Dr. Todd L. Love (PsyD, JD, LPC) AMA! Ask an expert anything about porn addiction and rebooting!

Should information aboug Porn addiction be taught along with sex education at highschools?

 

Medically, why does "relapsing" once leads to relapsing more and more and going on a binge cycle?

 

So this doc sees things differently...hmm...is it OK if I get the questions rolling?

Hey doc, I'd like a different take on how to prevent giving in to the addiction, more specifically a different outlook on preventing relapses.
I know the standard one which is to distract yourself or motivate yourself trough any means possible: socially, intellectually etc. however I'd love to see it from a different POV.

Hey doc, without any doubt the "millennial generation" ought to be one of the more lonely generation due to the internet. I'd like to hear your opinion about loneliness and how it's related to addiction and a different POV on how one can break the chain.

Hey doc, how to remove social anxiety from my feels dictionary?

Hey doc, what's your stance on non-binary gender identity?

Hey doc, how can I make people engage in a social group?

Hey doc, how can I become more likeable by other people while not behaving nor having the same(good or bad) standards as they do?

Hey doc, why do we need people like you? In other words, what's causing the demand for counselling?

Hey doc, why do some sexually abused people become more active sexually while others become the exact opposite?

Hey doc, related to my previous question, why does the abused becomes the abuser? How do you break such chain?

Hey doc, what do you enjoy in life? Why?

Hey doc, how would you fight depression?

Hey doc, is the meaning of life 42?

 

What does sleep play in the addiction process, and any recommendations for a specific tactic for navigating internet, web maladies.

 

This is fantastic. My question: what is the best way in which one can learn to overcome triggers? In my case, I plan a "safety behaviour" but find it really difficult to follow through when triggered - what advice would you be able to give to help?

 

Is your last name really 'Love' or is that an alias?

 

Does edging like dry humping a bed slow down or hinder the recovery from PIED? I don't have a problem with refraining from PMO but I do have problems staying away from edging.

 

Hi Doc

Question is; I got bored of porn. But my concern is masturbation or edging. Am currently on 13 days but last few days was going to relapse but i kept stopping mid way and forcing myself to think it wont bring me benefit to continue.

Is this a positive sign? Today i feel mentally drained. I don't know if this is brain fog.

Can over masturbation lead to stomach / indigestion problems? I have been doing it for 14/15 years and sometimes upto 20 times a day and if I touch myself or have sex i get instant indigestion and stomach pain. My Dr doesn't think there's a link between the two.

Many thanks

 

How much is porn addiction tied into internet addiction?

How long does it usually take people to recover?

 

hello doc,my question is

okay so my penis doesn't erect when trying to have sex with a real person but I didn't fap for few days and when I was touching a girls feet and thinking about her sitting next to her it actually erected and I can get an erection just by touching my self or imagining (like porn is not necessary for an erection) but it doesn't work for real sex, and we have done a lot of Skype sex and my penis was rock hard during skyping
is this pied? or performance anxiety or too much fapping before hand ruining my potency

Thanks

 

I got caught down loading child porn. It was less than 10% of my pornography habbit. I was looking at pornography fifteen to twenty hours a week for fifteen years. I'm seeing a therapist and attending a SA meeting once a week. What can I do to stay out of jail and kick this habbit.

 

I work from home, online. I feel trapped by it. If it's not porn it's social media - even this site. I'm a recovering alcoholic and finding it very difficult to socialise. What's a good first step to tackle broader internet addiction, or should I just accept that wasting hours on Facebook is better than wasting hours at a porn site?

 

I'm on ssri but I'm Also not watching porn or masturbating... I have suffered from GAD,social anxiety/phobia, paranoia for a long time now...since I was 14 years old , the latter symptom came to happen after a stressful event 5 years ago...I have been watching porn and masturbaing forcefully at times since I was 14...masturbaing of course earlier...but since I joined this community I have been able to abstain from porn and masturbation for 96 days now...how long does it truly take to recover and does my ssri effect my recovery in any way??? I also have another question about wet dreams or nocturnal emmisions..I had my first one last night and am wondering if it is a good indicator of recovery...

 

I lost a big part (not all) of my sexual energy maybe 12 years ago (I´m 45 years old). Before that I was just fine. I had an active and quite intense sexual life. But about 12 years ago it felt like a relief to get rid of it, because it seemed to be impossible to get a good relationship with a woman anyway. I was disillusioned. I think I lost it because of excessive use of internet porn and also because love was depressing. I actually wanted to get rid of the sexual impulse, and thought I could numb it down with lots of PMO. And it worked very well. But now I need it again. I have found a woman that I trust! Will it come back? Physically Im fine. I can get an erection from porn, and women are very exciting emotionally, but unfortunately I have separated physical sex from physical women in my mind or brain. I wasnt like that before. Emotionally everything is fine. Closeness and intimacy is no problem. But when I have a naked woman in my arms I dont get an erection nowadays. I can get it from porn, but I need a lot more stimulation than I used to need. I hope I will recover. Will I?

 

Dr. Love, is there any evidence linking mental health issues (such as autism, OCD, bipolar disorder, etc) to porn addiction? Do you have any personal experience/knowledge on the subject yourself?

what kind of background or backstory do those who suffer from porn/internet addiction? is there a common theme among them? like do men who have had little to no sexual history become addicted easier and such?

What is the best mentality in order to stop porn addiction? Say is there certain process most go through before they end up quitting?

 

How long does Flat lining stay if someone has been masturbating/ watching pornographic materials ( magazines , porn , tv etc ) since the age of 11. ? Is Flat lining a good thing ?

 

what do you think about semen being nourishing to the body? like the semen being "sucked" into the body and the brain and other body parts being nourished by it? like what do you think about semen being "life energy"?

i am sincerely hoping that you don't write it off as woowoo hippie jargon.