The Lord of the Rings Challenge

What defines relapse or not is the intention behind the action. If you were watching a TV series and out of nothing a sex scene appeared and you quickly closed your eyes or skipped the scene, it would not count as a relapse. If you were searching for P, went in, saw the scene and then got out, the intention behind it was to see P, and you did saw, this is a relapse.

Be mindful, always.

Strenght & Honor!

 

This is my personal opinion:
@Anas778 you should decide by yourself.
You have a 104-day streak. Splendid. I've never had one like that. If you managed to accomplish it once, you're gonna do it again. Imagine you accomplish 365 in two streaks instead of one. What's the difference? It shows how you grew during this challenge. And this challenge is just a game to make this journey more enjoyable. It's not a race. If it was a race, I would have to give up already because I have no chance of being the first. The overall goal of beating the addiction is all that counts.
As for me, in my life, I believe I've managed to stop myself from MO after watching P only once, so I consider it quite a feat if you managed to stop. I know that P triggers MO and it's crucial to avoid P at all cost. But I guess it's M that the most serious issue and O that results from that and keeps us imprisoned in this addiction.

 

I guess we'll have to wait for the Elders to arrive

 

Day 157

 

Bro sorry, The series contain a lot of nudity scenes, I usually skip it, but in almost all the chapters have one. I'm sorry to suggested without any advice.

 

Day 7!
Still in quarentine, and still feeling sick. Today I will go to the doctor to check my healthy status. The worst think about beeing in quarentine (for me) is that I can't do exercise, is something that I really like. Keeping strongh!

 

Checking in day 17

 

Must be hard to feel such a pressure from both of your parents. Nobody can force you to settle down if you aren't ready to do so. I guess if you would found a person you are truly found of, that would change voluntarily.
For me I am in a relationship which hopefully leads to marriage but I am not ready to marry yet because my heart isn't healt enough. To heal my heart I have to work on myself. I can't do any compromise anymore and more important I can't ignore anymore what's bad for my soul. I have to take initiative and change things which are harmful to my self esteem. I have to take care for myself.

Sometimes taking care and listening to your voice and to the voice of God means to say no to serain things. This process lead me more to happiness but I had to left behind some friends of mine and habits I used to make for years.

One of the biggest things was to stopp MO. Believe me I wanted to stopp long time ago, but I never had success. For the last two years I told myself I can't stopp so i will just accept how it is. It's about two weeks ago that I came along the NoFap community because after I MO I felt the urge to research what the benefits of stopping would be. This time I did not want to only look at Gods view about this I needed an other prove.

I don't know anything about your life but I am glad you are here and I want to say I understand how you feel. I feel with you mate and I wish you a lot of strength and confidence to believe in your own decisions and dreams.

Greetings
J

 

I hope you find what you are seeking my friend, take care.

 

I can agree with you that this group should not be a challenge, however I can understand that someone does not want to lose a streak of 104 days. It would be hard to start at day 1 again. I still would advice you to be honest with yourself and with the group. I think nobody in here should watch P, because this women and man are getting broken at this video's. Nobody should get paid to do such evil things. Not that I say the people who do this for living are bad, more of that the existence of this industry should be banned. Every like or viewer will encourage them to produce this shit. If nobody would consume nobody would produce.

Hope this was helpful and not leading you to feel shamefull. We are all humans and weak.

Greetings and good luck
J

 

@kaerhal and @JEBF are correct. The intention, was there. When you start watering a seed, its roots will grow strong. This time it was just a peek, next time you may edge and peek and finally fall to a full blown relapse. You are sparking the neuropathway of your addiction. What needs to be done is putting away the seed, back in a container and refrain from cultivating it.

All is not lost though, the progress you have made is not gone. You just fell victim to complacency. When you carry on a longer streak, you tend to become complacent in the practices that brought you this far. Temptation demon sees its opportunity and strikes.

Rekindle what first started you on the path, study success stories, study the harms of addictions and analyze what was your emotional trigger, the one that lead you down to peeking. What were you running away from? This will reinforce your position and keep you strong for the next moment of complacency. I advocate for continual practice of the habits that kept you going this far and continual reminders of why you started this.

Good luck friend.

 

Had a good weekend. Some temptations but did not give in.

Day 6 - Orc, The Dark Tower Barad-Dûr

Almost urukhai once more!

 

Checking in Fellowship Friends!

Day 353 free of MO and day 425 free of porn.

I am starting the year by reinforcing my meditation practice. I still do it daily, but I had become complacent. The goal for January will be: two sessions of 10 minutes, one first thing in the morning and another right after work. On weekends I will add an additional 15 minutes of meditation midday.

I'm also adding a tech free day a week, no screens, no TV/phone/laptop, minus any urgent necessities.

On that note, be wary when setting goals. Have the final goal in mind(remain flexible), also have a break down of many smaller goals that will assist you along the way. Better to set down 1 brick a day and have a solid foundation vs setting 10 bricks a day and your foundation end up being brittle. Set things to your capacity, even a bit easier than that, this is to ensure success and capitalize on compounded momentum .

On another note, the last month has been a rather busy one, lots of ongoing changes with stress attached to them. Urges have arisen more than the month before, but still, I am not going to cave in to them. I've taken the time to remind myself why I am doing this. When urges arose, I reviewed past notes.

Stay strong my friends!

 

Good response bro thanks, appreciate it. 2 questions : is there a book or something that references how sperm is used for stem cell renewal? and same question regarding how the medical system bleeds you dry?

 

Thanks for the reminder of 'purity is possible' - superb site

Just went through the reframing module and discovered the following:

I am at highest risk of triggers when I am dreading a task that exposes me to potential criticism. Reason for this fear of criticism is a fear of being found out for being a procrastinator and for the times I have distracted myself and others with chats etc... instead of working on my tasks. So the key is the temptation to procrastinate and so how do I reframe these temptations as opportunities to engage & raise the appraisal cortex while lowering the limbic cortex. The main opportunities are
a) when I am faced with a mountain of tasks
b) when I am staring a monotonous task
c) when I am facing a task, the result of which exposes me to criticism
d) a mix of the above

When these arise ( which is daily ) I am going to take a do as you go approach and just do even a little task or part of a task rather than allowing me to goto the distractions like social chats, surfing, etc...

 

Thanks man, would you be able to share your notes on what to do when your urges arise?

 

Thanks for this post man, very very helpful to me in my work situation - how much of my suffering is based on my selfishness? Prob a whole lot. So go to work with an unselfish intention and lets see the results

 

Day 0

 

Don't give up. Time to start over!

 

Day 9

Thank you brothers and sisters for your prayers, my sermon (apparently) went brilliantly, and I’m relieved that I gave it a great effort and it was well-received.

Nerves early in the day were an issue for me, but didn’t lead to relapse. Now that my timetable has freed up I need to be careful not to slip into any old habits - I must find new and helpful ways of using my time.

@Anas778 I apologise if I sounded brash earlier - I totally understand that losing a big streak is a horrible feeling, I just want the best for you brother!