Hi, Stupid question maybe, so is having a gf with regular sex reduce the desire to watch porn ? Are does the desire still exists, because lets face it, real woman sex cannot give what porn can give, instant access to all models of females doing all your fantasies. Br, nfpexperiment
bro, I wish I could answer this question with honesty, but I can't as I have yet to experience it myself.
I think it depends. I can't speak from personal experience, but I've seen guys here be in relationships and still have a problem with porn. I've seen other guys here achieve long streaks and eventually stop posting here because they found a girl they really liked.
In my personal experiences, when I am dating a girl (even before we start having sex) I am able to stop watching porn.
Addiction is addiction. You can have multiple gfs, as long as you havnt kicked the addiction its there. You may have regular sex but in private you will still do your thing. Dont suppose you are lacking sth or behind others if you dont have a gf. Its otherwise! A gift for faster recovery it is
@nfpexperiment, have you looked in the 'rebooting in a relationship' section? Lots of us married to beautiful wives still lost ourselves in this addiction.
No. There are lots of reasons. Have you read https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/mis...-has-not-prepared-your-brain-for-todays-porn/ ? That covers the neurological reasons. There are psychological ones too, porn is great for hiding from the stresses of life.
As someone who is married and had plenty of regular sex - the answer is no. Porn, for me, was not a sex replacement, but an escape and coping mechanism to deal with stress, loneliness, anxiety and anger. No amount of real-life sex can replicate that.
No. Real sex, for me, was always better and more enjoyable. I never wanted porn more than real sex or intimacy. I never turned down my wife for my phone. But the emotions I was trying to ignore/repress were omnipresent. Anxiety, stress, anger, sadness, etc are facts of life and I never learned how to express or deal with with them when i was younger. I used porn compulsively to deal with them, going as far as browsing reddit when walking the dog to simply quiet the mind from thinking about stuff that happened or that I needed to do. Sex isn't on demand at any moment I want and it wouldn't be fair to my wife even if it was.
Not really. I facilitate a couple of the weekly calls on this site. There is a lot of married men or guys in serious relationships that join this group. I am married myself and can say that maybe in the beginning of the relationship when it's the honey moon phase, you'll less likely watch porn. However, when life and your relationship gets tough it's easy to use porn as a crutch to cope with these difficult emotions. In the past i use to PMO every time my wife and i had an argument. Don't do that now, but it can trigger urges.
It may stop it temporarily but when stressors hit, like for example if you married and had a baby, you are going to be right back at it. Learn to deal with your emotions and stress.
I'm married and still pretty deep into porn. That being said, yes I think it can help. My motivation to get a handle on things has gone way up. I have seen the benefits of having a healthy sex life and I see how disconnected physically AND emotionally I become when I'm using porn. So its a huge drive to get better and beat porn. And I am getting there even though I'm a long ways off.
It doesn't help. If you have a problem with PMO and you are married, your marriage will be quite damaged by it. That said, a wife can be a very powerful ally in this fight. But the effort of stopping PMO must be done as soon as possible by oneself. The ideal situation would be to get married free of PMO issues. The sooner you start the better. Marriage without PMO can be something very enjoyable. And I'm not talking just about the sexual aspect, but every aspect of marriage will be benefited.