Desperate times for the unlucky few

I get you yeah. You are right I just have to find the desire to do it.
You can check what I mean by RED PILL or google more on the red pill men theory.
I was just ranting I guess...

 

Uh not quite... red pill is mostly about men who are woke about women games and their fishing for attention thereby loosing your time.
But it is much more than that hard to explain in one sentence. There are many videos about red pill wokeness online.

p.s - just to give you info about the opposite of red pill - blue pill are actually men that are still thinking love exists like in the movies thereby simping to women and fulfilling their every desire. There is a lot of info about the subject online. Blue pill men are the ones that are still in the Matrix. Connected to the false reality that this Disney stuff exists. While woke men that are not connected to this surreal fairy tale are red pilled. All coming from the Matrix movie as a term. An example playlist of "woke" trainings HERE. I also recommend this content creator for more pillness just to give you an idea.

 

Hahaha nah all is good. Just the times are different and respect is hardly something you find these days but I get you.

 

I've been wondering about that actually... do you stand out from the crowd or do most people consider this a weakness?
It's funny how most humane values are viewed as a liability nowadays.

 

That's true as we age we get to defend ourselves and our viewpoints more. When you are a kid you let other people trample over you which is the main factor for low self esteem.
Also this affects how other people view you and the more you allow them to treat you this way the more they will do it. It's just nature.

I was talking in general not just about ladies but since we are on the topic I don't think what you wanted is something of a big deal. We are visual creatures anyway.
I mean it's completely normal to want someone that is hot compared to someone that is not. I mean that's the reality as sad as it is.
There may be girls that are fat, even boys for that matter, that think life is all wine and roses but let's get real here. There's a reason why some people feel neglected and alone.
Also there are a lot of overweight people that demand their partner to be sexier which is unreasonable and stupid. You have to know your limits.
I doubt you wanted a real porn star. Mostly you wanted a neat partner that has good hygiene and takes care of herself that is also attractive.
People perceive porn as the main issue for not giving attention to people that have good souls but if we are real here nobody falls for your soul at first.
Everyone falls for your looks and maybe when they get to know you down the road for your soul. But that's a big IF.
Just like beautiful women won't look at overweight men, beautiful men won't look at overweight women. These are just standards and they won't change ever.
Unless I am wrong and in 50 years we evolve so much that we start to see souls instead of bodies as the ultimate value in the world.
That's just plain and simple life. That's how things are and have been since we are on this planet.
Wars, tactics, machines and way of living changed over the course of millennia but sex and attraction between our species remained the same. This should tell us something!

I completely agree! I have less time if any to share with assholes. I don't wish to waste any second as I see how fleeting each moment can be. Loved ones passing etc.
Life is flying away so fast that we should focus on the more important parts of it. Preserving your inner being in this day and age is the ultimate goal.

 

Oh yeah yeah yeah I completely agree with you on that part. I am a fan of Jordan Peterson but I do believe his analysis is a bit over the top.
Although it makes a lot of sense it is mostly subjective because as you said there is a difference in modern day human society than the animal kingdom.
I don't know if that quote was from him though some guy in YouTube wrote it. I just quoted it because it really hit the mark on the modern day hypergamy.
Nevertheless it matters what people you actually date as they have their own belief system that may be totally different than what you expect or "read" about.

 

I had thoughts about that as well many times. Yet in all these times when it comes to see that person again...
Do you reeeeally wish to see him or are you forcing yourself just to be with someone?
Sometimes I've set up dates with women just to give them a second chance like you said maybe I am crazy enough that I let those good girls pass through my fingers.
But then why do I feel as if I am just trying to force myself being in peace with my decision and it is not a decision I wanted full heartedly?! You see what I mean?
Because with pretty faces you never had the thought like oh I am not sure about this, it's like your heart was telling you oh damn I really want to be with her.
Although your emotions can trick you at times I still feel that you should strive at the end to be where you wanna be really, from the bottom of your heart rather then just...
settle for your less exciting thoughts and empower desires that were never there in the first place.

Your mind is not warped at all it's just who we are. Did you notice that society and life today made us question everything about ourselves? Cancel culture and all that?
Basically we are fighting an invisible ghost, we are fighting who we really are by nature and history knows that fighting against nature is always an uphill battle in fact..
we are always on the losing side for that matter! Personality does make up the larger portion of the picture indeed!
There's a saying (I will just paraphrase it from my own language because I don't know the actual one in English):

People invite you in their homes and see you for your clothes first and later when you leave they show you out by your mind/personality.

If we deconstruct that basically it's what you said. We first see the pretty face and then we fall for the mind/personality of the person.
I may be wrong here but I think standards in nature are not called standards for nothing - they are immutable.

 

Absolutely! There MUST be friendship so this thing lasts. Maybe more than friendship RESPECT is required as well!
I have a friend that has a girlfriend and they dated for over 7-8? maybe 10 years. They are together through thick and thin.
When you see their profiles it's all about them - where they go, what they eat, what they watch everything. When you look at their faces they are THE SAME!
I mean this guy totally found his other half! I don't necessarily believe in this crap but apparently for some lucky few there really is a one and only person.
She literally looks like him I swear! Obviously more attractive and feminine but it's like when you see them you instantly know nothing can separate them.
The thing is this guy has what I like to call "the full package"! Hot chick, looking the same as him, nice personality (I met her she is an angel) and faithful.
One day if they get married I will be truly happy for them I kid you not. But I also truly believe that sex is also very very important!
If you can't have a physical attraction (maybe a normal amount of lust) about the other the relationship is also doomed to fail.
Or maybe I am just a terrible person don't know haha.

Hence going back to what I wanted to say - the girl may have the nicest of souls but if she doesn't arouse me that much I doubt I will invest anything...
Also I would much rather be alone then being with a person that has a nice heart but doesn't get me the stuff I need be that the sex I like, the face I like, the communication I like...
I still think we should search for the perfect thing rather than settle for something. Life may be harder down the road when you become more and more alone I wouldn't know yet.
But nevertheless just to be with someone for the sake of it sounds very sad and depressing. I remember a scene from this comedy movie "The Wedding Ringer" watch it it's very fun.
The groom right at the actual wedding says to his friend that he doesn't want to marry the chick right?
His best man says oh come on it won't be that bad or something it will be ok.
And here is where it hit me, the groom says - but I don't want to be ok, I want it to be perfect!

Thank you for that as well! I very much enjoy discussions like this! It definitely triggers your brain cells to work up a bit haha

 

I noticed that for myself... I had the (I dunno privilege? or curse? maybe both) to have my ex as pretty hot and pretty crazy.
We dated for a year and a half and had the best sex I've had in my life. She was gorgeous and attracted other guys but was a bit of a bag full of cats if you know what I mean.
I couldn't take the pressure and even though I was postponing the break up because of the sex, eventually I decided to call it quits.
There are days that I regret that decision when I am horny but at other days I am happy that I no longer have to put up with the crazy drama drama drama!

So in terms of wanting a "goddess" I found that I have my tastes skewered by her.
When I chat with women over the datings apps if I notice something I don't like particularly like her body, or some other small thing I consider "not hot enough" I don't meet her at all.
For this I blame my taste and my ex. If it comes out as bragging I apologize it is NOT!
In fact this is pushing me to a very dark pit of despair and sadness daily because I am searching but rarely find someone I like yet meeting is almost impossible unless she swipes too.

I guess I have to swallow my pride? is it pride not sure probably porn induced tastes and get someone that is okish.
I don't know what to think anymore the apathy forbids me doing that anyway...

 

Facts! Plus I never considered myself as a CHAD or Ken doll so I should definitely lower my standards lol
Nice discussion though