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The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. RiseToGreatness

    RiseToGreatness Fapstronaut

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    Checking in Fellowship!! :)

    yesterday i slipped a bit more on the beer and sweets, but today i´m fully determined to get back on the good habits.

    to give a clear sign to myself i did my wim hof breathing and cold shower first thing in the morning, before breakfast :)

    so far it´s been regular´s day work. everything is going smoothly :)

    once i get home, i´m gonna meditate and do a light workout ;). then watch a movie at night :)

    Lot´s of new members today, the Fellowship is proud of you new brothers!! :)

    Here´s and interesting newsletter from JK Emezi about dating.

    Have a great day brave Companion!!! ;). Checking out.



    "5 Tips For Dating During Your Reboot

    Hey Brother!


    At some point during the reboot process, single brothers in the Porn Reboot program are going to begin dating. Some methods for overcoming porn addiction have you holding your seed and abstaining from intimacy for long periods. I disagree with that, though. I believe that having an outlet for your romantic and intimate needs is a very normal, healthy progression.

    It’s not good for you to hold yourself back from intimacy or connection with the women around you. That’s a one-way ticket to sexual repression which is another serious problem. Learning to date in a healthy way during your reboot is a vital part of the process. You need to begin working on building relationships with women in a positive way.

    Now if you’re a single man who’s been focused strictly on his reboot for months, getting into the dating game probably makes you feel a bit nervous. Dating in today’s world does come with its challenges and you might find yourself in a tough situation. If you’re early in your reboot, you might have no idea how to have a normal conversation with the opposite sex.

    Don’t worry, no matter how extreme your out-of-control behavior is, you’re never too far gone. You can rebuild an amazing and active sex and dating life regardless of how far your behavior progressed. It will take some work but that’s what the Porn Reboot system is here to do. So, how can you get back to dating during your reboot?

    1. Figure out whether you’re ready to date
    In my experience, I recommend that a man has his behavior under control for at least 6 to 12 months before beginning to date. During that time you should be actively working on bettering yourself, not just using willpower to keep your behavior at bay.

    You should have different areas of your reboot capital built up, should be aware of your triggers, and should have strong boundaries in place. These are things that take a few months to set up, not a few weeks. If these things aren’t in place, you aren’t ready to date.

    2. Put together a dating plan
    Once you decide that you’re ready to date, you should approach dating like you do other major life changes during your reboot: with a plan. Of course, different men’s plans will vary according to their lifestyle and what they want. But having a plan in place for your particular situation, lifestyle, and wants will help you out.

    Where will you find your potential dates? How often should you see them before having sex? What will you do to reflect on your dates and determine whether this person is someone you actually want to continue seeing? And who will be your accountability partner or partners during the dating process?

    3. Date without expectations
    Building up expectations for your dates puts you on the fast track to disappointment and letdown. That’s not to say every date you go on will be miserable, but it’s also a reminder that not every date will be something you’re interested in. Keeping a hold of your emotional balance is critical and dating without expectations is an important way to do that.

    Take time to get to know the women you’re dating. Having sex with women you aren’t in a committed relationship with will always put your reboot at risk. Slow things down and take the weeks or months needed to determine whether this woman is someone you’re actually interested in.

    4. The dating process is not about sex, nor strictly about finding a partner
    I know this might sound counterintuitive but trust me on this one. Early in your reboot, the main point of dating is to go out and literally practice meeting people. If you’ve struggled with porn addiction and compulsive sexual behavior for years, you’re going to need that practice.

    Go out and have a good time with some different women. Observe how you react emotionally during the process. Be honest with yourself when reflecting on the experience after you get home. You might even find out that you’re not quite ready for dating yet. You’re simply on a fact-finding mission at this point.

    5. Have some standards
    In the past, you probably would have slept with anyone who gave you the time of day. You weren’t very concerned about the types of women you were with, you only cared about whether you could score at the end of the night. Now that you’re rebooting, though, it’s a different story.

    Today you need to have standards, brother. Once you drop your focus on sex, you begin to notice how uninteresting many of the women you saw before were. You’re much less interested in interacting with toxic women. You can begin to determine how you’d like to be treated and find a woman who meets those needs.

    Get Some Support Along the Way
    One of the most important things to keep in mind is you shouldn’t head into dating alone. Trying to manage your dating life during your reboot without any support is a disaster waiting to happen. Get yourself in the middle of a group of men, like we have in the Porn Reboot Facebook group, who know exactly what you’re going through.

    The more you surround yourself with support, the better your experience will be. You’ll have men who you can talk to when you’re having a difficult time with dating or you feel like you’re at risk of slipping. Dating during your reboot doesn’t have to be an impossible feat, brother. It’s a natural part of life and you can do it with the right support and approach!


    Your brother in this struggle,

    J. K. Emezi"
     
  2. timberfallen

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    Heading into day 8. Been good so far. Falling out of my routine a bit which usually signals upcoming danger in the next few days. I'll be traveling tomorrow as well so I'll just need to be extra alert for potential triggers.
     
  3. MoonBear

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    Checking in on day 1, am an Orc now! Should be pretty busy today with class, the gym, and my Dungeons and Dragons campaign tonight, so we are looking forward to that!
     
  4. Prophet Moonstruck

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    Day 85! Last night I had a few beers and met some friends that came to the city but of course, that changed my schedule for today as I didn't wake up at 5 as I did the rest of the week as more sleep was required for the alcohol to pass through the system. I did get the opportunity to see how the spirit gets weaker the day after alcohol ingestion and the need gets stronger, but as most of my habits have already been set in stone and utilized, they had little traction that was quickly disipated.
     
  5. hakihitoro

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  6. 12ove

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    Day 27, trod on!
     
  7. newbobido

    newbobido Fapstronaut

    End of day 4, I know I've already wrote today but I feel good and had a great day, so why not.

    I totally accept all of your advice and I'll be going back to the sauna only after I have a month of nofap (that would be extra hard because I've never made it a month in my life).

    For a long time I've been reading stuff about breaking addiction in general and one thing that came up alot is psychoactive drugs. The idea that it help in putting the addiction in perspective and to go on from that.

    So I'm not going to do any drugs at all, but I've always felt like meditation can also give me a transe like feeling. So I'm going to the next best thing and tomorrow I have a one hour session in a float tank (isolation chamber).
    I'm kind of nervous/ excited because I've never done meditation of more than 20 minutes, so it's a big step up.

    I'm not doing it just for nofap, I've always wanted to try it, but I do hope that it would have a positive impact in my life and that I will be able to find my own true answer to the great question of "why do I am trying to quit".

    Anyway, wish me luck, and if anybody here had ever done it, I would love to hear about your experience.
     
  8. crazyhorse11

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    @HE^MAN what a man! Please now turn your efforts to helping us, at least for December before you ride into the sunset
     
  9. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    Vasectomy
    I went to the clinic you can eat before the surgery. I waited for a while. It was a group of men waiting with me. It was quite funny, some funny guys there and usually the guys that ended up the procedure were on a good mood and made us feel more comfortable.

    They called one after another in no longer than 10 minutes time span.

    It was my turn I got into the OR. I exchanged some words with the urologist. He put a local anasthetic between my testicles I didn't feel the needle of the anesthesia. Then he started the surgery I only felt my testicles moving. No pain at all.

    Then I went home, I drove to the clinic and also coming back home. I went alone.

    I'm seeing the doctor in 7 days. I'll rest this week and do some light work outs these days.
     
  10. kaerhal

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    Day 7

    One full week! Still a while away from my record (42 days), but it’s a great feeling to know that the journey is underway once again.
     
  11. Kairose

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  12. Talz

    Talz Fapstronaut

    Day 7

    Still a lot of brain fog. Going to go watch a movie with a friend, will probably have a couple beers. Should go okay.
     
  13. Day 4 complete!

    I ran today (8 or so miles) for the first time in five days. Ordinarily it's not a great idea for me to leave it that long between runs, but the weather's been too poor so I was swimming instead. In classic fashion, I struggled with a big urge after the run, but I did get through it. At first there was a lot of fear and discouragement in my head, thinking that a fall was inevitable and how terrible I was going to feel about yet another relapse after just a handful of days. That feeling is really what let me push through. It's as though I woke up to myself, realizing that I've overcome really tough challenges before and I could do it again. And it feels great to have said no in that moment.

    Self-restraint is important. Today the guys in my hall had a sort of party with Christmas decorations and movies. There was beer and soda pop, but I restricted myself to only drinking water according to the plan I set up for myself a couple months ago. I felt really good about that decision as well.

    St. Francis Xavier, pray for us!
     
  14. CALM IN SUFFERING

    CALM IN SUFFERING Fapstronaut

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    Day 5 complete.

    Accidentally I posted twice on other forum and didn’t post here yesterday :D
     
  15. PeaceOnEarth108

    PeaceOnEarth108 Fapstronaut

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  17. devsMind

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    Thanks Bro but tbh It’s not like I’ve just started all of those i.e. I do workout for about 4months (before that light stretching was already before work routine for ~8months), cold showers for ~3months (before that last 3 years I just finished any shower with coldest water setting for like 20secs), struggling with healthy eating and limiting alcohol also for some time (fat around 22% and never drinking alone, still sum ups to ~twice/week). Those remaining two related to getting some skills are also something for which I am trying to invest time for a while (here very slow progress IMO).
    I think I have very stable life situation plus loving dreamlike wife which supports me (but certainly does not feel idea of NoFap as I am good with hiding addictions till recently) - to sum up I know that it’s much but thinking that I should be fine, especially that my second addiction - youtube - highly supported PMO as we all know what you will see after some hours of watching algorithm-suggested videos lol.

    Funny part-I am throwing this reasoning but yesterday half of the day was party and I broke big chunk of my to-be habits, luckily still strong with NoFap and NoYoutube. :D
     
  18. devsMind

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    As you are writing about it I am assuming that you are also open to idea of discussion and there is question from my side-what was train of thoughts behind doing such drastic step?

    I mean easy to notice that you are maintaining semen retention for insane amount of time (no clue at all how that’s possible with frequent intercourses-especially with different partners) and I touched this topic only when my friend was thinking about it as a means to secure having only one child (his wife wanted more)-is it like to have “eternal semen retention” streak?

    Not sure if such operation is truly compatible with naturalistic taoist approach and you sound like highly spiritual person.
     
  19. Ready to Stop

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    Day 285 no PMO. Yesterday the kids and I had dinner with my dad. He doesn’t hear very well so it was a little frustrating for us both. After dinner the kids and I out out some Christmas decorations and put the lights on the tree. It was a very good night and no urge to use PMO even though my wife was out for the evening. Good day overall!
     
  20. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

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