Abandoned My Life Long Friends...

You did the right thing. If your friends can't respect your new lifestyle, they ain't your friends.

 

I too have pushed away a couple of friends who turned out to be poisonous.
Has to be done. We only have one life.

 

You did well ,what type of friends do they when they watch porn in front of you? Sure devils they are human devils i left all my friends because of that and my friends were really devil when they were with me they said that we all do masturbation and it is good but no one of them really did masturbation or watched to porn they were just talking about that to make me fool and i watch porn and I become worse than them ,now i am all alone i have no friends and the time i spent with friends was daily 3-4 hours now i learn new things and read books for just 20-40 mins daily and i am much more better now

 

To answer your question, I want to be porn free for the rest of my life and never watch that garbage again. Right now I am working to get in the best shape of my life so I instituted a penalty system. When I watch porn, I must eat 3000 calories of bad food (potato chips, donuts, candy, etc) in one sitting. I did this a couple of times while still watching porn and felt sick afterwards. I did that a couple of times and it sort of trained me like Pavlov's dogs. I think about watching porn and feel sick to my stomach now.

As for cutting out your friends, it sounds like the right move. Sounds like they are porn addicts too who are not yet ready to admit their problem. When they are ready to admit their addiction and get help, maybe then you could consider being a friend again.

 

You have my respect, man. I am a pleaser, personally - I always try to please people I like and be on good terms with them. It´s so toxic. I need to learn to say no and be "rude" and "unfriendly" when necessary.
It takes courage to say yourself: "I don´t want this in my life anymore and if they don´t get it, then they have to go". You are one of the brave!

 

I severred one relationship as well. He would constantly send me xxx nude pictures of women he was sleeping with. And the stories he would tell me are disgusting. He would hit on virtually every girl in front of me thinking im just a wing man to get him laid. Last straw was there was a girl i was talking to. I went to the bathroom and he told me he gave that girl his #.

The guy was definitely a philandering sex addict and a toxic destroyer of my self esteem.

My goals are to be a better man for a woman in a relationship. One thing i would do is keep them away from that guy. They dont deserve that.

 

The question is now, how to find new friends?

 

You did the right thing.
Freedom will cost you a lot.
Become your own best friend first.
The rest will come.

 

Im with you bro. Toxic people will lead us to the wrong path.

 

I did the same thing many years ago. Sometimes we just outgrow our friendships that were founded on certain activities. It’s necessary in most cases. I enjoy my own company, and I’m content with having only a few close friends that I align with. For now at least.. eventually there might come a time when I meet more like minded people.

 

I had to do the same thing. I've been friendless now since 2018.

 

OP you did not abandon anyone.
You chose to support your life and health.
There is a difference.
A "friend" who does not support your health and your sobriety is NOT a friend, therefore, there is nothing to abandon.

You freed yourself of toxic relationships. A better life awaits.

 

Coomers, bro. Forget em.

 

That's very sad that things had to come to that. It always hurts to lose friends, even if it's for justified reasons, and it's okay to feel sad about it. That said, maybe you can find new friends here, among us. It's better to have friends than to be alone. And maybe when you're more in control of yourself and not as easily triggered, you can reach out to those friends again if you want.

 

Man you are very strong ,it really takes a big gut to do so. What i will suggest you is to make new good friends (very important to fill the void), who support you in your self development journey.