Guys I was on tinder today and a girl put up a picture of here bending over on her thong...

Hey Jack,
I googled tinder. One of its links states that "It's like real life, only better."
Based on the description you gave of the triggering photo, IMO the tinder site is at least a P sub loaded with triggers. You were hooked, as you say, for two minutes.
You offered us two choices: reset...or nothing to worry about. Only you and your conscience can determine if a reset is necessary. As for "nothing to worry about" or "just forget about it" --- I personally wouldn't worry about it. That would be just spinning my tires and get nowhere. And no, I wouldn't just forget about it. I would take it as a loud and clear wake-up call. I would have to ask myself why I went on that site at all? Why did it take me a couple of minutes of sexual fantasizing/thoughts before I left it?

You're doing awesome, bro! Maybe just a little fine tuning....

Continued success, and much peace. Mike

 

Good, Jack.
Stay strong, bro.

 

Jackhammer,

This isn't reset worthy. But be careful!! There aren't supposed to be loopholes with NoFap. In my opinion, just because you no longer log onto porn sites and fap, doesn't make you a fapstronaut. Your rewiring your brain to see women differently. Hopefully NoFap will help you drain the lust from your eyes and view women as the beautiful creations they are!

Good luck bro!
Keep up the good work

 

I don't recommend using Tinder while rebooting... It's a P sub IMO. Tinder = pixels that turn you on, just like P.

Also, I think that Tinder is not really showing interest for people for what they truly are. It's superficial. You swipe through profiles, seeing hundreds of girls... This is definately not a good idea for rebooting! Tinder is also the land of triggers... Unnecessary for rebooters!

 

Really well said. To add, just because Tinder shows "real women" doesn't make it much different than porn. When you scroll through their profiles, (I'm assuming because it is Tinder) the same lustful thoughts that you feel when watching porn come your mind. Sex is a beautiful thing shared between two people who LOVE each other. Don't let one night stands be your sexual release to replace fapping.

 

I remember someone once saying "Don't use a dating website until you're able to get a girlfriend without using a dating website"

 

Oh yeah, Jack. You sure deserve kind-hearted women and men in your life. And, may I add, REAL women and men in your life and not just on a screen.

Back in July, you mentioned going to the gym for heavy weight training and for cardio. Do you still go? If so, are there women there that you could use your gentleman manners to talk to? Maybe have a workout buddy introduce you? Something to ease your way into safe conversation? Doesn't have to "prove" anything except that you can be a bit more at ease with real women.

I hope the time comes VERY soon when you see that tinder will never give you a real relationship or inner peace.

Just as it takes a lot of guts to achieve your long clean streak, it also requires constant effort to become the honorable Man you are created to be.

Deep peace, buddy. Mike

 

Thanks Jack. You're probably right about girls in gyms. I continue to support you in taking a step toward sharing yourself with other good people.

Peace, brother. Mike. (BTW, is your counter up to date?)

 

Tinder IS THE WORST SITE FOR TRYING TO MEET SOMEONE ON AN EMOTIONAL LEVEL. It really is a hook up site. I would strongly recommend that you find another dating app or site to meet someone. Trust me I'm talking from experience. Bro what your looking for you will not find from tinder.

 

It's like an alcoholic passing a shop that sells booze... you either go in, walk past or linger looking though the window drooling at all the bottles of poison on the shelf. MAybe it's alright to "look" maybe it isn't it's whether one is intentionally walking past the shop for a "hit" for a chance to think "fuck it... i'm goin in"

 

OK, Jack.
So you learned that tinder can lead to nastier stuff. You stayed strong enough though not to relapse. You also got rid of the other sites.
Are you using tinder as kind of "practice" to talk to real girls in the future? I've never been on the site, but a lot of the guys who have responded to you all say the same thing: tinder is, basically, bad news. And, as you say, you think the same thing! Look, it already led you to download some nasty sites. How about this---if you're not yet ready to communicate with real women, face to face, you will be, as long as you keep progressing with nofap and no porn. In the mean time, you have no problem talking with us guys; you are open and honest and seem to be comfortable on here. Why not continue using nofap.com as a way of relating FOR NOW. Build up deeper and strong abilities to relate to both guys and girls, then take the necessary risks of stepping into the REAL world?
Be open, keep learning, and stay strong.
Peace, buddy. Mike