I relapsed

Dude I experienced the same thing. Currently I am at day 3 but I came from day 500 which was very difficult to come back from. After that relapse I relapsed and relapsed and relapsed again and was not able to get a high streak.

Now I am at day 3 and am planning to reach the 90 day mark. Fallbacks do not define us bro. We can come back from our defeats.

 

I want 14 days....but I have been unable to do so....I Relapse and Relapse....and I know it is partially that when any stimulus towards porn and masturbation arise....
I do not use my antidotes....I somehow lie to myself that it is ok....and then I am lost ...
thanks hangin....

 

This is so relatable. An addict (no offense because that is what we all are) makes excuses that it is okey: Same with me:

• I was working very hard to graduate for a certification at work, when I passed it I made up an excuses in my mind that I am allowed to relapse as a reward.
• When 2021 was ending I made up an excuses that I start my streak again in 2022 so I relapsed on the 30th of december

So our brain always comes up with excuses that it is okey to relapse because it wants that big dopamine rush. We have to persuade ourselves that it is NOT okey at all!!! Not only on the conscious level but also on the unconscious level which is more than 90% of our brain's capacity. We have to feel it and want it. Because on the conscious level we can persuade ourselves for a day or two but after a week or 2 weeks this will become vague because the unconcious brain will always take over at some point.

Can I give you some advice? Meditate! Meditate every day for 10-20 minutes (I do it in the train to work) and think about all the benefits of NoFap, think about that 100-day mark you will see on your phone, think about the feeling of pride when you have reached this. Think about how you have evolved as a man up to this point. Think about the women or men you will attract. Think about that happy relationship which is sexually healthy and fun.

This all gives you the ability to also persuade yourself on an unconscious level, which is more than 90% of our brain. This will make the streak smoother and way easier.

 

Thank you so much! You too! One day at a time.

 

21 days is very good progress and if you did it once, you can do it again and much more.

My advice is to use the public day counter which is found at the top of the page as it adds a level of accountability.

Good luck, you can do it!

 

Was it still hard, like having to put in the work daily even it’s that high of a streak?

 

Not at all ! After day 90-100 it was very very easy and the days flew by like it was nothing. It was like an automatic pilot because it became normal to me to not masturbate or not to watch porn, which made it very easy. Now it is the other way around so I have to reach that mental brain state again which takes time.

 

Thanks I do meditate everyday, but it is not enough....I get these waves of a six huge triggers or so in the course of an hour....I have been so frustrated with this...but Now I am having some patience ....it is going to come so let it come....but what I have to do is concretely respond to each wave, which in the past was exhausting.....Now I look directly at it and ask " What is the Source of this?"....I sometimes get some response for some cause in the past, but almost always I can see in general that the Source is my own mind....this helps, then I ask the Coercer God that is always fucking pushing me around to take this shit, I ask my teachers, the Angels, and any Enlightened Being to take this shit from....and it is amazing , if I am clear and directly ask , they do....Then I do some Holy Mantrum, I Stabilize myself, and am patient for the next wave....

 

Why, thank you, that´s so nice to hear. I reached 30 days and since I wasn´t feeling really horny on day 32 after a couple days of unreal arousal, I masturbated to see If the tension would go away, SPOILER: it didn´t, I guess there goes my theory. So this week have been the hardest, more than the first 30 days, this time I´ll reach 90 days and hope for the best, hehe.

 

You go, man! Keep it up!