topic.

    Other thing about boredom, you have to get one simple fact. If you been watching porn in such times, and now you have good amount of free time, you need to figure out how to fill it. But not because you want avoid porn, but because you think that activity is productive of fun.
    Boredom set's us on autopilot where all urges can peak.
     
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