Book recommendations on mental health

Hello brother. I would 200% recommend reading a book on bioenergetics. There is a book by alexander lower called "fear of life" which discusses the physical manifestation of trauma and so on in the body. Honestly this is life-changing stuff, you should check it out

 

Dr. Gabor Maté deals with childhood trauma nothing else comes to mind Jim B. Tucker is the only child psychiatrist I am familiar with at present but he specializes in perhaps a taboo topic relating to childhood experiences Gabor has books on childhood trauma and how addiction develops from it

 

- Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners by Kenneth Adams (deals with emotional abuse and emotional incest).

- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay Gibson

- Narcissistic Mothers: How to Handle a Narcissistic Parent and Recover from CPTSD by Caroline Foster

I hope you can get helped by a therapist also, if not already the case. You're doing exactly what you're supposed to be doing man, and I have no doubt you're already very advanced in your recovery if you're willing to face the core of the issues head on.

 

Seconding adult children of emotionally immature parents. I didn't finish it admittedly, but from what I read its pretty great. I went through those same things as a kid and this is one of the few books i've seen that really goes after this specific problem in a great way.

 

Hey, i don't know if my answer would be help but i recently read the "No more mr nice guy". It doesn't talk about trauma but based with what had you experience, it will be good

 

I read that book and I don't really recommend it. I found it to be superficial and condescending. The author wrote another book that completely contradicts what he says in No More Mr Nice Guy and presents himself as some sort of dating artist. Just stupid.

I'd recommend "Not Nice" by Dr. Aziz instead. These books don't specifically tackle the issue of narcissist parenting and parental emotional, sexual or physical abuse though. They deal with problematic people-pleasing tendencies.

 

Hey man, I can completely relate to you. I was in that same position before. Just like in any other profession, there are good and bad therapists. I quit my former profession and I currently study psychology to become a psychotherapist. That's how much I was inspired by my own journey in therapy. PM me if you want me to help you look for one that looks serious and a good match for you.

It's very uncomfortable to reveal yourself (especially the first sessions) especially to someone that you know nothing about, but it's an important part of the process. And you can disclose things at your own pace. You can talk about anything and everything really.

Therapists aren't supposed to label you, tell you what your problems are or what the answers are. As trained mental health professionals, they're supposed to empower you to meet your own needs and find your own solutions through a wide set of skills including active listening and unconditional acceptance (i.e. no judgment). They're especially not supposed to tell their clients what they want to hear, that's straight up malpractice. Unfortunately, some do and they give the whole profession a bad rap. If you trust the process and give it your best, it can only work. It's the main factor of success.

If you feel like you're making progress on your own right now it's all good. But know that you'll always be able to find people in your area who can help, and who chose to become psychotherapists because they truly want to help other people, and received serious science-based training on how to productively and properly help people.