Can't stop thinking about her and it sucks!

I know what you feel, Ive been in your situation, and always thought "why this girl doesnt like me?" " Im that ugly?" "Maybe Im too desesperate, and she know it" and the list goes on... so after repeatedly being frienzoned by a girl, I think " well she wasnt for me" and its the life, I know somewhere is that girl waiting for me, but I know now that Im not prepared for her yet, Im not a secure guy, and thats why I entered the NoFap challenge, to feel the benefits of NoFap, to be the man I want to be, to wake up with that energy that belongs to me and not using it in masturbation. the worst mistake we can make is do this for the girls, if we do it for "the girls" man I tell you we wont make it. we need that control over our bodies, we dont need the sex to live, and when we get that girl, the next step is to have a sex without eyaculation. Eyaculation make the body so weak... the "best girls you can meet are those who dont focus in men" so the "best man you can meet are those who dont focus on girls"

 

I found all the replies were truly relevant and provide a glimpse of what may have happened, this is more help than I initially found. I hate to admit but I went thru something all too familiar in all the replies.
I get it, you want to show her your never ending love. I guarantee she will not reflect on your offer until you prove you moved on. Yep, that's my answer. She will consider your offer if you totally renounce. What better way to know you need something unless is gone? If you shown her all the love you have and left your door open, stay away and step back into your castle and work on it. If she doesn't feel it, is ok, you moved on anyways and should therefore see your chances with other women.

 

A couple of things to say...

1. The source of love is internal not external. It comes from you and you have an unlimited supply. When you are in love with a specific person you are creating that feeling, it is not coming from the other person - not matter how unique and perfect they seem. It's like a small flame you carry inside you and some people spark it up and turn it into a blaze, but if doesn't work out with that person, the flame doesn't go out, it's still there and can be fueled to a blaze by someone else.
2. You seem to have a lot of anger towards the women who have rejected you. When your crushing they are the greatest thing since sliced bread, when the reject you they are "fools" and "liars". Meanwhile that person has not changed. Women can pick up on those anger/bad attitude issues a mile away. You need to work on that attitude if you want to be more successful with women. Rejection is very common, put your ego aside and realize that not everyone will be into you. It's not a big deal, it's normal. Everyone has preferences in who they date, often unconscious ones, if your not their type it's not a reflection on you, it just is what it is, get over it, move on.
3. Your making way to big of a deal about asking someone out. If you meet someone your interested in, have a conversation with them. If the conversation goes well tell them you'd like to talk more and would they like to grab a coffee, or whatever... if they say no - fine, no big deal, if they say yes - also fine, no big deal. But don't build it up into something it's not.
My two cents.. hope it's helpful.

 

I was searching for forums about heart broken people, and I found this one, it is interesting that my suggestion relate to fapping


I also had this problem, and my method was very un-orthodox. I promised myself that if I ever overcome this problem I will publish my method.

My experience:
I dated a girl for 1.5 months but I continued to think about for a 3 year… It was very hard for me and I suffered deeply. I was always thinking about her all of the day each day. Finally I managed to get out of it using a simple method.

The Method:
The method involve masturbation, well we all masturbate, the question is what do we think when we do it. All the time while I was obsessed with her I was masturbation while watching porn. One day I told myself that I do not want to watch porn anymore and then I stated masturbating without watching porn. In order to do that I needed things to fantasize on while masturbating, this lead me to try and look on women in the street/bus/what-ever and try to memorize how they look (specially the more exposing women) so that I will have what to think on when I masturbate. This - trying to look at other women’s, trying to keep a picture of them in my mind, made the obsessive thinking disappear. When I started this “process” I also stooped thinking about her.

Final remarks:
I do not know exactly why it worked. I know that it can be considered as disgracing to women, but I will not exaggerate to much if I say that I was close to death. This is why I am feeling obliged to write it here in the forum. I hope that if someone is in my position will read it it will help him. Of course when looking on other people be discrete and polite as possible.



Best.