Anybody here earned a girlfriend because of rebooting?

I met my current girlfriend at around Day 120 of my first serious streak. We've been together almost a year and a half now. ^_^

 

Have you told her about NoFap?

~Squeaky Soul

 

Its been 5 years since I had my only girlfriend which I had sex with. it was a distance relationship though. Ive never had a normal relationship with girl of my country. I like Asian girls. Sometimes I think girls in my country dont like guys like me... maybe because these girls felt I was not a "real man". and maybe that was what FAP caused on me. Insecurity. Anyways Im trying to focus in more important things, cultivating myself, I think girls like those man that care more about other things than sex, so if we focus on cultivating our dreams.... girls will rain upon us.

 

I discovered nofap when I started seeing a girl who I found immensely attractive, but the PIED meant I couldn't get it up for her, and naturally she moved on.. Whilst I have lapsed multiple times since then, the realisation of how severe my situation was, and the change in mindset really helped. I managed 4o days PMO free at my peak, and that alone made the world of difference.

Since then i've had 2 relationships (one which i'm currently in) which I don't think I would have ever got it if I was still living in a world controlled by PMO! Whilst my head is still adjusting and repairing, NoFap has definitely changed my fortunes with women, and my confidence. I'm sure it will for you as well BeachDude1992 ;-)

 

I was in an unofficial relationship at around 30 days.

NoFap has made me much more happy, aware of others feelings, less likely to objectify women, etc the list goes on. She liked me cuz she said, "You really seem to have your life together." Also, cuz I'm a cutie, jejeje!

We talked on the phone, flirtered a little bit, it was all really innocent which is what I liked. We went on a date before she had to leave for school. I am not sad about it not working out anymore. When I think of her, I think of the good times we had, and how she really pulled me out of the dark place I was in at the time. She was a sweetheart.

-Squeaky Soul

 

Dude me too! First girlfriend I was 14. I didn't get the second/current until I was 23.
Just be strong and be patient and it'll happen.

I think so. I believe I'm more witty, confident, honest (like I don't hide very many things), outgoing, etc. I take better care of my hygiene and appearance as well.

I have! She knows I'm a mod and that spreading the truth about porn is very important to me. She has even occasionally served as an accountability partner when I get an urge. My motivation is just a phone call or text away.

 

That's awesome!

I was in a short relationship with a girl... We both opened up about our past. I said Ive struggled with addiction, but never specified what She was always curious. I think there's more of stigmatism with pornography addiction, just because it's not widely understood, or excepted yet.

~Squeaky Soul

 

I wouldn't say earned a girlfriend exactly but I'm going for a drink this weekend with a girl I don't think I'd have met had I not done NoFap.

This time last year I met a girl online and we started dating. I had mixed feelings about her but decided to persevere to see if things got better. We slept with each other on the fourth date and it was elwas then ectric, the word satisfied doesn't even begin to describe how I felt afterward. Both of us got told off by our respective bosses the following day for almost falling asleep at our desks. The following weekend I went to her home and we went to bed early and PIED really kicked in. This girl was HOT...tall, legs to die for, big breasts, blonde...real fantasy material but I just couldn't get a full erection. It was then I realized I had a problem with PMO. My relationship fell apart, slowly, over the next year, for reasons other than sex (frankly the girl had a lot of issues) but it was the wake up call I needed.

The girl I'm seeing at the weekend is one I met through dancing, which is something I would never have done had I not started NoFap and had the motivation to go out and do much more with my life. We'll see how it goes!

 

It's not too bad, the sex was really the only thing about that relationship I remember fondly. The rest was a bloody nightmare! But being naked in bed with a hot blonde who is also naked and trying to please you and not being able to get it up properly is a hell of a wake-up call!

I am taking dancing lessons yes. I think a lot of NoFappers could benefit from them. You have to be intimate with women and interact with them in a completely non-sexual environment. As a result you develop quite close connections with them. In Britain we talk about the 'curse of Strictly Come Dancing (which became Dancing with the Stars in the US)' because each year one of the contestants leaves their spouse and goes off with their dance partner. I don't condone it but can see how it happens now. There is a married women (for the record, not the girl I'm seeing at the weekend, who is single) at the class I go to and after dancing for a while we end up holding hands and getting very friendly. It's weird but you develop chemistry very quickly! If there are classes in your area, I'd recommend giving them a shot. I think you mentioned elsewhere that you like to keep fit and you will find yourself getting leaner dancing too.

 

I used to think I had serious commitment issues and never stayed with a girl for too long, now I have realised it was all down to PMO. I feel much less that the commitment issues are still there and I feel they will disappear completely when I have completed my reboot. I think that with porn you always look for the next more filthy hit and that when you are confined to one girlfriend it feels too restrictive. The irony is that after a while you cant even perform with her.

 

Great Thread

 

I haven't, but I don't know if now is the time to start looking for one. I mean I feel rebooted but its still hard for me not to ogle at women for a few seconds.