Can overthinking be cured?

I myself am an overthinker, this is part of your personality that will never fully go away but you can stop it to an extent. Overthinking is caused by insecurity and uncertainty and in your case you believed that something must have been wrong with you and you doubted yourself, the way to cure this is to become perfectly content and happy with who and how you are, you let him make you believe that you were not worth shaking hands with when in reality it is his problem and something he needs to sort out. Instead of getting upset about it you should have shrugged it off and said to yourself nothing is wrong with me, that guy is just not a good person.

 

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Here’s how I see it because I have reacted the same way and am working on myself to not react negatively to encounters like that. We have an image of ourself, how we carry ourself, manners, politeness, etc etc. When we get into a situation where someone behaves opposite of what we think is “right” aka the way we want to carry ourself as a man, we take it negatively and hurt ourself because all of a sudden we think we aren’t worthy. All because of a slick jerk move by someone. You see? That’s their personality, nothing against you at all, you just came across them and experienced how people can act because we all have our own ways. That being said, accept that people in your future will be like that and it’s nothing against you. You may seem like the target but you aren’t, their actions speak for themself.

- Don’t watch sigma male or any other Internet personality/pick up/blah blah bs

-Be secure in yourself and of your accomplishments, struggles, experiences and any move that you don’t appreciate won’t effect your mind. You build yourself and how you react to the world.

 

I think exposing yourself to more stressful social interactions helps greatly with killing overthinking.

I used to overthink a lot, I still do, but I know when I am presented with a social challenge that I know will cause me stress, I have to take it.

He probably did forget to shake your hands and decided to make a joke of it, but I don't know him and I know that would insult me if he did it to me, but the thing is I wouldn't assign any more meaning to it other than he's probably a jerkoff and when I get my chance to clown him in front of everyone I will. I don't think taking that approach is vindictive or petty, because it's the golden rule "Treat how you want to be treated."

 

I am currently doing the opposite, i overthink too much i started blaming those around me for petty things (in my mind) then i felt sad and sometimes even cried
so i decided to distance myself, cuz i don't wanna be sad and i don't wanna feel the guilt of blaming them for nothing!
what i was told is that the world moves on, with or without u! I've problems of memory too like i remember a lot, but i realized it's only me.. my friends they forget easily, and so i treat them they way i want to be treated but they seldom notice (or it's me overthinking now bcuz they might have noticed)