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Might quit my job to focus on no pmo

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Bluespace123, Oct 30, 2021.

  1. Bluespace123

    Bluespace123 Fapstronaut

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    I've been thinking about this for awhile now. I'm a production welder, I'm 30 and I have been trying to quit porn for like 6 years now I think.

    My job is just too physically exhausting for me to have a PMO addiction and be successful in my field. It's already a pretty hard job even if your in good shape, but adding a PMO addiction and working this hard in the goddamn florida heat is killing me.

    before this job a I worked as a warehouse worker at amazon, which is a pretty physical job and your on your feet all day. But it ain't shit compared to what I do now, Most days I come home after and 8 hour shift of welding and can only be productive for like 10 or 15 minutes until I'm too tired to even stand really, so I just lay in bed and stare at my phone until I fall asleep.

    When I worked at amazon I could come home and still have energy, I would do chores, or focus on my hobbies like drawing or reading. I would draw constantly when I got home from work at the warehouse. But since starting the welding job I haven't drawn or read at all, all of my energy goes towards my job and PMO and their is none left for me or my friends so my relationships suffer because of this.

    I know If I go back to my old job my addiction won't just go away, especially since I stilled had it while I worked there. But I definitely was doing a lot better with my PMO addiction and I was posting here pretty regularly. IDK I just feel if I get a job to where I can focus on healthy activities that I enjoy it will help with my PMO addiction, but then ill also miss out on a chance to further my welding carrier and actually have money in life.

    I don't know, I know nobody has any answers for me and this is something I have to figure out for myself, but I just wanted to get this off my mind since its all I've been thinking about for months and months now.
     
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  2. SethLCU

    SethLCU Fapstronaut

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    My advice is to stick to what you believe is the best career path and find whatever support you need to beat this addiction since it hamper your work, try a SAA(Sex Addicts Anonymous) near you if you cannot white-knuckle it. Best of lucks.
     
  3. Kadampa

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    I know what you mean, I was welder past some time in my life and I had to quit that profesión, I was saw drained in that time, I was as well in process of quitting of pmo at that time I didn't hear nothing about withdrawals , and I suffer from brain fog, I was maybe 28, but I felt so much pain in my joints like old men, tiredness change in anxiety and stress, I push myself but eventually I had to quit, like other next works, and now past three years I'm volunteering, I knew that you can't afford to do that and not have income and in USA it's difficult to be out of system. But my point is during quitting of pmo, You should be gentle for your self, following your deep needs, you need be skillful, learning everyday, this is like journey, I was watching pmo 17 years I'm 3.5 years free from pmo but I still experience effects of it, you know, my brain still can't find homeostasis, unbalance caused by dopamine jumps take time to back to normal but You know If I could change something in my life I would not, I grew up so much from it I'm learning how to Love and and have compassion . Follow your heart in my experience that is the best way to make decisions.
     
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  4. Anonymous86

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    Damn. Have you felt any relief from your symptoms?
     
  5. Improv3r

    Improv3r Fapstronaut

    I would advise you to keep your job! If you hate it because it sucks just change to something else but don't remain jobless!
    All that free time will enforce your PMO addiction rather than quench it.
    Unless you have some other type of income I am definitely advising you against remaining jobless.
     
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  6. Bluespace123

    Bluespace123 Fapstronaut

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    Sorry I guess I didn't explain it to well, but I would go back to my old job working at the warehouse, they are hiring right now. I wouldn't not want to not have a job as that would suck and throw me off balance. I feel that working at my old job made it easier to focus on being healthy and I could have a work life balance which I don't really have now cause my welding job and PMO addiction take too much out of me.
     
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  7. fapequalsdeath

    fapequalsdeath Fapstronaut

    I had the best luck of PMO when working hard for sixteen hours and thinking it will help me with women. I returned to my old habits and just like OP can't quit for 7 years. Definitely don't quit your job, the only thing tjat improved for me those years is my career. For the first time in my life I have a good stable job I don't hate and it pays all my bills and it gives me even extra income I can invest. I worked hard for this. Women and quitting porn is also hard work. But you must grit your teeth and go after it there is no other way. No woman is gonna come to you just as nobody is going to tie your hand to prevent you from fapping but yourself. Porn has taken my hair and a large part of my life. It has to stop.
     
  8. fapequalsdeath

    fapequalsdeath Fapstronaut

    I had the best luck of PMO when working hard for sixteen hours and thinking it will help me with women. I returned to my old habits and just like OP can't quit for 7 years. Definitely don't quit your job, the only thing tjat improved for me those years is my career. For the first time in my life I have a good stable job I don't hate and it pays all my bills and it gives me even extra income I can invest. I worked hard for this. Women and quitting porn is also hard work. But you must grit your teeth and go after it there is no other way. No woman is gonna come to you just as nobody is going to tie your hand to prevent you from fapping but yourself. Porn has taken my hair and a large part of my life. It has to stop.
     
  9. the300clean

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    Why not use porn blockers for your screens ? that way it's going to be easier after you return from work to focus on good stuff instead of watching Porn
     
  10. Hammer0007

    Hammer0007 Fapstronaut

    It sounds like your welding job is very draining on you and not leaving you with time for your life. It sounds like it could be healthy to have the amazon job where you still work but have more energy and time to focus on other parts of your life as well. It's hard to make a call but if you can do positive things with your spare time the job change could be nice.
    In my personal experience I took a massive decline in work on purpose to give me more time to focus on myself and pmo etc. Similar situation to how you feel with the welding job, not having any time to do anything else but work and then pmo in the first free time you get.
    I would discourage the approach that I took, having too much free time was detrimental for me and my fight for pmo as I didn't replace it with any other substantial, routine activities. My pmo got worse. It did allow me time and space to then pursue therapy etc, but a routine and something to do with your time is very good in the fight against pmo.
    All that aside, like I said, if you've been in the amazon job before and already know you can have a healthy balance, then that sounds good. Do think about it a lot though. Best of luck!
     
  11. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    I was a laborer for a construction company so I can relate to coming home and just barely being able to stand or get anything else done. It's a thing my man.

    However, I've found that exhausting myself during the day with either work or studying made it much easier to resist PMO. I went out of my way to find more work to do or doing extra credit assignments to keep myself occupied. When I got home after a long day or productivity, I would be so tired mentally and physically that I just wouldn't have the motivation to PMO. I would also hit the gym or do some distance training as well. Staying away from porn was easy when I got home, got under the covers, and immediately went to sleep.

    Does work and energy expenditure not make you resistant to PMO? Can you explain how your tough and gritty welding job makes it harder for you to quit porn?

    In the meantime, I think you should stick with the welding job. Keep us updated in the thread, but please don't do anything drastic. Things are gonna be much better in the long run if you stick with the welding job, even though it's a little testy right now.
     

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