Looking for SO

mmm.... I don't think that's what it says. The title says "Dating during a Reboot", which means people who are dating during their recovery from addiction.

But you are most welcome to participate and socialize here. Most of the time, people here are quite nice and helpful.

Sad to hear that your previous relationships were with P addicts. It takes time for an addict to realize they are an addict. Probably, that's the first step to recovery. But noFap is on the rise, and there's more men and women who have recognized it and are striving to quit. It's not easy, as you have seen in these forums. We all struggle. No addiction is easy to quit.

I wish you the best and hope that your next relationship would be a more loving, sharing and respectful one.

 

This is the worst place to go to find not porn consumers. Most people here.. like 90% still do porn, they are trying to leave it behind but unfortuantely they are all relapsing. Most guys that get over porn abandon the forum.. so you have more chances meeting a guy porn free anywere else but here.

 

I think it’s incredibly encouraging for us recovering porn addicts to see a woman who supports what we are trying to do and wants to get to know us!
And, I think it says a lot about you.
Addicts often feel so ashamed about their addiction that they hide it, but in reality many non-addicts are genuinely impressed by men who struggle to overcome their addiction.
I have benefited SO MUCH from women’s perspectives on here and would love to make a friend!

 

Welcome to the forum, you'll see all kinds here, the longer you're here the more you can identify, there are different stages and levels of addiction, the regulars are the ones battling themselves and trying to read the signs their bodies signal, a body under stress of addiction is a twitchy one, it's a compulsion and it feels almost automatic when you analyze it honestly. Glad to see someone looking in and being understanding, this is refreshing.

 

she plainly stated that she is looking for "Not men who have NEVER watched it but just men who made the conscious choice not to", i'd say this forum is the next best place after a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting place(?).
But OP if you yourself are not an addict or in a relationship with an addict you are (probably) wasting your time here.

 

Me above "Most guys that get over porn abandon the forum".

Agree

 

I've never seen a post here like this, but it really heartens me that you have come here @TwentyKnives to find a man who eschews porn.

I think it means people fighting their porn addiction and looking for a relationship, i.e. to discuss the pitfalls of dating while trying to reboot. But this is a great post and I don't think we have a sub-forum that is any more suitable (maybe Accountability Partners? but then again probably not.)

That's a very common story. It takes some kind of shock for us to realise the depth of our problem. For the yournger guys that shock is often erectile disfunction, for us older guys (I'm 56) it is often our wives threatening to leave.

Some might call that a contentious viewpoint, but not here. Here you will find you are surrounded by men and women who agree with you 100%.

I love this. It is so easy to be demoralised by how many men watch porn, but to turn that around and look for the men who have stopped, that shows real hope and belief in the future.

I hope you find people here that you resonate with, and who knows, maybe an SO. (We just celebrated a wedding here, so the sky's the limit!)

One last thought ...

I don't think this is true. Look in the Success Stories forum and you'll find loads of people with significant recovery who still find it useful to spend time on these forums.

 

And how do you know it's a woman posting it?

 

Their profile.

 

So profiles can't be faked? Have you ever heard of the term 'catfished'?

 

Of course profiles can be faked. You can choose to doubt people, I choose to trust them.