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Escort addiction

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Teddy123, May 27, 2021.

  1. tiger9611

    tiger9611 Fapstronaut

    I think these are good strategies and ideas. I often wonder why I am not worried more about these things. I know someone whose life was severely impacted because he was caught in a sting operation. He pretty much lost everything (family, wife, financial security). For some reason I completely forget or look past all the negative consequences that can happen and am open to the possibility of taking a huge risk. I guess that is pull of the addiction at work for the pleasures of arousal and sex. The one thing I would add to your list is that we are basically using a real person with real issues for sex. Many escorts have their own issues such as sexual abuse that have led them down them down this past. I doubt very few of them feel good about themselves. I would guess most live pretty isolated lives of shame. Does anyone else have stuff to add that might help in staying away from escorts when tempted?
     
  2. Lucid111

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    Hello all, I am 27 M and for about a year I have a big problem with escorts and sex addiction. I have visited probably 50 of them the last year and spend a lot of money. I got so low at one point that I wouldn't have money to eat, or I would visit two escorts in the same day (I was like in a trance). For me, when this addiction takes over I am loosing control and can't stop, I am not thinking straight at all. I had to go through some pretty shamefull experiences: after visiting some cheap one, the next day, after peeing my pennis started to stink so I had to invent an excuse to go home from the work, but the collegues noticed the stink; this happened to me again, but to an lesser extend; I have paid women older or uglier than I would ever touch in my other life.

    As I said I am 27 and I am in big debt from some business in the past, but that didn't stopped me. I think the root cause for myself is spiritual; I got a job which I don't like very much, I go to the gym, but besides that I have nothing else in my life to bring me joy or love (no wife, girlfriend, friend or even pet). I think that subconsciusly I am trying to numb myself or I am searching for intimacy. Can't say 4 sure, I don't afford therapy :D.

    I am in vacation at the moment, and cause I wouldn't have money to survive in the city where I am renting (not even mentioning having fun or travelling), I travelled back to mommas couch in a beautifull village in the mountains.

    Since I am here I didn't even consider PMO or escorts. It is true that there have been only 4 days. Just taken the chance to share, obviusly can't give you any good advice on the matter.
     
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  3. Lucid111

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    number 4 is great; just imaging treating yourself with a nice meal and some clothes or whatever...
     
  4. JoeinUSA

    JoeinUSA Fapstronaut

    The problem is that one is searching for something from an escort that can neither be found in an escort nor even with a legitimate partner and certainly not with PMO. It's a broken sexual or relational woundedness within oneself that can only be actualized with a true and noble self-embrace of love (the good kind) and most likely only ever possible by engaging the source of love - Love itself, which most call God. Everything else then holistically unfolds from there in mature and whole relationships with others and with oneself. Addiction is the addict's slamming his head around in all other rationalizations and denials for inadequate cures and inadequate remedies for healing. Best wishes on the journey!

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  5. Georgeduffy12

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    I've seen escorts multiple times but I am sad to hear that you are struggling with this brother. It has not become an addiction for me as I go months without seeing them but I would recommend finding different hobbies and things that you are interested in to pursue in life because sex isn't everything compared to all the better things you could be doing in your life.
     
  6. sam30

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    i am inthe same pistion as you did the same thing as what you did..I was shaking myself too... i also felt my brain was so staffed up with dopamine i literally think i have relapse even though i didnt pmo after..Its like my bran keeps on telling just do it will be fine...
     
  7. Jrmz94

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    Where do y'all find escorts? I only used an escort once at a brothel in Nevada
     
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  8. I’ve been here, for me it wasn’t just the money or the std, most of these girls are drug addicts, there not good people there is a huge danger being around them. They’ll rip you off pretend to care about you beg for money and if your vulnerable like I was after my divorce last year they can really take you for a ride.
    I kept trying to break away from this one girl I credit this site helping me to do so.
    Your stories along with my desire to stop seeing her made all the difference.
     
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  9. Reboot bro, you can do this you have no idea how many times I tried.
    Invest in yourself for me it’s my dogs, my lifting ,reading history and horror movies.

    You need to find peace within yourself stop
    spending time and money on the lowest level of our society. The dangers are real.
     
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  10. I think, like everyone else here (including myself), you have a serious problem with using women as objects of pleasure. You may not see it but this is a seriously lack of real human connection. There is no love in this… just money and a service along with a free STD included here and there.

    What we are doing is disgusting and helps absolutely no one. Actually take time to know a girl, to not only use her for you sexual climax. To develop an actual relationship, that takes time, that takes effort money will never be able to fullfill.
     
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  11. I think your a degenerate freak and a troll,
    go back to your moms basement scum bag.
     
  12. Semtex

    Semtex Fapstronaut

    I paid 8 different women for sex in the last two weeks. Needless to say I don't feel too good about myself.
     
  13. sam30

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    Do you plan to stop this addiction??
     
  14. Sorry to hear that. Care to elaborate more on what led you to this path? It sounds like you're hurting inside and paying the 8 different women is a way to cope/escape. Let me know if I'm wrong
     
  15. I’m gonna talk to you guys about something that has helped me a great deal
    and that’s impulse control my man here sounds like that could be a huge issue for him. This is no way just about sex if it was you would find the one escort that did you right and stick with her. 8 woman wow that’s an impulse control problem and the excitement of new women goes along with the impulse issue.
    For me it was a lot of my ADD.
    I went on some meds that helped so much
    that with keeping busy with work and hobbies my dogs too and a positive outlook has changed me a great deal.
    I just don’t lose control anymore I think stuff through before I pull the trigger.
    Something to think about.
     
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  16. sam30

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    I onlywent to see escort due to my full
    Down on sexual fantasy but no sex. It’s even worst.. I have stop now hopefully 2022 will see a better life
    Of me
     
  17. Semtex

    Semtex Fapstronaut

    Originally it was just curiosity and perceived need to practice sex skills to be ready when a potential girlfriend appears. That was months ago, what kept me looking for more after the first experience was simply lust.
     
  18. Mozzy011

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    I have been down that road, was going regally to many different women. Cost me thousands of dollars and like many have said felt ashamed and dirty after but would always start looking to see someone the next day. The only reason I stopped was because I walked into a scam and had my money and phone taken from me scared me to no end. It is not worth it anyone reading this who hasn't been before trust me don't save the money and buy yourself something nice for a hobbie ect. Thats what I do now.
     
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  19. Mozzy buddy you are right on the mark, that’s what I do now too I got a few hobby’s vintage horror movie posters
    albums and stuff and that gives me a rush and some comics and buying it gives me a feeling of satisfaction when you got something to show for your money.
    Of course I’m careful to stay on budget.
     
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  20. Glad to see there are others having challenges with this that I can talk to. I'm not an addict in the sense of seeing escorts constantly, but it is problematic for me because I do end up spending inordinate amounts of time looking at ads sometimes which is basically weak porn and doing at least some light masturbating and at worst full on edging. This messes with the sensitization of my penis which causes humiliating issues like difficulty maintain an erection from stimulation with a woman and PE. I can understand how this can lead to seeing multiple escorts in one day. I haven't done it, but I've had the urge to after seeing one and having either an empty experience or one where I couldn't perform and feeling like another one was needed to make up for it. Then you repeat the whole thing again another day. It's a vicious cycle.

    I also find that seeing escorts really diminishes my desire to do the work to hookup with real women. It's sometimes hard to deal with everything that goes into dating when you know you can just go to an escort instead.

    Has anyone been able to kick the desire to see escorts? What changed for you?
     

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