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I'm watching porn and masturbating & giving myself blue balls

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by youraverageguy, Nov 24, 2021.

  1. youraverageguy

    youraverageguy Fapstronaut

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    I want to stay strong and ultimately quit PMO, but recently after being on a somewhat streak, I been tempting myself by watching porn and masturbating but stopping right before orgasm. Advice anyone? I know from experience that if I keep this up, ill eventually give in.
     
  2. DukeNukem

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    You've already gave in
     
  3. OhWhenThe

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    What you're doing isn't what leads to a relapse, it is a relapse. The second you make the decision to search for porn you have relapsed, spewing your goo to it is basically just the exclamation point. You can't beat porn addiction by watching porn, if you could then we'd all be cured. I can't really offer any advice, you have to want it for yourself and realise that porn doesn't benefit you, it only takes away.
     
  4. My advice...stop doing what you are doing. What you are doing is not quitting and by tempting yourself it'll only be a matter time of until you give in and go back to PMO.

    Also, blue balls is so painful i don't know why anyone would intentionally do that to themselves.
     
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  5. skybrowser

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    "... You might open a couple of tabs. Then you linger your brain in this state where you’re creating moderate levels of domapine release that are increasing over time without reaching orgasm so that you can let your brain stay there. Therefore, this dopamine release continues over time and many people will open lots of tabs to increase the intensity. Essentially you’re increasing the level of dopamine release over this extended amount of time. However, some people will do it within one session or within one day. Other people will linger in this state across sessions, days, and sometimes even as long as a week.

    Professionals call this the bubble effect because it will really help you feel this high. It will also keep the dopamine-releasing into your system. In the long run, it is giving your brain this unnatural artificial neurochemical release that is staying around for longer and longer time frames. Then it’s increasing, so you are building tolerance, and at the same time your trashing your brain. "

    - https://drtrishleigh.com/edging-why-it-is-worse-for-your-brain-than-pmo/
     
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  6. DayOne44

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    @skybrowser

    The statement by Dr. Leigh above describes my behavior exactly, and this is frightening.

    I hate ejaculating because I always feel wasted afterward.

    Still, I get horny as hell and always resort to porn.

    Because I don't want to ejaculate, I end up edging for hours upon hours on end.

    I've thought that this habit would be more efficient and I wouldn't waste so much of my life if I just pulled up a few pics and jerked to a final "O" within minutes.

    I'd feel lousy, but at least I wouldn't be glued to a computer screen or a phone for half the day.

    When I just blow my load, I'm done, close all the porn tabs, and go shower and try to get on with the day.

    By only going to the edge of ejaculations, I can look at porn and masturbate for a long time, and I'll pick it all up again the next morning.

    There is no end point to edging, and it gives no final satisfaction.

    Somehow, I thought I was still somehow virtuous in this because I retained my semen.

    That may be nothing but the warped thought of addiction.

    Dr. Leigh's video, which I just watched, really exposes the lie in that and shows me that my hours of edging are really worse.

    Somehow, I knew that already after wasting entire mornings, afternoons, and evenings by edging for up to four hours at a time.

    The truth is that edging is a complete relapse and a fall all the way to the bottom.

    My own hypocritical advice has always been that NoFap must be 100%, with absolutely no compromises.

    At least by understanding my behavior, I might better control it.

    Thanks for this posting.
     
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  7. skybrowser

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    Yeah I've pretty much done the same myself, I'm glad that this helps.

     
  8. youraverageguy

    youraverageguy Fapstronaut

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    Dang, appreciate it y'all. Getting get back up and really be strict with myself. Appreciate the love
     
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