Asking her out - should I or shouldn't I

That is good thinking...if you're looking to injure yourself in the gym.

In the gym, there's always hot girls with amazing bodies in those tight leggings. But gym is for workouts and and workouts only. If you're looking to date, sign up for dancing or any other type of "socializing" classes. Gyms for me have always been a big no-no.

Not to mention that it's been a year and the best I can say is "that ship has sailed". Seems you're holding on more to a memory than anything else, and you should instead look forward.

Best of luck to you!

 

Very true about the timing. It made me think about acting on my situation.

 

I know you already made your decision, but i was in a somewhat similar situation recently - told the girl i wanted to date her, she basically told me she had a boyfriend now (and backhandedly told me that i probably had a shot back then but i'd caused that ship to sail by ignoring her all this while). For me that sense of closure both removed my doubts and gave me zero regrets, i actually wonder why i didn't do it earlier.

This is more for future reference about creepiness in general - sure it was going to be a little weird to drive to her gym at 6am just to ask her out now. But being creepy is usually less about WHAT you do specifically (unless it's something really crazy) and more about HOW you say or do that thing.

Like what i've noticed for me personally is the more self-conscious and worried you are about being creepy, the more your worry will lead you to doing some strange thing in the moment that will end up being perceived as creepy. Like imagine arriving at the gym and second guessing your decision, then you start walking towards the facility and then backtrack out of fear, and then walking back and forth towards the gym whilst trying to talk yourself into doing it until you spot the girl coming your way and then either - panic and duck away or suddenly switch up your behaviour and begin to approach her. Pretty weird looking, right?

Compare this to arriving to the gym in the morning, entering the gym to work out and then approaching her during a lull or break in the workout and going "hey, i remember seeing you around - it's been a while" and then shooting your shot then and there (or just asking her if she's doing anything after the gym and then taking her and shooting your shot) . I'd personally say it's not ideal to do so in the gym, maybe a lot scarier initially, but far less weird and maybe slightly cringy at best.

i'd honestly always pick the latter.

 

When faced with a mountain. You have two options, walk away from that mountain or climb over that mountain.

 

grandpa these days we just drill through the mountain.

 

I make mountains.

 

I’d say definitely visit the Gym again to see if she’s even there. Just confront her and look your best, shouldn’t be nervous or anything. Be excited! Like long time no see! Maybe ask her about her work outs, how much she’s benching or be silly and ask if she’s got abs yet. Woman love it when a man takes action to notice the good. Took me a while to realize this.


I had a similar experience at my gym days. I was working out with my Personal Trainer and this girl literally said “ Don’t mind me just a cute girl working out here.” I felt I missed out on a opportunity. I always kinda look back at it. She seemed a little feisty.