Insights & Advice For People Living With Paraphilia

I guess the question then is how do we defeat fetishes that we developed during childhood

 

She has videos about this too (if you watch them watch with 2x speed lol)

 

I didn’t read the whole thread but did you ever consider visiting a therapist? Look fetishes are to some degree a learned behavior. Fetishes grow over time and are getting stronger and stronger because you feed it. It seems that you recently discovered your fetish and your bets are very good to stop it before it’s burn in your brain and getting too much power over you.

There is a technique which you could do until you have a appointment with a specialist:
„Psychiatrist Jeffrey Schwartz uses a version of this technique with great success to help OCD (obsessive-compulsive) patients modify the brain wiring that causes unwanted associations to trigger “required” actions. Each time an unwanted impulse arises, the patient turns his attention to some other, pre-chosen, constructive activity. Gradually, “neurons that fire apart, wire apart.” That is, nerve cell connections weaken as activity in the key synapses declines.“

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ybo...-gay-porn-and-other-brain-map-mysteries-2010/

 

I don't want to minimize things here or anything but you are 16. Chances are that the first time a woman fellates you, that you will become obsessed with fellatio. This is why I find the celibacy thing to be actually more damaging then not. By not engaging in relatively normal sexual activity, you won't let that activity imprint on your brain.

When I was 16 I literally got erections and became sexually aroused when eating cheeseburgers. Does that mean I actually wanted to fuck a cheeseburger?

 

Sex IS gross. Everybody knows it, we just don't talk about it. We ignore it during the act because the pleasure outweighs the gross.

 

Sex isn't just about having Sex man. It's pleasure and an important factor is emotional bond. You can't enjoy sex with a random woman. You gotta love her and respect her. That's my thought.

 

I wrote earlier about pOCD. These are people with OCD that have convinced themselves that they are pedophiles. They use circular logic, and because there is an inability to "prove" they aren't pedos, display compulsive behavior to protect children. Usually choosing isolation and celibacy.

We're talking about mothers unwilling to breastfeed their children because they could "assault" them, parents terrified of changing diapers, etc. People that add 20 minutes to their commute to avoid passing a playground because a simple glance toward a minor could mean the worst.

The thing is that they weren't pedophiles in the first place, they simply got caught in an unshakeable OCD logic loop torturing themselves. Like I said, most horrific reality imaginable.

 

There is a lot here and I do not have the time to respond right now. I do want to point out that a person can have OCD around a thing and also be that thing. It is not impossible.

 

I got a boner in class when I showed my first made software program to my class lol.
Sexuality is a powerful thing and can be connected to literally EVERYTHING.

Simply said: we need to disentangle the wrong connections.

 

Sounds more like hardware! LMAO!

 

Some people found out the root issues and processed them. Thát made it possible to "change" their sexuality (that is in fact their

The key is found at the time you was connected with dogs for the first time. A psychologist should be able to help you quite easily with separating the things.

 

Allright, I think I start to understand you now.
I had to look up what "furry in soul" actually is. The pictures I saw makes a very lot of sense to me, considering your problem.
Can you tell something how you got connected to that furry thing?
Did you play a game? Or did you find some porn where it was included?
Did you have sex where that furry fantasy was involved?

 

I would like to set your answer in a bit other direction.

Shame is just a natural emotion, and it has a function.
I think we really need to feel ashamed for certain things we do.
Shame is - seen that way - an important signal that we walk on a dangerous way.
You are right: most things we don't choose for.
But that does not change the fact that certain things we are lured in, are shameful.

I don't know if this is true.
When I dare to crossdress and finish myself with that, I feel a lot of shame.
I don't give my fetish power that way. It only shows thát the fetish has still power over me, pushing me into shameful acts.
Shame is very difficult to recognize, because it mades hide ourselves.
So it also made hide itself.
Recognizing my shame brought me really closer to myself.
That is: who I was under my fetish, my pure self, my real identity, so to speak.

What is true, is that shame can imprison us and hold us back from opening up and confession.
Whenever I pushes myself to confession of my secrets, I got freed from my shame.

I understand what you say here, and for a certain height it's true.
But there is a little difference between food and a sexual problem.
With a sexual issue, there is also a spiritual part.
Illegal sex leads to spiritual bondage. Always.
We need to get rid of that bondage would our lives be great again.