How to not prioritize women?

Look, man. If you're having abstinence streaks that long, I think you're much further along on this journey than most people here. At some point, you have to stop counting days. You can simply continue to foster better, healthy habits and living accordingly. Your longing for a righteous woman is completely natural and nothing to run from.

You'll probably see my advice as the opposite of what you might've expected but I'll give it to you anyway. Maybe you can start to be more proactive in seeking out the kind of woman you want. Obviously you know you won't find her on Instagram or probably anywhere else online so don't look there. You can work on your social life, involve yourself in more activities, etc. If you're religious, maybe you can attend church or whatever place of worship suits you. If you enjoy working out, consider doing that but outside of the gym. Go on hikes, bike rides, spend time in nature. Oftentimes, you'll find not only women but lifelong friends this way. You need to do things you love and you will find others with shared interests.

That's the best I've got for you. Don't fight what you're feeling. Wanting a decent woman isn't at all something unhealthy like seeking out porn.

 

Work on your own qualities, values, and strengths. To paraphrase a well-known quotation, "Be the partner you want to have." In other words, if you want a righteous partner, practice being righteous.

 

I have a similar experience to you. I was just on a 25 day streak and relapsed after making a dating profile. It seems when I start wanting to “chase after” women, then I always end up relapsing. But if I just don’t try at all, then I don’t relapse.

What you could do, is wait for a woman who makes it really obvious she likes you. Then start talking to her. This way, you can still have motivation to keep your streak because you are talking to a girl who you know already likes you.

This situation happened on my longest streak a few months ago - 94 days. On day like 5, this girl from my work asked me if I had a girlfriend. We started talking and I had strong motivation to keep my streak because I wanted to be impressive for the girl.

so maybe, don’t full on try to talk to girls, but sort of hang around them subtly and see if any of them give a strong sign towards you. But don’t actively try too much, otherwise your brain will get into sex mode.

Also, maybe try to be okay with the possibility that you will be celibate for life, that a girl will never come your way.

 

Same problem here. I think the only way is to be so conscious of the fact that it can lead to a relapse that even though it adds a likelyhood of a relapse you always stay one step ahead.