Can porn use lead to onset of mental disorders?

It sounds like you're experiencing something a lot of people do. The more porn you watch, the more your brain gets desensitized to it. This leads you to "need" more intense/weird stuff to get an erection and finish. A lot of people get into gay porn when they are deep in a porn addiction, and once they've rebooted it disappears.
My advice would be to live your life normally, avoid sex and sexual thoughts, and don't worry about it. If you don't dwell on it I think it will go better.

 

I was facing something similar. When I was aroused and watching porn, sometimes I felt attracted to the dick more than the chick. I wasn't sure if I was gay or exploring my sexuality. This happened only when I was watching porn. I did not get aroused by men otherwise. At the same time this was happening I got into other extreme porn fetishes. I read the same explanation icyweb gave on yourbrainonporn and felt a little relieved. I am now certain I'm not gay or even bicurious. My mind was bored watching normal porn and was getting its fix from extreme fetishes. It's only improved my resolve to stop watching porn.

 

I honestly believe this to be true... Porn can lead to the onset of mental disorders. Coupled with smoking weed, a notorious paranoia inducing drug...

The trouble with HOCD is once you've began that cycle, that routine, that form of checking, it rarely ever goes.

The good thing is, over time you can reduce its effects. You can reduce how you react to it. Let me just say, you will need to begin reducing your porn consumption as well, I've been 60days once but have since relapsed. So it may take a year even longer to start training yourself that watching porn is not normal - or healthy.

Now back to the HOCD. Luckily, I've had a lot of experience with this and let me tell you the only way to beat it is to do exactly what scares this shit out of you at this present moment in time. Otherwise you'll never get your life back.

1. You have to be totally comfortable with the fact that you might be gay. I say the word might, as in you're probably not, but when you wake up everyday you have to tell yourself, 'hey I might be gay and that's OK.'

2. You have to start using the word, gay or phaggot in conversations with others again. Maybe throw the word around now and again and see how you react to it. Even laugh about it and deliberately say, I bought a shirt yesterday but it was seriously gay as fuck. You have to keep doing this, gradually building up the intensity.

4. Remove all songs from your ipod and download just gay, or songs that are perceived to be gay and listen to them everyday, during college or work. Don't be afraid to leave your ipod out on show either. If someone accidently sees those songs on your ipod, you couldn't give a fuck. It's just a song.

5.Start reading gay articles, maybe the gay times, just get comfortable with anything to with gay issues. If a TV show comes on and there's a person you suspect to be gay instead of flickering the channel stay there, increase the volume. Are your parents or friends in the same room? Who cares, you need to stay there and crank up your anxiety.

6. Plan a coming out, record memos of yourself coming out on your ipod. Make it as ridiculous as possible. Buy a pink T-shirt and nail varnish, and pretend you're going to come out to your family. Make it as real as possible. Actually try talking to yourself and telling yourself you definitely 100% home grown queer. And nothing else makes sense.

7. Continue with this everyday for a good couple of months and I can guarantee you, your HOCD spikes will practically disappear. Also start reducing your porn and definitely quit smoking pot.

Good luck my friend you're not alone.

 

Dude what? No ignore him.

When I was watching porn every day a few years ago, I started wondering if I liked guys and wanted to be more feminine. I even experimented with that IRL and found that what seemed exciting on porn was gross in practice. It was 100 percent caused by the porn and now I laugh about it because I'm so very straight.

 

Best way to find out? Quit porn and see what effect take place in your body. No doubt about it, porn is worth quitting regardless of the level of addiction. I do believe it affects one's mental well being and I think there are several issues here compounding. But I focus better, I'm happier and life is simpler when I'm off the porn.

 

I have to disagree with what tweeby said. It doesn't sound like the best plan. It sounds a lot like dwelling on the issue and allowing it to rule your thoughts and behavior. The best way I've found to combat ocd is to meet it head on, and say no. Put a rubber band on your wrist and snap it when you feel like checking. Distract yourself with something else.
And don't reduce pmo, eliminate it!

 

Meeting an OCD head on does not equate to pushing the thoughts away. In fact, it has been proven that this behaviour only strengthens the compulsion and causes more anxiety in the long run.

The best way is to eliminate any hold or fear the 'thought of turning gay' elicits ... to face it, accept it and amplify those stirring emotions. When you do this day in day out, instead of being exhausted with the constant commentary in your head, 'am I gay, could this mean ____, or could this mean _____?' You bombard your negative voice in your head with, 'Yeah goddamit I am gay, didn't you know?'

This whole 'turning it around', plays havoc with your inner HOCD voice and as a result it doesn't hold any grip over you in the long run. I'm afraid the people that have commented on this being a bad idea, probably hasn't ever studied or looked at the best counter measures to beat OCD's - or experienced it themselves.

If you research it enough, you will find good therapists set their client's set tasks when overcoming an anxiety and that involves actively stirring those emotions you want to push aside.

Snapping a rubber band is laughable idea.

I do agree with one thing icyweb has said, and that's to prevent PMO altogether but we all know it is not as easy as that, so it will taken a gradual weening and a bunch of trial and errors (relapses) to come off porn.

Good luck man, PM if you need anything.

 

Granted from what i know as a non-professional normal guy who listens around, pornographic abuse and a certain degree of substance abuse are probably going to have a effect on brain wiring, especially if you are taking in these substances while the brain is rewiring itself to cope with porn via desensitization etc etc.

Im neither supporting your claim or denying it, but its there and i would not be shocked if combined use did have a more prominent effect on mental 'health and wellbeing' even to some minor degree such as raising the pre-existing genetic risks.

Im a "straight" guy, but i've experienced a lot of 'questionable' behaviour such as a intimate 'man crush' where myself and someone known to be publically gay and to be ripped (getting off topic here) began to get intimate before cutting off and never talking to each other again to easing myself and occasionally joking with myself on such matters. Any doubt in my mind i simply put down to saying im bi instead of im outright 'gay' since it is a comfortable middleground and i have put thought into the mechanics of transitioning sexuality and decided it was not for me at the time being anyway.

Despite what culture might tell you, there is nothing wrong with being 'gay' really in modern society, taboo and occasional ridicule maybe, but if you can walk the streets openly with the occasional insult, it's better than some places in the world where you risk being seriously injured/killed or arrested for prison time.

 

Just out of interest, I hope you know your 'supposed GAY' thoughts are hardly gay at all. What you are experiencing is voyeuristic imagery - which is typically what 100% guys view when then sit down and watch porn. I.E watching another guy have sex with a girl. If you're watching porn long enough the brain builds the neuro connections to become excited by voyeuristic imagery.

If you turned around and said your excitement comes from imagining two guys have sex that would be entirely different, and even still some straight guys have even admitted escalating from transgendered person porn to gay porn purely for the novelty factor - be thankful you've not reached that stage.

All your other anecdotal evidence for suggesting you might be gay is just pure nonsense. Do you honestly think ALL gay guys have small hands, or are good looking? Of course not, like everything there are typical stereotypes and not so typical stereotypes.

I've not read a single thing so far that suggests a longing for same sex relationships, an emotional longing that all closeted homosexuals describe.

 

You won't obsess about your sexuality if you don't care which way it goes. Maybe tweeby's advice goes a bit far (to the point of dwelling on the obsession), but you have to somehow get to a point where you can say, "Maybe I'm gay (or bi or something else). That's OK. I can live with that." When the obsession is gone, you can see the issue unclouded.

 

Too much marijuana causes increased estrogen and paranoia. Marijuana has also been associated with mental disorders in some cases. How much are you, or were you, smoking? Definitely stop and definitely stop PMO