so i started dating this girl and uhm... my brains conflicted

i hated myself for being a voyeur because of Facebook. easy access to girls' profiles. TOO EASY.

my Facebook account is no more since august 1 2021.

this is a radical option though to leave "mainstream" social networks. i recommend it though but as a student in 2021 i can't say it's easy. i feel like an alien.

hmm....

 

Start living in real life. Stop chatting and sending pick and go out in a date with her. You should be busy doing your own stuff, not chatting. Don't get trapped in just been her chat friend.

Easy cowboy. You don't know nothing about her yet. She can be the best thing that happens to you, she can also be the worst. Take time to know her better (in person) before getting involved with her.
People only show their true self after months/years of dating.

 

First of all I agree that you shouldn't view her as THE best person! You don't know her that well yet. I ain't saying she isn't but give her time to prove herself to you! Don't jump to conclusions that she is perfect because she isn't! Nobody is and everyone will let you down in one form or another. You just need to figure out who is worth it!

Second - fapping on her pictures I completely understand because I was like that to all girls I liked. I even fapped to my girlfriends pictures whenever we were separated from each other due to whatever reasons. But this is something you can control and you can really see the woman for her beauty not just as an object to complete your desires.

Third - nothing wrong with some flirting. No need to make it sexual from the get go but if it evolves into it then why not continue if the person is willing. No harm there. Use your brain power and mentally prepare yourself to control your cravings and carnal desires. You will get through it eventually!

 

You are young. But long distance relationships don't work, specially if they start that way. Are you going to live in her city or she in yours?

If not, then search another one. Also one thing is what you talk on the internet and another very different one is when you meet the person.

Sometimes is almost going bak to zero after you meet in person. Don't waste time on it.

And how come you are already in a relationship and in love only a couple of days talking online?

 

then you are not dating at all, you don't have a relationship either. You are just talking to a woman over chat... that's it.
Don't waste time, energy an emotions with a woman you cannot see in person weekly.
You are probably going to be used by this woman for attention, validation and support while she dates guys in his own town... don't be that guy.. Date woman in real life..

 

If you can't control yourself seeing her pictures I wonder if you are ready for a relationship?
It seems you put yourself in a place where she isn't reachable for you because of the long distance, while you are torturing yourself?

Is that really worth it?

 

Long distance relationships very rarely end well. I've been in a few and all of them ended in a fucking ball of fury - arguments, abuse, threats, etc. My father even met my mother while she was in a long distance relationship and took her from him.

 

Can you describe your relationship with her.

• How often you meet
• If you've been to each other's places
• If you've met her friends or vice versa
• If you've been intimate (emotional or physical)