Post Partum Insecurity

sometimes I feel like I am a numb-head who doesn't know how to speak.I will talk to you soon.

 

I don't know how much can help you, but i will share my experience. I destroyed my relationship with my PMO addiction, at that time i had no idea i had an addiction, i just couldn't control myself and i didn't understand why or probably didn't give it to much attention. My addiction brought me to sexting with people on various website until i would make them willing to meet me in real life....and then i would disappear or bail on them. I analyzed all of it and i start to understand every part of it. Now i'm doing my first reboot trial, that for me it has to be also the last. I had to change my life and invest on myself, try to build that self confidence, i was getting through other people, directing by improving myself. Then probably you will have to answer to a different huge personal questions, do you still want to be with him? do you want to make your relationship work? are you still happy with him? If you are sure about these answers you can work hard on it and save your relationship and erase your addiction.
I hope to be helpful or at least to spark a new useful thought.
P.s As man he probably feels himself not worth of your sexual attention anymore, insicure and lost. Probably it will have to work on himself and the relationship a lot as well.

 

When it comes to my body, I train. Maybe go to a gym? Start an sport?

 

Great, I highly recommend it to you. It may be 'hard' at the beggining, but trust me, it's just at the beggining. You end up loving doing gym.

 

I found a cross fit gym that is group classes. I love the complete workouts and I’ve made friends because we all workout at the same class. Been going for 5 years now and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for my mental health.

 

Not only for your mental but for your body as well!
Our body is a tool, so you rather take care of your tool in order to work properly!

 

I'm reading between the lines here, but it appears you have some underlying health issues that are affecting your energy levels and libido. You may wish to consult a good physician. From my perspective, you should at the very least be taking some vitamin B12 supplement in the form of methylcobalamin (don't get the nearly useless and ubiquitous supplemental form of cyanocobalamin). Vitamin B12 is very important to nerve function, and gets depleted/exhausted with excessive sexual stimulation. A deficiency of this vitamin can cause fatigue, exhaustion, memory loss, reduced appetite, reduced sensation of taste/smell, numbness/tingling in hands or feet, and, in extreme cases, permanent brain damage or death. It is impossible to overdose on B12, and the body limits how much can be absorbed daily through the stomach. To really play catchup, it can be helpful to inject it directly via IM, bypassing the stomach.

There may be other nutrients that you should get more of: vitamins B1, B2, and B6 are also important to nervous energy; iodine is important for proper functioning of the thyroid, which helps to regulate metabolism and energy levels; iron is required for good blood/hemoglobin, a deficiency of which can cause anemia; etc.

Of course, one of the simplest things can also be responsible for huge differences in health and energy levels: water. Make sure you are adequately hydrated. Those who experience headaches should know that about 50% of all headaches are caused by dehydration. For the other 50%, there are at least 200 common potential causes, of which lack of sleep, allergies, stress, arsenic toxicity, caffeine, etc. are included.

Exercise is great. But if one is deficient in some essential nutrient, exercise cannot supply it. In some cases, exercise can leave one feeling more tired and drained than before, simply because there is something lacking. So be sure to find a balanced approach in maintaining your health.

And save your quota of sexual energy for your husband--he will appreciate it!

 

My god woman! If only my wife would think about herself in a nasty dirty kind of way!

To be honest, I’m a little confused. If doing this IMPROVES your sex life with your husband then I’m a little lost as to what the problem is. Isn’t improving our sex life why we’re all here? If PMO made all the dudes improve in the sack this site wouldn’t exist.

Honestly, if it’s not affecting your life adversely - causing you to miss work, social engagements etc. AND it improves your sex life with your husband, what’s the problem? I know that’s not what we’re supposed to say on this site, but it’s what I think.

If my wife told me that setting up an onlyfans or something like that would actually bring her libido back and improve our non existent sex life I would be out the door and half way to the camera store before she finished the sentence!!!

Good luck!

 

There's a time till which a thing appears to be enjoyable.My favourite food item is pizza but I can't eat it 24X7 for my life.If I try to do that I will hurt my system.And pizza is a food item.What if I ask the same question with a drug?
One starts camming for seeking attention because one feels that he/she is not getting attention.Earlier I used to think that models do this for horny feelings money.But when I checked for their ultimate goal (which they post on their profile),I found many genuine dreams like -being able to build a dream house,raising money for travelling and fun with people they love,many do this so that they can buy little little luxuries so that people give them value and importance.

They develop this mindset not because of their own wish but they are condemned to do this for surviving/fitting in the society and because they start thinking that this is how society works.Remember a pretty innocent 5 year old girl playing in the backyard never thinks that she will sell her body one day to feed her loneliness ,detachment.
And to add to this they get similar mind set customer.Now a time comes when such models may think that if customers on the other end like this, then everyone likes this.

Sorry to say but this is not the truth.When couples begin the relationship,the beginning is very important.When couples have fights then they subconsciously remember why they chose each other.If the beginning of the relationship was connecting they realize that they are made for each other.But to the contrary if the beginning of the relationship was based on just bodily,materialistic attraction and was a compromise then one feels like the relationship is not fruitful.Similarly when one couples with screen,and at later stage they realize that the relationship with the screen is not fruitful and giving back, they try to quit it.

Also there is other aspect-the partner aspect.Every being is different in this world and has different perception of giving and receiving and sharing affection.Some people are very comfortable till their partner are comfortable.But some are very deep personalities who wish that if I am committed and love my sweatheart and do all things for them, then why do they need someone else to share sex related things.The answer is that they should have been more open and positive and understanding their partner.

The world is not a black and white thing .It is a shady gray place with mixed type of emotion and people.

 

The door has got to swing both ways, if you are okay with camming behind his back you should allow him to talk to girls behind your back so he can get his sexual satisfaction desired as well. If you're not okay with that you shouldn't do things behind his back as well

 

What are your views on this thread @LouBee .This lady was a cam worker but she is no more active after 7 feb on nofap.