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The way to the absolute victory

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by hj331, Jan 18, 2022.

  1. hj331

    hj331 Fapstronaut

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    Hello, brothers! My name is Stas, I am from Kyrgyzstan, 35 y.o. Thank you all for this great forum! The story is really long so I'm going to concentrate on the most important details. I started nofap in 2018. Before Jule 2020 the longest period of nofap was 5 month (I try to omit a lot of details of the severe war with this disgusting habit). And finally, I was managed to keep pure nofap until September 2021 (1 year and 2 months). This was an outstanding record! But unfortunately, since September 2021 I could not save nofap more than 40 days, then 30, then 17 and 15 days! :-( (the last relapse was yesterday).

    It's extremely hard to be aware that you lost again your ability to control this urge and have become a slave of this dirty activity...
    The main purpose of this topic is to demolish this nasty thing FOREVER! Thank you guys for the reading and your support!

    PS: I plan regularly to keep records on this topic.
     
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  2. Dave2022

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    Hello, Stas, I'm new also. Your English is good, which is really cool. Let's defeat this addiction together, brother.
     
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  3. MexFighter

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    Welcome!
    You're doing it great!
    Also 1 year 2 months was a GREAT streak
    You got this! You did it once you can totally do it again..
    Does your family know abour your addiction?
    Are you gettin professional help?!
    Its time to!.. Therapy can be the difference!
     
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  4. hj331

    hj331 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you, brother! Let us smash this ugly insect mercilessly! (Or here is another comparison: you are a surgeon, nofap is a scalpel, and "fap" is a cancer tumor. So let's do the job!)
     
  5. hj331

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    Thank you, friend! I am also strongly convinced that it's absolutely possible, primarily because this habit is not natural for the human body, therefore it can be eliminated.
    As for my family, I gave God and Jesus the promise of celibacy (it means forever, until death) so I have no family, and it's really great!
    I believe the therapy would be more appropriate for heavily addicted "fapers".
     
  6. MexFighter

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    I meant family like parents, siblings..
    Well.. I disagree with you... You know you're an addict, right?!
    Years trying to stay sober and relapsing? That's an addiction! I'm not a "heavily addicted fapper" neither actually, I'm an addicted to sexting and porn and therapy was the only way I could reach this first streak..
    I'm just saying: this addiction grows in the secret.. if you dont confess you will keep failing.. you need to talk about it.. and even tho you decided for celibacy (congrats!) you still need to confess..
    I really really hope you can beat this but its almost impossible without help ..

    The unconfesses is the unhealed..
    Take care
     
  7. Dave2022

    Dave2022 Fapstronaut

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    I completely agree. You need someone you can tell everything. Honesty - complete honesty - is the only way I ever managed to get any kind of sobriety (in my case with my wife and an ecclesiastical leader). Have you ever done a written disclosure, like a Step 4 for AA or SA?
     
  8. Welcome. Ascension is ours!
     
  9. hj331

    hj331 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you, friend! I really appreciate your opinion! The phrase "unconfessed is the unhealed" has a deep meaning, but unlike your perspective to solve the problem, I have a little bit different way. I strongly rely on God's help and His mercy, and it's not about religious rites and other people's arrangements. It's about a close relationship with the living God and confessing to Him all sins (including the fap addiction). Based on this position, the necessity to engage another outside person loses any meaning.
    The main difference that you seek confessing in front of a human, and I - in front of the Lord :)
    Anyway, I largely share your way of solution to the problem!
     
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    hj331 Fapstronaut

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  11. hj331

    hj331 Fapstronaut

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    Hello, brothers! Today is the 189 day of pure nofap. And the last 5 day (until now) I have been struggling with severe urge. It will be awesome if you share how you overcame similar period. Thanks a lot!
     

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