vicious cycle, set up account on porn site, binge, regret, delete, do it again

You need to stop thinking 'must not watch porn' and start thinking 'must conquer my primal urges'. Changing the frame of your thoughts will make the world of difference.

Right now you're imagining yourself on the back foot. You're imagining yourself backed into a corner having to resist.

If you think about in terms of conquering, then your brain will start to act as such.

Change your frame, for any thought or situation, and you will succeed.

 

I think this is the normal vicious cycle most people have. They desire PMO, and do it. Then once they are depleted, they think clearly without sex desire clouding their mind and get themselves straightened out. But then once their energy returns, then the sex desire re-emerges and indulgence happens again.

Blockers won’t work. Going on vacation for a week without electronics won’t work. You need to get to a point where you just truly don’t want to do it. Or at least you are so scared of the negative effects of PMO that you don’t do it. Personally, I’d love to indulge in PMO if it made me smarter, better with women, better at career, stronger. But it’s the opposite

 

Absolutely. Avoiding triggers is one thing and might help but it's not reliable, but facing triggers and overcoming them is another thing.