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Irritation and boredom

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by An0nym0use1234, Nov 5, 2021.

  1. An0nym0use1234

    An0nym0use1234 Fapstronaut

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    How does everyone deal with the irritation during the first week or so of nofap? I am absolutely on edge and can't seem to relax. Also, my girlfriend lives with me and I work from home full time and she works from home 2 days a week and never leaves (she doesn't like driving), so I get zero time to myself. Lately on weekends I get roped into going to her parents house (bc she doesn't drive). I tried to hint last week that I wanted her to go to her parents without me and she said "I would do anything for you!" but basically ignored what I was saying.

    I've been so stressed with work. I used to relieve stress thru fapping during the day. I can't do that now, so I sit and stare at the computer screen trying to get myself to be productive. My nerves on edge, my girlfriend keeps following me around and sitting right next to me, looking at what I'm doing. I feel so irritable it's awful bc I wish I could chill. I can't even explain to her why I'm acting this way (trust me, talking about porn addiction would be a whole other can of worms).

    She tells me this ridiculous stories and jokes and I just look back with no affect. I can't help it, nothing is amusing, the stress of work is overwhelming. I have to baby her. I can't even do the chores without stressing out bc she says "are you ok? Are you procrastinating from work?"

    To those without a gf I know this may come across as tho I'm not appreciative of my gf. I am, but my irritation levels are through the roof and all I want is to be alone to silently cope with the withdrawal and work all day. If I work after 5pm then I'm ignoring her. I just want relief!!!
     
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  2. An0nym0use1234

    An0nym0use1234 Fapstronaut

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    I have to hide in the bathroom to get even a few minutes of alone time. This is in my own place that I completely pay for! It's the same escape behavior I used to do with porn except now I just sit there
     
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  3. StepUp28

    StepUp28 Fapstronaut

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    I think you've got some relationship issues going on here bro. Nofap withdrawal can definitely contribute to these feelings but it sounds like you've got deeper issues here, as you're complaining more about your girlfriend's behaviour as opposed to your reactions to them.
     
  4. An0nym0use1234

    An0nym0use1234 Fapstronaut

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    I think I might be taking out all my irritation on her even though she doesn't really deserve it. Sitting next to your boyfriend shouldn't be a bad thing, but I make it bad by getting annoyed. One of the problems is with me not completing my work in time... I'd do the bare minimum during the day, keep procrastinating but telling myself I'll do it that night. But then she would be sad that I'd be ignoring her at night when I should be off work. So I'll hang with her but in the back of my head I'll be freaking out super stressed. This has been going on for at least the last month.
     
  5. fusion47

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    Come clean with her then. Sooner or later she'll feel so neglected and leave. This way, you can come to a compromise together
     
  6. JonasVW92

    JonasVW92 Fapstronaut

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    What kind of relationship do you have if you can't be fully honest with her? Always tell the truth, and at least don't lie.
     
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  7. Future Bloomer

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    Every man needs time for himself. You can explain this to her while also reassuring that you love her and it's for the good of the relationship that you wish to be some time alone.

    You can be on different rooms while you are both working from home. If that is not a possibility, you can perhaps work from a public library or a Cafe.
     
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  8. Kevodrag

    Kevodrag Fapstronaut

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    Not at all, big guy. I’ll tell you what though? Try to be honest with her about how you’re feeling, if you can do that.
    Secondly, breathe and calm down. Think things through using your real, truthful, wants-to-help-you cerebral cortex. You’ll be fine!
     
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  9. I know exactly what that is like, living with a girl who is needy like that.
    My solution was to have lots of sex, at any time of the day, that usually solved her need to be together, but only temporarily.
    If you can discuss the porn addiction with her, great, but otherwise, I would ditch her, if she can't cope with a sex addict. The truth is that she will never satisfy you, if you truly are an addict! If she can help you, then you may have struck gold with this relationship, but it sounds like she is annoying as fuck.
     
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