The problem with most people here.....

You re totally right brother

 

*humbly accepts slap in the face*

You only get this one though

 

The same mindset that sees a guy with 10 million dollars in his bank account and a successful business and calls him lucky.

 

I've been keeping track of my streak history in my signature. As you see, I've been struggling hardcore the past week. But this post was very timely. I am absolutely sick of this addiction, and I can't bend to the will of my carnal desires anymore. I have to change my whole lifestyle. Like you said, do the boring work. Freedom doesn't come at the flip of a switch, but I know I can get there.

 

5 years in... still a lots of work ahead of me. I remember being the person u describe. When someone told me back than, that my recovery might take years, I was enraged.

 

Yep, it takes as long as it takes. Your life might turn around in 1 year or it might turn around in 3. You might get lucky with networking and get that dream job faster than you thought, or you might be job searching for an entire year, the list goes on. The time is gonna pass either way. All we can really do is take it day by day, and make the next moment intentional. And it wasn't mentioned, but I see a lot of perfectionism and idealistic goals on here, and I think that needs to stop too if anyone wants to actually make meaningful strides. Much better you do 50% of what you set out to do than 0% because you refused to do anything less than perfect.

 

Yeah. I try to constantly remind myself that NoFap (and my fitness goals) is a marathon, not a sprint.

 

I agree with this mindset here. I was always stuck because i demanded perfection that i never began. Thank you @PegasusKid for the line on doing small things '50% instead of 0%'. The baby steps slow way is the best way to get moving.

I always focus on the end result instead of the beginning steps.

Thanks guys for helping me putting my goals into a better perspective.

 

I got a weird sense of humor man my bad

The o/p was enlightening.

The joke was about you only getting one free slap before I slap back lol

 

Being told your recovery will take years - its a freaking hard pill to swallow man...

Opinions of ppl who did not walk the path are worthless.

You are even generous when u say "up to 3 years" Im the example of 5 years recovery and Im still in progress..

 

I’ve gone through this thread and pretty much agree with all what has been said but one question arises from my side:

What is actually definition of success in NoFap?
How to know if one succeeded?
I am guessing that neither “90 days challenge” nor “you will never ever crave for PMO” are not correct answers or am I missing something?

Wishing all Good Luck and take care!

 

Different people, different goals. Reaching that goal = success.

 

This is a very good summary of the process! should be pinned up somewhere!

I agree with the idea that success usually takes years with NoFap. When I see a thread about someone with a real struggle, I often recommend writing down an outlook for how they want to live in 5 years time - then working backwards from that to see what they can change this year, month, week, and today...